Kathy's Lesbian Life Blog

Happy Independence Day! Around the US people will celebrate the 4th of July with fireworks. How about adding some fireworks to your love life? Are you and your partner in a sex slump? Here are some tips for keeping the fireworks alive in your long-term lesbian relationship.

More Lesbian Love Tips

• Sex Tips for New Lovers
• Tips for Keeping Love Alive
• Tips for Long Term Lesbian Relationship Success

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When I interviewed musician Bitch about a year ago, she was excited about the album she was producing for lesbian icon Ferron. During that interview she said, "I’m so moved by Ferron by her music and her poetry and I really want people in my generation to understand her music...It took me two years to even be able to stand next to Ferron without blushing. Because I had a total talent crush on her. You know those people that you’re just like OMG, you’re such a genius. Boy do I love her!"

Well, I'm happy to report that Ferron's new album is now out and available and getting great reviews. About's Folk Music Guide Kim Ruehl loves Ferron's new CD Boulder.

More Ferron and Bitch

• Interview with Bitch
• Bitch and Daniela Sea
• Ferron: Turning into Beautiful album review

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If you meet someone at a club and get her cell phone number, how long should you wait to text her? Are there any set rules? Does how long you wait to respond indicate your level of interest? What are the text messaging dos and don'ts for lesbian dating? There's a great discussion going on in the Lesbian Life Forum on this topic. Join in!

More Lesbian Dating:

• Who pays for a lesbian date?

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I'm heading to San Francisco this weekend for one of the best gay pride celebrations in the world. San Francisco is one of the gayest cities in the world all ready, then add all the out of town visitors for the gay pride celebrations, and you've got one hot LGBT scene! There's so much to do in San Francisco no matter when you visit.

Like I said, San Francisco has one of the best gay pride celebrations in the world. What other Gay Pride Celebrations are top-notch?

San Francisco may be one of the gayest places on earth and a great lesbian vacation destination. Where else will lesbians have a great vacation?
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Do gay men and lesbians get along better than straight couples? When you think about books like Men are from Mars, Women are From Venus that highlight the differences between men and women and how they relate, you might think that putting two women from Venus together will make for a conflict-free relationship. Well, maybe not conflict-free, but at least one study seems to indicate that when conflicts arise, we do a better job than our opposite sex counterparts. The Gottman Institute out of Seattle determined that same-sex couples handle conflict better than straight couples.

What do you think? If you've been in relationships with both men and with women, do you think women relate to each other better? Add your comments below.
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Meeting lesbians when you live in a big city isn't usually too hard. You can go to a gay youth group, the gay and lesbian center or a local lesbian bar. But what about if you're a lesbian coming out in a small town? Where do you meet other lesbians? Sally in Little Rock wrote in asking for help in meeting women. There is no community center and she hasn't had luck with internet dating. So where can you meet other lesbians and bisexual women in small and conservative towns?
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Do you live in California or are you going there to get married? Want to share your story with the world? For the past year, I've been collecting lesbian wedding stories and pictures. I would love to include you and your bride! Send me your wedding photos and stories.

Here's a story I received today. Kathryn and Jeani were the second couple in line in Solano County, California for marriage licenses on Tuesday when gay and lesbian marriage became legal in California. Hear about their experience on the historic day same-sex marriage became legal in California.

More Lesbian Wedding Stories

• Claudia and Lindsay were married in South Africa.
• Lesbian author Cheril N. Clarke and her wife had a fairy tale wedding.
• Angi and Sarah went to Canada to be married.
• Laura and Kelli won a contest and had their wedding paid for.
• Jennifer and Christine are an all-American love story.

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The weather was perfect, the political climate is improving and the gay community came out to celebrate Portland Gay Pride 2008. I headed downtown on my bike (After all, in addition to being a gay-friendly city, Portland is one of the most bike-friendly in the nation) and had a great time taking photos of all the beautiful people out enjoying the day. Here's just a snapshot of festive Portland, Oregon Gay Pride Celebration 2008.
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When I went away to college, one of the things I was most worried about was my new roommate. Who would she be? Would we get along? Like the same music? Would she be messy? Smoke? Party too much? I met her the day we were both moving in. She got there first, so got the bed by the window. We ended up getting along okay, but never became close friends. I spent most of my time in the pool with the swim team and she spent hours on the phone with her boyfriend at another college. I didn't have to come out to her because I was just coming out myself. I can't imagine how stressful it would have been if on top of everything else, I had to face coming out to her as lesbian. How would she have reacted to that? If you're straight and your college roommate comes out as gay, lesbian or bisexual, how will you deal with it? Here are some tips for when your roommate comes out as lesbian, gay or bisexual.
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I couldn't be there, but I wish I could have. On this historic day when gays and lesbians are legally able to marry in California I asked my friend to go down to San Francisco City Hall today to take pictures. She was more than happy to oblige, since her good friends Stuart Gaffney and John Lewis were one of the couples getting married. Take a look at the happy day in California for hundreds of same-sex couples.
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