Civil Unions versus Marriage

What is a civil union?

A civil union is a legal status created by the state of Vermont in 2000. It provides legal protection to
couples at the state law level, but omits federal protections as well as the dignity, clarity, security and
power of the word “marriage.”

What are some of the limitations of civil unions?

Civil unions are different from marriage, and that difference has wide-ranging implications that make the
two institutions unequal. Here is a quick look at some of the most significant differences:

Portability:
Marriages are respected state to state for all purposes, but questions remain about how civil unions will
be treated in other states. GLAD believes there are strong arguments that civil unions deserve respect
across the country just like marriages. But the two appellate courts that have addressed the issue (in
Connecticut and Georgia) have disrespected them based on the fact that their states do not grant civil
unions themselves.

Ending a Civil Union:
If you are married, you can get divorced in any state in which you are a resident. But if states continue to
disrespect civil unions, there is no way to end the relationship other than by establishing residency in
Vermont and filing for divorce there. This has already created problems for some couples who now have
no way to terminate their legal commitment.

Federal Benefits:
According to a 1997 GAO report, civil marriage brings with it at least 1,049 legal protections and
responsibilities from the federal government, including the right to take leave from work to care for a
family member, the right to sponsor a spouse for immigration purposes, and Social Security survivor
benefits that can make a difference between old age in poverty and old age in security. Civil unions bring
none of these critical legal protections.

Taxes & Public Benefits for the Family:
Because the federal government does not respect civil unions, a couple with a civil union will be in a kind
of limbo with regard to governmental functions performed by both state and federal governments, such as
taxation, pension protections, provision of insurance for families, and means-tested programs like
Medicaid. Even when states try to provide legal protections, they may be foreclosed from doing so in joint
federal/state programs.

Filling out forms:
Every day, we fill out forms that ask us whether we are married or single. People joined in a civil union
don’t fit into either category. People with civil unions should be able to identify themselves as a single
family unit, but misrepresenting oneself on official documents can be considered fraud and carries
potential serious criminal penalties.

Separate & Unequal — Second-Class Status:
Even if there were no substantive differences in the way the law treated marriages and civil unions, the
fact that a civil union remains a separate status just for gay people represents real and powerful
inequality. We’ve been down this road before in this country and should not kid ourselves that a separate
institution just for gay people is a just solution here either. Our constitution requires legal equality for all.
Including gay and lesbian couples within existing marriage laws is the fairest and simplest thing to do.

How real are these differences between marriage and civil unions, given that a
federal law and some state laws discriminate against all marriages of same-sex
couples?

Would any of this change immediately with marriage of same-sex couples? Probably not, because
married same-sex couples will face other layers of discrimination against their marriages. Right now, a
federal law denies recognition of same-sex unions conferred by any state for purposes of all federal
programs and requirements and over 30 state laws do the same. Ending discrimination in marriage does
not mean the end of all discrimination, but using the term “marriage” rather than “civil union” is an
essential first step to opening the door and addressing whether continued governmental discrimination
against civil marriages of gay and lesbian people makes sense.
Marriage and civil unions remain different, both in practice and in principle.
First, more than a dozen states have not taken a discriminatory position against civil marriages of gay and
lesbian couples. In those states, civilly married gay and lesbian couples should be able to live and travel
freely and without fear that their relationship will be disrespected.
Second, even as to those states with discriminatory laws, legally married gay and lesbian couples from
those states may well face some discrimination in some quarters, but their marriages will also be treated
with legal respect in other arenas. Marriages are far more likely to be respected by others than newly
minted “civil unions.”
Using the term marriage also prompts a discussion about fairness. Allowing same sex couples to marry
(rather than enter a separate status) will allow gay and lesbian people to talk with their neighbors, their
local elected officials, and the Congress about whether discrimination against their marriages is fair.
Where gay and lesbian people and their children are part of the social fabric, is it right to continue
discriminating against them in civil marriage? The federal government and states that have taken
discriminatory positions against marriages of gay and lesbian couples could rethink those policies and go
back to respecting state laws about marriage, as they have done for hundreds of years. In the end, we
will not be able to have this discussion until gay and lesbian folks have what everyone else has: civil
marriage.