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How do you know if you are a lesbian, straight or bisexual? Today's question comes from a young woman wondering is she is gay.

Hi, this might be a very stupid question but I have to ask. Im 17 and I think I'm gay but I'm not sure.† Sometimes I think that I am gay and I'm sure of it but sometimes I think that it might be a phase. I know for sure that girls excite me but, I feel a little attraction to guys. Am I going through a phase or am I gay? How would i know? Here's my answer to the question, "How do I know if I'm a lesbian?

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May 9, 2006 at 6:13 pm
(1) colleen says:

i am a lesbian and i like it is so fun having sex wot girls you will like it !!!

September 30, 2006 at 12:48 pm
(2) Emma says:

I had sex wiv a girl m8 th eother day and it was great we liked each others virginas and everything we also snog alot lesbian life is fab!

May 13, 2007 at 9:23 pm
(3) sam says:

hey I’m 17 too and I have that EXACT felling I think that this is not a phase, but I cant say that for you. Now are you sexually attracted to men or is it just “OMG he is SO hot?” only you can answer this question dont worry about it thing happen for a reason. go with the flow.

September 7, 2007 at 2:12 pm
(4) michelle says:

hi, im very confused i started mestubating when i was 13 years old now im 30yrs.i’ve got two lovely kids. and i’ve been having this feeling for women for a very long tym and now i think its the right tym to have what i was looking for,for a very long time. the question is how do i start?

September 11, 2007 at 9:38 am
(5) Lauren says:

I feel exactly the same about you, But now i dont i just push the guys aside coz it makes me feel sick to think about gettin it on with guys.. As it doesnt with girls. x keep your chin up.

November 18, 2007 at 7:56 pm
(6) candace says:

hello.
i am also 17

and i have a similar problem i woudl like an answer to.
I have been dating my bf for almost 3 years now
and i love him more than anyting in the world and woudlnt ever do anythignt o hurt him.
But, i constantly find myself fantisizing about the girls body..
even my own sometimes
i dont know if there is anythgin wrong with me
i dont think.. actually i knwo for a fact that i woudltn ever have sex with aa girl
i jsut dont liek the thought of that
but i think about girls body A LOT and they are jsut so hot to me
but i love sex with a man
and im nto sure what to think
confused >.

November 28, 2007 at 1:44 pm
(7) spicy says:

does my heart make a flip-flop when I am with a girl I like..yes, and how!! I think of her almost the whole day. I want to kiss her, make love to her, and just be with her. I have always thought that I wasn’t so much interested in guys..which makes it a problem coz how do I know that I’m straight if I have never fallen for a guy before. I have usually rationalised that I haven’t met the guy for me that’s why I don’t feel anything for the guys that I have met beforehand..
but now, I am uncurably attracted to this girl, she feels the same way too and so we are sort of dating. I’m so afraid, I fantasise about kissing her and all but i think that perhaps it won’t be the same when i actually do it with her and so I try to postphone the event..am I a lesbian? I don’t know..but what i know is I love her and I want to be with her, if that means I am a lesbian, then yes!!!

February 10, 2008 at 2:36 pm
(8) claire says:

hey
im only 15 but i also have feelings for sertain girls but i also have feelings for boys so i have desided im bi

mabey thats what you are?
anyone get any tipe on how to come out? all my friends know already but im scared to tell my mum and dad

February 27, 2008 at 8:04 pm
(9) Rach says:

ok who knows whether we’ll get an answer, but what the heck.
I’m 18, I’ve always had what I first felt to be an unusual attatchment to girl-mates. I never really thought much of it, until the feelings seemed to get stronger. I’m quite happy excepting if im bi or gay but as the saying goes “innocent until proven guilty” my problem is how do i go about finding myself, answering my question. All my friends are straight so they dont really understand why i dont just know.
Well if anyone does check this out, some advice will definately be appreciated.

x

March 1, 2008 at 6:30 am
(10) Rachie says:

Hey,
I’m 15 too and soo confused. I sort of always assumed i was straight until i accidentally watched an episode of the L word and found myself wanting to watch it again (now i’m addicted to it!) But yeah, then i realised that the sex scenes made me hot and i started thinking OK, maybe i’m gay. And i started reviewing my life and how when i was 12 me and my friend (girl) kissed (to see what it was like kissing, not necessarily kissing a girl) but i wanted to do it again. And then i watched gray matters, and he mentions he knew she was gay when she had a crush on her teacher and i realised i too, had had crushes on my female teachers. and now i fantasize about kissing my friend (girl)… but i still think “ooh that guys really hot” etc. and then i think maybe i just think i’m gay cos i enjoy watching the L word and then i’m read about straight people who watch the L word and argh I really don’t know! Maybe that makes me bi?? please help!!

May 20, 2008 at 11:38 pm
(11) Holly says:

Why is it that with every homosexual instance, the first thing anyone says is about sex itself? You can be homosexual without having sex, you just have feelings for people of the same sex. You love a different way, and whether you express it physically or not is a different matter entirely. I’m fourteen years old and I feel the same way sometimes. But I don’t know anything the next kid doesn’t.

May 26, 2008 at 12:26 pm
(12) Sarah says:

I’ve decided that i am gay! I have had certain feelings for female teachers of mine in the past and i have a massive crush on my PE teacher who is also a lesbian. But i dont actually know if she come on to me wether i would actually kiss her or whatever! I have come out to my parents about being gay and they are all alright with it took some time to get used to! I told my mom first and she already had her suspisons about me batting for the other team and she seems to be correct! I have never actually done anythin with a girl i am waiting for the right person to do it with but i am 99.9% sure i am a lesbian. It can be a hard choice and has took me about 5 years to face the fact that i am actually gay! I dream about how i would like my life to be and be in a stable relationship with the girl of my dreams. Life can be hard but it will all be worth it in the long run! KEEP SMILING!

June 13, 2008 at 2:53 pm
(13) Anna says:

can anyone whos lesbian change and become straight? if yes how? and how can you know someone’s lesbian by looking at her?

June 17, 2008 at 4:04 pm
(14) kay says:

my boyfriend took me to the strip club and bought me a lap dance.. and i loved it. and i cant stop thinking baout this girl.. i want to go back to see her, and i think about being with her….
but i am straight..
i dont know.. maybe i’m not

June 19, 2008 at 9:58 pm
(15) cortney says:

hey im cortney and im 13 and i dont know if im bi or a lez so right now im very strest out and i dont know to react so any have a
coment u no ask

June 23, 2008 at 9:28 am
(16) Joseph says:

Don’t try to define yourself as lesbian or straith. Love life, be generous. You can experiment if you want, but don’t define yourself.

June 23, 2008 at 9:43 am
(17) Zenn says:

Really, u should just be cool and stop trying so hard to figure out. I’m 28 now, and i only accepted the fact that i’m a lesbian when i was 21 I broke up with my bf to be with the girl (of course she left me in the end..)
Anyway, the point is, dun bother with labels and stuffs like that, just keep loving with all your heart ok babe! :)

July 1, 2008 at 12:36 am
(18) sunbal says:

girls
any one have feel, what are the main purpose to create opposite sex by GOD. any one try to search it. r v social animal or social human.
sex is realy fun but at what value ask yourself. sisters search it

July 2, 2008 at 11:00 am
(19) katrina says:

im 18 and i was always kind of eeeew yukk girl on girl thats gross but the more i thought about how wrong it was the more i noticed how attracted i was, see i was being a homophobe because i was too scared to admit it to myself , but i went over seas last year and just after my going away party i ended up kissing one of my friends (girl) and the feeling was so intense for both of us she was nervous i was shaking lol but the way i explained it to her was that , im not gay , im not bi , im not straight even , im just livin and im attracted to a person not a gender so girls feel free to love whom ever you fall for , love is amazing embrace it :) happy days happy days bye now

July 2, 2008 at 11:16 am
(20) Me says:

It is nice to hear all the comments from girls, who, like me are so freakin confused. My situation is a bit different. I am married, have two kids, a professional job, blah, blah, blah. Seems like such the perfect straight life. But I have always had feelings towards girls and guys were just “convenient” and “acceptable” but there was always something not quite right in my relationships. My mom asked me when I was younger if I was gay or bi and I was like no, I am just curious. Recently I met this fantastic girl and now I am having this soap opera affair. I feel guilty but at the same time, I have never felt so complete with another person sexually in my whole life. It’s the first time I have felt so safe. Weird. So, am I a lesbian. Does it even matter. Maybe we just love who we love; there is no need to categorize.

July 6, 2008 at 12:17 am
(21) Mya says:

hello im 14 almost 15. i have a boyfriend that i been going out with for a lil over a yr. i have always thought women were sexy and butiful. but latly i realy have falen 4 this girl but i think she is strate but idk cuz we use to always jock around that we were together she would kiss me on ym lips i never thought of it more than jst frends having fun untill we were not friends. we use to be bestfriends but we got into a fight cuz of my boifriend and we never 4gave eachother. then thier is this other girl she is bi. and she thinks im into her. she is alrite more like jst a friend. i almsot had sex with her once (long story) but i know this is more than jst a faze i dont think of my bf as some on to b in love wiht enymore i dont even feal confterable when he tuches me, the worst part is the girl im in love with dont talk to me she peaticle hates me. it hearts soo much. i cut myself cuz of wht i have done, let her go.
i just want her to b mine. i hope she is bi but i really dont know.
=/ very confuzed consumplated and sad

July 7, 2008 at 5:21 pm
(22) marie. says:

sit it out ad if you still feel the same way in a few mounth the give girls a try ,and if not forget it just do what makes you happy

July 16, 2008 at 8:15 am
(23) summer says:

hey, im 17 and i have a boyfriend which ive been with for over a year now. every time we have sex i think of girls, and i cant help but feel like im turning gay. but i never feel emotionally attracted to girls its just a physical thing, but i dont know weather to go for it a risk losing my boyfriend or keep it a secret.

July 20, 2008 at 2:11 am
(24) Babiface says:

I am done playin around, i want something serious now, i always been interested n chicks. and took me along time to consider da fact i am bisexual. but now i am still confussed. i want a real relationship with someone but dnt no wat gender. in this usa world i c myself with a male, and living in peace. and then in my dreams i picture myself with a chick. i had plenti of dreams kissing a gurl. i am a virgin with dudesz but not with chicksz. i love intercourse with gurlsz, and i am just plain scared to do it with a dude. (not da pregancy dude) but i have alot of friendsz who did it wit dudesz and regretted. and i dnt want any regrets in my life. and dudes sometimes dont interest me i use to judge a dude quickly now i just c them as them. Their might b a few that stick out. but i just cant picture myself with one. my mom is homophobic and if i come out that i am a lesbian it will be chaotic. i want to follow my heart but then i dnt want to break any.

July 22, 2008 at 4:43 pm
(25) lou lou says:

hi im a 36 year old female, i had a girlfriend when i was 14 we lasted for 2 years then i met a lad who i got along really well with and just because it was expected of me i eventually married him and we had two kids, i often fancied other women during my marriage but always stayed faithful but i never felt truely happy, until recently that is my husband left me for another woman and i started going out partying and stuff and i have met this wonderful women who i feel very strongly about and she feels the same it has took 20 years for me to finally be the person i was meant to be

July 24, 2008 at 12:54 pm
(26) Saya says:

hi i’m a 12 year old girl and i’m confused i’m not sure if i’m a lesbian or if i am bi but there was this girl at camp she was really amazing her name was lizbet i tried everything so she would notice me but it still didn’t work but i got a picture of her and i can’t wait till it develops but i don’t wanna be a lesbian or bi i just wanna stick with guys and to make to worse i watch porne on youtube but lesbian porne i’m just really confused

July 25, 2008 at 5:27 am
(27) mDenise says:

I’m confused on this subject also. I’m a 17 year old who’s struggling with trying to figure out my place.

i’ve dated guys and i’ve dated one girl. Out of all the guys i dated (4) i only was sexually attracted to one..of course after we had been dating for a long time. The girl i fell deeply in love with and there was a point where i was sexually attracted to her.

The first time i kissed a girl, it wasn’t that great because she was my friend AND she wasn’t necessarily the type of girl i liked. So i never did anything with her. I’ve also never done anything with a guy.

Theres also the fact that i think about women more than men. I find myself trying to attract women more often than a male. Also when i have a “crush” on a girl i KNOW i have a crush on her. But when it comes to a guy, i’m confused as to how much i like him. Like, can i see myself being romantically involved with a guy? or is he just a friend.

i can’t ever see myself having sex with a guy now that i think about it. Maybe its cause i haven’t..but who knows? can someone help me? i’m tired of being confused.

July 25, 2008 at 12:50 pm
(28) Cindy says:

Hello all you confused girls. I’m 49 years old and I had the same feelings when I was 15. Since I was from a small town and coming out was not accepted I strugged with my sexuality most of my life. It was so painful to go through life trying to be straight. I got married had two beautiful kids which I’m grateful for, but deep inside I wasn’t happy. After going through 3 relationships with men, I finally got the guts to say f***k this, I’M A LESBIAN!!!I’m so much happier now, and I wish I would have done it long ago. My best advice to you is, BE TRUE TO YOURSELF AND DON’T FAKE THE FUNK! Good-luck! It’s sooooooo much better being with a woman.

July 27, 2008 at 7:23 pm
(29) caz says:

Im 15, and im going with a girl. to be honest it feels really right. I do think im confused abit. but i cant stop thinking of her. shes amazing.its really amazing being with a girl.

July 29, 2008 at 1:18 pm
(30) Emma says:

Hey, i am only 14, when i was 13 i decied tht i was a bi but even then i hardly had any feelings for boys but i was to scared of wht people would think, i have now come out and told people tht i am close to ‘i am a lezbian’ but i find it hard to have relationships with girls because i dont know anyone tht is even bi or gay, so i am kind of looking if anyone interested can add me on msn or summin if they like (the addy: patriciaemma@hotmail.co.uk) xx

July 29, 2008 at 11:26 pm
(31) mariah says:

im 15 years old. when i was little i use to wish i was a boy, and how much i wanted to end up with a girl. but now i like being a girl but i still have feelings for girls, but i also am attracted to boys. ive dated both a boy and a girl. and i like going with he girl more. does that make me bi or lez?

August 1, 2008 at 10:21 am
(32) Amy says:

Hi, I’m not a Lesbian (I’m straight) but I’ve heard that a lot of Girls have fantasies about being with other women but it doesn’t necessarily mean that they are a Lesbian =)

Hope that helped X

August 7, 2008 at 12:04 am
(33) Michael says:

im a guy and i say you all should add me on myspace lol :P ;]]

August 13, 2008 at 1:52 am
(34) Amy says:

Ya well im 21 and i have always thought girls were hott without really being sexually attracted to them. I recently had two of my friends tell me that they were bi and I have made out with both of them, plus a little more with the other. All I can say is that I liked it alot, but I still dont think im gay. I think that for some people, like me, enjoying another girl sexually is only attractive because it is so dangerously forbidden and scandalous. So maybe you all should just figure out if you actually like girls or like the “playing with fire” aspect of the whole situation.

August 18, 2008 at 3:34 pm
(35) justagirl says:

I am 22 and when I was younger, I went through wondering if I was going through a normal phase or maybe if I were truly into girls. I began to ask myself questions and put some thought into what it truly meant to be bisexual and what it meant to be a lesbian and the differences between them. I confided in some people whom I was close with and I was told by a couple of them that bisexual just means you’ll mess with anything… that bisexuals were pretty much disgusting animals. But I myself made up my mind that if a decent straight person is someone capable of loving & being attracted to someone of only the opposite sex, a gay person is someone capable of loving & being attracted to someone only of the same sex then most likely, a bisexual is someone whom is capable of loving & being attracted to either or sex and this doesn’t necessarily mean you have a girlfriend and a boyfriend at the same time. Whether or not you choose to be romantically involved with more than one person period depends upon your type. If you’re a monogamous type of person (meaning the type to settle down and commit to one person) then you can still indeed be bisexual. Whether your are heterosexual, bisexual, or homosexual, no relationship should be solely built off sexual desire alone. So, a good question to ask yourself when you’re wondering is whom am I capable of loving as well as having a physical attraction and draw too and what are my desires?

August 23, 2008 at 4:01 pm
(36) patricia says:

hey! i dont know what it is but i love watching lesbian porn. it makes me so horny and excited and then sometimes i fantasize about being with a girl and sometimes want to try stuff with a girl but i dont know if i can actually ever do it. am i gay? like i dont know.

September 1, 2008 at 8:18 am
(37) dianne says:

hi
well im 27 and still confussed myself. when i was 18 i had a realaationship with another girl we wa together 4 10 month and fell in love. since then i have have short realationships with men and also slept with another girl.
i got it into my head that i was doing something wrong was i bi?
then just recently i met this girl and had a one night stand its not what i wanted but dont think it will turn into anything. iv never felt so happy them two days after i dont get his feeling with men.Its so frustrating.

September 1, 2008 at 9:05 am
(38) Ashley from kentucky says:

Yeah, I know how you feel I grew up not knowing if I was lesbian or not. I messed with a couple gurls. Then I got with a alright guy had a child then found out that I wasnt into guys I love the way females are. They are beautiful in every way. Now that I am 21 I have been with a few females. I am with someone now who I have been with for over a year and we are talking about having our own family and getting her pregnant.

September 3, 2008 at 11:58 am
(39) Cathy says:

I thinK MAyBE UR BiseXUAl

September 4, 2008 at 5:16 pm
(40) Manpreet says:

well im 15 and like im not sure if im bi or not. theres this chick who was in my 6-8th grade class. and like she was so gorgeous, and like we were friends and stuff but like i knew i really liked her.but the thing is that we both act like homophobics(kinda) so i dont think shes gay. shes way too gorgeous to be gay :[ and i remember 7th grade summer i saw a pic of her and this guy she was going out with and my heart literally just dropped and i just broke in tears. but ive never felt like this with a guy its always been oh yea hes cute and thats it never serious like her,but im a sophmore in hs now and i usually see her when shes going to the train and me to my hs.and the first time i saw her when i became a sophmore i got so happy like my heart literally started beating so fast, and when she saw me she like ran to me and hugged me so tight :[ and i just loved being in her arms and we had a great conversation and now that i know shes goes the same way im starting to g othat way unless i look like shit. but i dont know if im bi and do i just like her because i wanna be like her or do i actually have strong feelings?

September 5, 2008 at 7:55 pm
(41) jem says:

iv kinda always know tht i was gay. i nvr had th ‘gushin’ ova a boy at skool thing like my otha frends.
it took along time to bring it out int th open. to tlk abt gay things, books, films, gay issues etc. i dnt hav trbl ‘aceptin’ it, cos it had always bin thr, but th reaction of others reali got me..
i rbma my mom askin me wen i wos 16 but i denined it. im 32 now n im jus beginin t embracde my slf.. im more open abt it wth certain frends. esp my gay n bi frends.
most my frends nu n e way or hada feelin tht i mite b.
i think wot held me bak wos my parents reaction. part of me thinks tht they r atleast my mom knows.. n im not quite sure how theyl take it.. but im thinkin more n more of tellin thm cos its sucha stumblin blok for me.. myb wen i do tht thn il finally b free. (corni so i apologise)
i so need to let it go..

i ges wot im tryin to say is take ur time.. it not n e thin tht u need t truly dcd strait away (no pun intended!!) ul kno i ur own time wich way t fly.. stay tru t urslf..

take care.. XX

September 9, 2008 at 1:52 pm
(42) hally says:

im 16 i keep gettig these strange feelings around girls, i’ve never been interested with boys, and girls just seem to turn the light on.
i really like my best friend for i while, then one night i asked her if she’d like to be my partner.
she didn’t answer. i felt really stupid. we’re still best friends but things don’t seem the same around us any more. if ever anyone mentions anything about lesbians or gays i tense up.
people think lesbians and gays are stupid these days and they just jip them. i really dont want to tell anyone cuz im scared they’ll either never talk to me, laugh at me, or just take it as if im joking.
i dont want anyone else to feel how my best friend feels now whenever she’s around me
some one help

September 13, 2008 at 9:48 pm
(43) Bibi says:

I’m 21, and I don’t now what to say you girls, for me it started few years ago. I was so into guys before, just never been intimate with a guy, never really dating, just around 10 making outs , really hot making outs:). But after seeing me that I can not make a relationships with any of this or any guy even if they made me feel hot, I tried to think about other girls and real feelings like love..and so on. I’ ve never been with a girl but after this much time I think that my body and soul can not survive with out sex any more, just don’t seem normal. One of my gay friends ones asked me ” ohhh why don’t U still don’t have a solid relationship and a regular sex? Are U lesbian?” ANd I really don’t know yet but who knows, in the end all it meters that we find happiness ..that’s what I think.
Cheers

September 23, 2008 at 4:39 pm
(44) jjjjjjj says:

hi im 13 and im not sure about my sexuality but i have this thing for my maths teacher were i just cant stop thinking about her, i even dream about her! im SOO happy wen im with her but am sad because i know i have to leave soon. i just want to be with her all the time! this might sound crazy but it feels like im in love and im crazy about her. but im so confused and dont know what to do because i have been hiding if for about a year now and its driving me nuts! any advice?

September 27, 2008 at 2:35 pm
(45) Katieee says:

I have always thought i was straight because thats what is ‘normal’ and what ‘everyone’ else is. However as time passes and i meet more people im starting to think that i might be a lesbian. I play football for a womens team and all bar 2 are lesbians so im always around lesbians and talking about what they get up to and things. I find a womens body so much more sexier than a mans and do fantaize about being with a women, and i do want to make that fantasy a reality. However this is not so much the sexual side with a women, just the intense relationship that i have seen lesbians can have and i am starting to desire that. I do think that guys can be really fit but i never think beyond that with a guy but i do if i saw a fit girl. also a mans dick is just so ugly and the thought of giving blowjobs makes me sick… although the thought of normal sex with a man i liked is fine. i also havent said a word to any family or friends so i feel kinda alone, its all very confussing but i guess life will find its path

October 14, 2008 at 2:22 pm
(46) Kate says:

hi
i am 17 and i think i am a lesbian.i have dated with some guys but nothing more,for about 2 years i have started to think about girls very hard,but i dont know any les/bi girls around me. :( any ideas?

October 24, 2008 at 2:03 pm
(47) KAITLYN :0 says:

I am 14 and i think im a lesbian. ive felt like this 4, 3 years and im not sure. like i ll see a hot guy and ill think “ooohh he’s cute” but then i started 2 like my friend more than friends and experiance diffrent feelings HELP ME PLZ

November 8, 2008 at 1:35 am
(48) Hanna says:

I am at a very similar position. I just got out of a two year long relationship with a guy, and for two weeks of that relationship (about 6 months before it was over) I dated a girl (yess, at the same time, its a longgg story). But my point is that after going all the way with her, and after we broke up, it just didn’t feel the same with my boyfriend. I stopped wanting to have sex with him, for him to even touch me, I lost all interest. Now that I’m single I am somewhat attracted to guys, but I find myself fantasizing about being with a girl again. I miss the bond and the feeling sooo much. My whole life I knew that I liked girls, I just knew it. However, I never had a true emotional bond with a girl, it was mostly sexual attraction.I am starting to think that I really am lesbian because after dating that girl all I can think about is girls. What sucks is that I have no gaydar, so I have no way of telling which girls might be interested and which are just friendly. I guess I have yet to figure out and sink completely into that scene.. but honestly, what do you guys think? Do you think I’m a lesbian if I lost all interest (and pleasure) of having sex with a guy after having sex with a girl?

November 15, 2008 at 12:21 am
(49) coco says:

i am 16 year old girl and have a crush on this girl and i think she likes me back but i have dated boys before doe this mean im gay

November 19, 2008 at 6:07 pm
(50) jess says:

Hey im 15 too , but really really confused, i never really thought much about being gay to be honest it never crossed my mind but about a year ago i started playin rugby and all my friends where gay, so it became normal in my environment, then one day i was speakin to of the girls and we decided to start dating, i honestly thought i had fallen in love with her but then about amonth later i cheated on her with a nother girl! and now i find myslef constanly thinkin her but not in a sexual way so my friends say tha i don’t love her.
but then i had a new (female) teacher and i can’t stop thinking about her, and in a sexual way, i feel like i actualy love her. But i still find boys hot! please help me i am so confused and i just want a answer.

November 25, 2008 at 11:52 pm
(51) raya says:

im 17 and im realy confused. it started after watching south of nowhere, i startd seen girls differently, almost as if there can be more. i thought mayb it was just crazy thoughts or fantasies. in skool i had a crush on my teacher and it wouldnt go away. there were fantasies i use to get of boys dat are now wit girls. i dont know wat to do. is it because i want attention. or am i misin luv in ma life. i still think guys r bangin. but i dont like sex wit guys at all.

November 30, 2008 at 7:55 pm
(52) Confused Q says:

I’m a straight 22 yr old woman in a 3yr relationship with a man. All of a sudden recently I started sexually thinking about women! I’ve NEVER been with a woman in my life and I love my man plus he satisfies me. HELP!!!

December 5, 2008 at 3:33 pm
(53) Uh ohs. says:

I’m confused aswell, idk if I’m bi, or lez. I know sex isn’t all that, but sex with a guy totally grosses me out, yet pleases me. As for a woman.. kind of confuses me but sounds hotter. I still think guys can be cute and stuff, and used to just love my ex bf. Now I like this girl, she’s so damn hot and I love her personality. But I still don’t know what to think of myself.

December 16, 2008 at 11:45 pm
(54) Tilly says:

hey. Im 15 never been with a girl, but i have thought about alot. Like alot alot!!! i have had some pretty strong feelings about my friends, i have made myself funny one just so they wan2 be around me. I havnt dun anythin with a guy or a girl, the idea of being with a guy just disgusts me. But a girl on the othr hand sounds amzing. I just have know idea wat 2 do, my mom is a republican, mormon homophobic 50 yer old. If i tell her i will never c her again. i need help

December 22, 2008 at 12:17 am
(55) anyomous says:

gurl u str8. im doin da same thing. and im 16 i still like haveing sex with my boyfriend but something about a gurl just rouses me. i get a different kinda horny. who know a females body better than nouther female?

December 25, 2008 at 1:25 am
(56) jess says:

i kind of feel the same way but im scared to say anything

December 28, 2008 at 9:55 pm
(57) Jessica says:

I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years and 4 months, and I love him more than anyone in the world. I want to get married to him and have his children in the future. But I am confused about my sexuality because lesbian porn turns me on, and I keep having dreams about being with a girl, and these dreams make me really excited! I don’t want to be with anyone but my boyfriend, but I think I may be bisexual, or maybe just curious about what it is like to be with a girl sexually. I have talked to my boyfriend about this and he does not mind if I explore with another female, but I’m too scared to try something new! I want to know, but I am afraid to find out whether or not I am bisexual!

December 29, 2008 at 4:35 pm
(58) amber says:

i am 16 and i knew at a very young age i would often make out with my friends one time i even had sisters lol but seriously for some people its easy to doscover for others its not all i kno is that you cant over think it to much youll drive urself crazy! so just go with the flow try it out if your feeling a little to uncomfortable then maybe its not for u and is just a phase

December 30, 2008 at 2:18 pm
(59) Pol says:

Hey! im 23, and, when i started to date, i date guys.. but.. there was something wrong.. i never felt in love or so happy.. so i never had a relationship over 6 months..

so, 2 years ago, i started to feel something for this girl, friend of mine.. and two months later we fell in love..

this december we celebrate 2 year anniversary and it sooo right and we are so in love and now i understand why i never fell with a guy.

in the other hand, my family doesnt know anything cause they are extremely religious and i think its too much for them to deal with.. so im happy and they are happy

Pol.

January 3, 2009 at 2:35 pm
(60) tiffany says:

hey im 17.. and i use to be like that im a lesbian and in a very wonderful relationship. when i was younger i had a boyfriend and i always thought about girls and how hot they were i never thought i would have sex with a girl but i feel in love with a girl and i really didnt care what i did with her, as long as i was close to her and could just make her happy. she was straight and said she would never make love to a girl or even consider it.. but she doesnt think of me as a girl she thinks of me as someone who makes her completely happy..

all in all. just be with someone who makes you happy that you could see yourself spending the rest of your life with, and it will be perfect.

January 3, 2009 at 6:38 pm
(61) blobby says:

so im 14 nearly 15 and iv had my suspicions for a while. In yr 7 and 8 i fancied my female english teacher, now in yr 9 and 10 i fancy my history teacher and im starting to fall for a girl/woman in my village. do i respect older women or do i fancy them . they just seem like very very close friends but i fanticise about making out with them or me being in peril and them saving my life or visa versa. im sorta confident im les coz iv never fancied a guy

January 8, 2009 at 3:08 pm
(62) kaitlyn says:

Maybe you’re BI-sexual (meaning you like males and females) It’s perfectly normal and quite common where I’m from (canada)

January 8, 2009 at 3:13 pm
(63) kaitlyn says:

also.. let me say… it doesn’t matter what you label yourself as. You are YOU and you like whomever you like. So don’t stop yourself from having something beautiful because of your gender orientation. It’s not worth it, hun. Trust me.

January 21, 2009 at 6:15 pm
(64) Mira says:

I want to be straight but i cant, ive been having crushes on this girls and theres one in my bus, to me all i wanna do is spend time with her, but because of me staring at her too much it became obvious, now i want her to be my friend but i cant cause she knows… can anyone help me please?

January 25, 2009 at 12:57 am
(65) Emily says:

Hey everyone. My name is emily and i am 14 year old. I hav enever been with a girl in my life… Yet. but i tend to be more attracted to females. I have been into guys sense i was able too walk. i’m not kidding. but when i was five years old. an older girl told me it was okay to do things with girls. and i was young and beileved her of course. and i think that a womans body is the most amazing thing in the world. : ) and i am curently taken by this guy i’ve been crushing on for the past year. but now i feel like he isn’t my type. i honestly think i may be Bi-sexaul… and want to know what are some of the warning signs??

: )

http://www.myspace.com/emilycushman

Message me if you have an answer please! : )
thanx : )

-Emily

February 1, 2009 at 6:10 pm
(66) jessica says:

well, im 14 years old and im almost 100 percent sure tht im lesbian. some times i think tht i mite be messed up in the head. when i fall for a girl, i fall hard. its almost like i become obsessed with trying to get there attention. on more than one occasion, i have ended up getting in fights with these girls. i have had NO experience with getting girls attention, and the only way i kno how is to meke them mad. i have only fallen for 2 girls in my life. one was 1 yr ago. we came soo close to having sex. it was at school, all alone, in the locker room. she was ready, but i wasnt. she moved to texas, so i made the hardest choice, and let her go. the other girl was her cousin. she practicly hates my guts! im soo confused! id do anything to be with her!!

February 14, 2009 at 6:16 am
(67) Katie says:

okay so i have been attracted to girls for at least 4 years. i am 16 years old and i have had both boyfriends and girlfriends and i am attracted to both but i always enjoy myself more in the company of a girlfriend. i moved to a new area about 6 months ago and im super attracted to a girl friend. we talked about being attracted to girls and she doesnt know my whole story and i really wanna tell her. we talk about everything and i know i can trust her but i want to tell her how attracted i am to her. she is beautiful with an amazing body and all i want to do is please her and kiss and lick her from head to toe.. but i dont want to tell her and weird her out then ruin our friendship.

February 26, 2009 at 1:51 pm
(68) Yasmin says:

ok so im 13 and i have had like a million crushes on boys in primary school but now im in an all girls school and i everytime im close to my (girls)friends i just feel like im gonna kiss them. but i dont no if this is a phase or the real thing but i keep having some fantesies of my and a m8 from my math class just kissing, but the thing is shes a lesbian, but thats just a rumar goin round so i dont no if i should beleive it or not, but all i want to do when im around her is kiss her, i dont no why but im pretty sure im a lesbian but im not sure.

yaz xoxo

March 1, 2009 at 8:06 pm
(69) Maxine says:

well im 16 andd i have been with alot of guys. been hurt by alot of guys…just really cant stand guys anymore. i’ve hadsex with a guy before and i liked it. however, im really attracted to tomboy type of girls, and the way girls care and think. i’ve always joked about being lesbian with my friends but now i suspect that i am. i think guys are attractive..attractive enough to kiss but thats all. but they are all just dicks and i dont like guys. theyr all pigs. and girls arent. i dont know how to have sex with a girl though..i dont understand..
Plus, lately i’ve been obsessed with lesbian movies. i just ordered like 3. but i feel like im losing touch with reality. idk im so confused =/ SOMEONE PLEASE RESPOND TO ME: MAXINE

March 2, 2009 at 10:51 pm
(70) anonymous says:

maxine-
our situations are different but i think i can relate. i’m fifteen… but i’ve never been with a guy, never wanted to be with a guy. and i fantasize about my girlfriends too, even though they’re all straight for sure. lately I’ve sort of suspected that I am attracted to just girls, not guys, but I don’t think we need to label it, yet at least, just follow where your heart tells you too, i guess. if you’re attracted to girls, be attracted to girls. don’t feel rushed to have sex with one if you aren’t ready though. just take it slow and explore. hope i helped.

March 14, 2009 at 10:20 am
(71) Millie says:

hi, im only 11 but i think i am a lesbian. Youre probebly thinking that shes too young to know what shes talking about, but i do. i always have the erge to kiss a girl but all my friends are straight so im finding it hard to keep to m yself. I’ve kept it too myself but im worried someone might cath on after all i am visiting lesbian sistes on my sisters laptop.

March 21, 2009 at 4:14 am
(72) Victoria says:

It’s ok to be a lesbian, to be bi, or to be straight. IT doesn’t matter at all because it’s who you fall in love that matters!! REMEMBER THAT!!! We shouldn’t have to label ourselves because people around us are forcing us to. I find my heart falling for a beautiful girl yet I’m still attracted to men. I think the only thing that separates our thoughts is gender. Eliminate it and you get nothing….just LOVE and our heart…

March 27, 2009 at 11:40 am
(73) Becca says:

The other day i kissed my mate and fingered her. In away i think im bi but i dunno how 2 cum out.

April 6, 2009 at 8:17 pm
(74) Christine Pappa says:

I am a lesbian and i want to find a woman to enjoy me.

April 15, 2009 at 4:22 pm
(75) Abbi says:

ive been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now on and off.I love him but for the past year or so i have had feelings for girls. when my bf touches me i dnt really get excited or fell anything i no we have something but i dnt think i want to be with him anymore but its hard to dump him as he wont leave me alone when i do . i do like girls like them alot and i do think i might me a lesbian but i also think boys are fit or hot but nothing more i feel i should be with a girl and i feel i would be happyer. One of my best friend went through this faze and i was the one that she sed she liked but at the time i didnt feel and thing for her but now i think i do but when i talk 2 her bout it she thinks im joking. I want to be with a gal if i find her but if i dnt ill just keep quite and betend im straight. add me if u like abster_rocks@hotmail.co.uk

April 16, 2009 at 8:06 pm
(76) laurenn says:

im 14 going on 15, and i was postive i was straight until about this time last year when i met this girl (charlotte) and i fell for her so badly. i always knew i was bi but recently iv realised taht all feelings for guys have gone =/ my mums pretty sounds about it tbh, but its sort of a forbiden subject around my dad.

since liking girls i have had intermute releations with 3 diffrent girls and its the most amazing thing ever.
im really happy for anyone who wants to come out openly about their sexualty like myself, but be warned not all teenagers are quiet understanding, be prepared to be hit with all the shit ever imaginable. i might get crap from dick heads at school, but except form that im really happy that i came out about my sexualty and it makes me confidant in myself =] dont let over people bring you down.

since i came out quite a few of my freinds have aswell wich tbh i dont think any of them are they just do it to be ‘diffrent’, honestly i have never seen them actually with a girl.
i can happily say that i have been in love witha girl(even if it ended terribly and we both started selfharming and naked piictures of each other ended up around the school. in fact im extreamy excited about meeting up witha girl tomorrow :D her names nicole and i want to be with her all the time.

dont worry about things to much, in my experiance, everything works itself out in the end =] i hope i was of some help.

April 18, 2009 at 10:02 am
(77) Cheri says:

The question you may have to ask yourself is other than feelings what other factors may have contributed to this suspicion. When I was a child, I was molested by an older girl. My first sexual contact was with a female. Your earlier sexual experiences have a profound impact on orientation. Psychoanalysis points to these contributing factors as a basis of sexual orientation. Also, it is natural to have sexual attraction to same sex partners especially when you are young, so I have read and experienced. If it is solely women that you are attracted to, I would say that is your orientation, but if it is both you may have to decide which lifestyle you prefer. For me, I chose men since it was simplier and I didnt like one particular activity that I had to do if I were with a woman. I know this sounds like simplistic advice, but it worked for me.

April 26, 2009 at 12:08 pm
(78) heather says:

I am a lesbian and i dont really know what to do with my sexy girlfriend do i do sex a lot cause that is wht I was thinking about doing.

May 4, 2009 at 10:11 am
(79) Lawra says:

I’m 18 and wen I’m with a guy I’m uncomfortable and wen with women I’m the best like I know I’m gay in my Mind but how do I tell my soul

May 10, 2009 at 11:33 pm
(80) Niki says:

Hi im 13 and confused!I lik guyz but I also lik some girlz!Lik I had my first kiss wit my best friend(girl) and liked itt!Then last year I made out wit thiz one chikk in my class we had lik french kissed and stuff.I just dont no!!!I thinkk im bisexual but im tryin to convince myself im straight!Can anyone help???

May 12, 2009 at 11:17 pm
(81) LePeche says:

I’m 17 and I’ve known for a long time that I am a lesbian. Either that OR i haven’t found Mr.Right. Everyone wonders what their sexual orientation is at some point. You can’t help who or what you are attracted to. If you spend all this time pushing these feelings down then eventually the pressure will build up and explode!! And I don’t think anyone wants that!! Tha important thing is to remember that you are not alone. :-)

May 18, 2009 at 10:31 pm
(82) jenny says:

im 14 and i feel the same way. ive never really had any feelings towards any other girls until just recently that i started liking my bestfriend. turns out shes gay and
now we are going out and im happy. im not quite sure tho if its just her or if im bi.

May 22, 2009 at 12:56 pm
(83) brianna says:

hi

i once felt my frends parts at a sleepova. she liked it n we ended up doing it, n i now am carzy 4 her. i think about her all the time n wen we’re together all we do it kiss n i always feel so good after it. i know im lesbian but its taken a while. just try it, n if u like it stick to it.

May 23, 2009 at 6:40 pm
(84) an unknown person says:

i have a friend & we known shes lez shes shagged loads & loads of girls
i think shes coming on to me & we know she has a dildo under her bed she has invited me her house for a sleepover im soo scared please help me she thinks im falling for her but im not please HELP!!!!!

May 24, 2009 at 8:19 pm
(85) Still Wondering says:

Hi, Im also 17 yrs of age.

i cant say that i am not confused which i am. i like girls n i love boys. Most of my fantasies are all about haveing sex with a girl or two. Everyone is always confused when they start thinking about girls in a different way. It’s just apart of one of the steps to finding the answer that best fit u. U can’t fight wat u are or the sexual feelings u have about a certain gender. it’s alot to take in by, stay with me. The first reason why most are so confused is because, most think about how their friends, family, or boyfriend would react and think of them. Im not a full believer about that, “Go with the flow”, thing. but it is true, u need to be patient n see where ur feeling lead u. cuzz ur feelings always lead u to the right path, even if the answer is not wat u expected or wanted. Try kissing a girl an see wat u feel or how it makes u feel. if it feels the same way as u were kissing a boy, then u are BI-SEXUAL. If it feels stronger then when u are kissing a boy, then u are a LESBIAN. Just accept it, take it in, and take advantage of it. trust me, u’ll recieve the answer u n ur body has been waiting for.

May 26, 2009 at 6:38 pm
(86) brogan says:

hi im brogan and i am 12 i snogged this girl once and it was fantastic i loved it and we did abit more aswell , anyway i really like this girl and i want to tell her but we have fallen out so i cant really . and my school is very harsh about things like this so i wouldnt be able to tell anyone but i just wish she felt the same this isnt the first time i snogged her we have done it a couple of times but she told me she isnt a lesbein or a bi but i dont see how she can say that if she did that with me i think i love her

May 28, 2009 at 9:43 am
(87) Maya says:

I am 12, and i masturbate. i dont know if im bi or lesbian but i always fantasise about my friends. someone please help as i am really confused, please?
i would be really ashamed to be bi or les, as i tihnk my friends would hate me. also, how do i come out?

May 28, 2009 at 11:24 am
(88) Allison says:

I think the title of being a lesbian is not as important as what you feel. For me, my parents have a strong opposition to my coming out as a lesbian, so for the time being, while I’m at home, I’m letting them think and refer to me as questioning. In my own mind and heart though, I know that I am a lesbian. Coming out to yourself is a long and delicate process that shouldn’t be rushed. Some questions that you should ask yourself for starters are, “Am I sexually attracted to boys or girls?” “When considering spending your life with someone, can you see yourself sharing the rest of your life with a man?” “Do you ever get chills when you see a gorgeous girl with an unusually low-cut shirt on?” “When you have fantasies, do they involve men or women or both?” These questions are mere suggestions. Especially if you are in the beginning of your coming out process, women may not be the consistent answer to these types of questions. IT IS OKAY TO BE A LESBIAN. Even if the rest of the country isn’t totally on board with gay marriage and equal rights for homosexual couples, to quote Milk “You are not sick. It is not wrong. There is nothing wrong with you!!” Many people lead long and happy lives as lesbians!! Don’t rush yourself to put a title on your feelings. Approach it on a case by case basis and eventually a more firm and definitive answer will become more apparent to you. You have nothing to prove to anyone! It is your mind and your body! Take your time!! Good luck and keep your chin up. Also, I recommend trying to reach out to PFLAG or 1 in 10 in your area if you need support or help through this process.

June 1, 2009 at 5:46 am
(89) a person says:

hi

i hav been with a guy for 2 years then we spilt
now im attracted to girls and i dont know wat to do

please help

June 5, 2009 at 6:14 pm
(90) nix says:

im 16 and i feel the exact feeling and i dunno what i should do, like the boys ive been out wid havent done ewt for me, but im only 16 so i think i prob aint met the right guy or summet??

June 5, 2009 at 10:30 pm
(91) Alisha says:

Hi there, over the last 2months i have been going through the exact same as you.
I believe that everyone has a bit of Bi in them and if you fall for a girl you really can’t help it. Embrace it XD
The only thing that matters is how you are feeling at the present time, not the past and not the future. So if right now you want her, go for it.
Licking out a girl does not sound very appealing! Ewww Fishy face, but if its with someone you love it’l be the most amazing thing ever.
Go have fun all my fellow lesbians, we are the future x

June 7, 2009 at 10:33 am
(92) tabetha says:

sweetheart to me and 4 me there was never a phrase. thats what straight people tell you so that you can question it. i know you feel uncomfortable but dont it is what it is. if anything just be yourself and never feel that you shouldn’t feel that way because of what other people think.you don’t just wake up one day and start going through a phrase its been waiting to come out the real you sweetheart let it be.

June 9, 2009 at 10:58 am
(93) Celina says:

Last year i had some stuff goin on with this girl. she was my bff! she got curious and so did i and tuh-duh there it went. but we didnt tell anyone about it
but we still do it ever y month

June 9, 2009 at 10:58 am
(94) Celina says:

Last year i had some stuff goin on with this girl. she was my bff! she got curious and so did i and tuh-duh there it went. but we didnt tell anyone about it
but we still do it ever y month

June 12, 2009 at 11:50 am
(95) I says:

hi im 16
i dont know whether or not im gay, a bi or a lezzy!
me and this other girl met once and she didnt know whether she was one or not so we kissed and it felt soooooo good!
but then it got out of hand and she kindof liked it more than me and locked me and her in the bedroom and thretened me till she made me have IT but even considering that i still like girls and dream of haveing IT freely!
plz help me!

June 13, 2009 at 1:55 am
(96) i need help says:

hi every1

im amm sooo confused
lyk i was with my bf for 2 years but it didnt feel write soo we split and now i am attracted to girls and i dont know wat to do

please help me
talk to me at
gabbywoodford@hotmail.com

June 18, 2009 at 10:35 am
(97) Anonymous says:

okay so this is really hard for me to say, i’ve been struggling with feelings for girls for about a year now, and i’m almost fourteen. i think i might be bisexual, or maybe lesbian im not really sure. ive had a few boyfriends, who ive hooked up with, but i never felt anything special between us. i guess ive had some feelings for a few girls, but i dont know any gay/bi girls in my grade, so i dont have anyone to talk to about it. im just so confused. this might sound really stupid but i always thought lesbians were supposed to be a little masculine, but im not at all. like .. i LOVE dresses and purses and shoes and straightening my hair, etc. so im not really sure where i stand with this whole lesbian thing. if anyone could maybe email me with some advice, i would love to talk to someone around my age whos going through the same thing. thanks ! xox

email: lifeis2perform@aol.com

June 22, 2009 at 6:47 pm
(98) Sammie says:

Well, to be honest, it’s your choice whether you want to be a lesbian or not. But, the truth is, do you really think you are one? Do you get sexualy attracted to women just walking down the street? Or people you have known for a while? If its people that are walking down the street, think of the possibileties, either, you like the look of this person and you would like to be more like them. The way they look is something you would just love to be like. Or, you would love to see what is under their clothes. Do you get that tingley feeling when you think about that?

What about when you first see a woman walk through the door; Whats the first thing you notice about her? Her hair: You love her radiance and the way her hips sway as she walks. Her eyes: You notice the smaller things. The things people would usually miss on a lovely woman. Her outfit: You like to know how she is feeling. Does she nitise you too? Her body shape: You want to know whats under that hundred doller dress. Will she want it too?

Another part to consider, will you be fully attracted to this woman you are considering being a ‘lesbian with’. Are you just there for the sexual pleasure? Just to talk? Do you get along better with her over any other boy/girl you have dated?

Last question, would you mind going past the hand holding and kissy faces and make love with the girl? (Does not apply to virgins) Does that idea repulse you? Do you retch on the thought? If a girl were to say, ‘lets go have more fun’ do you walk away, laugh at the idea, scream ‘hell yeah’ out your window?

All of this adds up. If most of your attractions are to women that lesbionic, the chances are far higher that you ARE a lesbisan. If most of the lesbionic thoughts repulse you or disgust you, maybe your not that into it. Or, maybe you like a little of both genders.

June 24, 2009 at 11:34 am
(99) nesi says:

Hey, im only 12 but i seem to be having a similar problem…i’m not interested in having sex with girls but i seem much more attracted to them and have never ben attracted by a boy before…i know that i have alot of hormoans atm which could make me confused..but i’ve always been headstrong and known what is best for me…i think im more bisexual than a lesbian tho

June 26, 2009 at 5:26 pm
(100) Dykey McDykerson says:

I am a lesbian and i can spell. Why is that all of you other lesbians can’t spell. This poor girl is asking if she is a lesbian and you keep telling her the wrong thing by talking about “Fellings” (Feelings) and “mestubating” (masturbating). You should be concentrating on her and answering her questions. Let me answer it for you. Yes you are a rabid lesbian. You love the muff and you can’t get enough of the heavenly scent of lactation. You wake up in a cold/warm sweat wanting the feel of a huge booby tickling your left nostril. Anyway that is about it. My advice take the plunge, your mum can help with this. She’s a chick after all.

June 28, 2009 at 5:19 pm
(101) rebecca says:

im 39 and still dont no give the kid a break

June 29, 2009 at 2:44 pm
(102) Random girl from sunderland... says:

hi, i’m 16 nearly 17… from the age of 14 i have had feelings for girls, when i play football i can’t help looking at other team mates knowing that some of them are lesbian, one of my team mates know that i am either bi or lesbian as she seen me making out with another girl from another football team… i have never had a sexual experience with a girl, i have only ever made out with them, i am extremely curious of how it would feel to have sex with a girl… i think i can safely say i am lesbian because i have only ever had oral sex with a boy and the thought of intercourse with a boy makes me cringe… i’m scared to go to newcastle scene (gaybars) because my friends don’t know about my sexual orientation and i’m scared in case i get with a girl meaning they hate me or stop talking to me. . . please help me!

p.s i am okay about my sexual preferences, i just don’t know how to tell my friends or parents… i’m considering telling them when i start college in september as i know quite a few lesbians that i will be interacting with in college… (one of them being football team mate) “/ x

July 3, 2009 at 7:13 am
(103) Brittany says:

wow.. i cant actually believe that there are 13 and 14 year olds on here already saying these things.. not hating at all. but i guess when i was 14 i never once thought about anything like that. BUT as i grew up and went through different stages of my life i found more and more of myself every year..for all you girls that are saying u get hot watching lesbian porn.. thats totally natural.. and has no determining factor on wether u are gay or not. it is actually human nature for absolutely everyone to get curious and even be turned on by the beauty of two women.a lot of u have friend girls that act like they would totally never EVER be into that.. but thats not true.. they have def all checked it out atleast. human curiosity. i actually dated a guy for 4 years.. though i was so in love but i never really thought about HIM during sex…my mind always went to girls.. but i thoroughly enjoyed sex with him.It is just recently, as in 8 months ago, that my sexual curiosity for women has esculated to wanting to def take it a step further with a ggirl that has really just pretty much won my heart. i actually get “butterflies” something that i never thought would happen.but you should also know that i am a very lovable person.. everyone that has ever come in contact with me knows that. i have a lot of love for people and would do anything for anyone. so i agree with the person that says dont label it. or even stress it. just be you and love who u love. it is a very beautiful thing. society these days continues to make things so difficult. but as they say..”you cant help who u love”

July 4, 2009 at 7:53 pm
(104) randi says:

i am 13 and thnk i am gay or bi but dont know i am realy turned by girls and have went all the way with one but also went all the way a guy but got more pleasure from the girl and want to do it agine but it could be a phase

if you could help email me at randibeth94@yahoo.com

July 7, 2009 at 3:24 pm
(105) dee says:

im 16. i dont know if im straight or bi or even lesbian. i have gotten with guys but never girls. recently i have started having feelings for my bestfriend. im starting to wonder if she likes me back or its just me and im weird.
if u have some help for me plz leave a comment

July 7, 2009 at 5:05 pm
(106) lisa says:

youre all lesbians be proud!!!

July 9, 2009 at 11:22 pm
(107) Salabra says:

You just know – there’s no other way to say it.

I’m 31 now and have known that I was gay for about 16 years, although I had my suspicions before then. I TRIED to have boyfriends, I TRIED to like them, I TRIED having sex with one or two – but I really felt nothing. Yes, I know, the traditional straight answer would be that I should keep trying ’til I found the “right guy,” but I honestly couldn’t see the point. But when I was with the girl I had been best friends with since kindergarten, I felt complete and totally happy. I came to realize that this was “love” – when our relationship turned physical, I finally realized what I was!

“Coming out” was another matter entirely – my dad was fine with it (mum had died when I was 12), but my “friends” at school turned their backs on me and my girlfriend. I thought it was strange at the time – after all, I was no longer “competition” for the boys they were interested in! I knew in my head but only gradually learned in my heart how deep homophobia runs in our society.

But I couldn’t go through my life denying who I was (or maybe I just gave up caring about other peoples’ opinions).

It really doesn’t matter how old you are, Brittany – romantic and sexual feelings don’t suddenly “descend” on you when you reach the Age of Consent.

July 14, 2009 at 1:55 pm
(108) krissy says:

hey,im confused.. im 14 years old.. and i feel uncomfortable around boys. i want a boyfriend and once this boy i really liked asked me out but i said no.. because i was afraid of having a boyfriend :(
im scared.. i want a boyfriend and do things but i feel so uncomfortable. although i am fine around girls

July 17, 2009 at 8:45 pm
(109) Alexandra says:

Hi everyone,I am 16 years old and I really need your advice.From an early age I had an unusual sympathy for beautiful girls but I fell for boys.More than a year ago this sympathy became something stronger…I calm down persuading my self that I was feeling that way because I was extremely friendly with girls or I just wanted to be like them,nothing more.But now things has changed.I cant hide it from my self.I am 99% sure that I am lesbian but this 1% full of doubts drives me crazy.I had just few relationships whith boys only for days but hadnt feelings for them.Although,I had done nothing whith girls I have amazing feelings for them…And I dont mean just sex.Actually,the wierd thing is that I am not sexually attracted by girls,only guys(But I think emotion is what counts).Please,give me your own view of some questions I have…I love emotionally girls so why am I sexually attracted by guys?Also,my look is girly(not tomboy)and I am attracted by girly girls,is this common for lesbians or all lesbs.are tomboys?

July 27, 2009 at 6:32 am
(110) cutiepiee says:

Hi, i am 20 yr old girl i work with my dad and i start liking a girl at work i think she likes me too but the problem is i am brown and i am scared if my dad know that i m gay he would never talk to me again but i really like that girl soo should i tell her that i like her or not?

July 28, 2009 at 12:35 am
(111) kelsi says:

hi I am 14 and I am bi but I am quite confused because I like guys but I only like them a bit and most guys don’t atract me and only serton girls atract me. one time I even fell in love with on of my bestfrands she told me she was okay if we tryed it. it didn’t work out and she told the whole school her and my other friend were the only ones who new, so now no one talks to me I only have a few freinds left and I now cut myself.
well if anyone around my age wants to talk e-mail me. kitkatkk3@hotmail.com. I am actually a really nice bubbly person.

July 28, 2009 at 10:39 am
(112) kelsi says:

oh yeah Dee email me I went thro the same this not to long ago and it didn’t go to well I can help my email is kitkatkk3@hotmail.com. and anyone else that need to talk you can email me to :) hope to hear from you!

August 1, 2009 at 1:43 pm
(113) Charmaine says:

I,m 36yrs and was married for 15years with four children, divorced then stayed single for 03 years .. One night whilst on duty I saw this person coming out of the car towards me and immediately I said to myself, there goes my single life. Luckily few days after she approached me and rest is history.

She is such a caring and loving person and I have never enjoyed lovemaking like I do now.

I’d like to hook up with other people who have been straight all their lives and now in a lesbian or gay relationship. charmaine796@yahoo.co

August 17, 2009 at 3:19 am
(114) Edith says:

Hi, I’m 22 years old and living in an anti-gay country where homophobia is everywhere. When my internet-chatting-friend came out to me a couple years ago, saying that she’s a bi, I was okay with that and wasn’t even bothered. But lately I started to liking girls. I get attracted to them. And not just physically or sexually. It’s more than that.

I’d been in a relationship with some guys. I broke up with my latest (ex) boyfriend because I was kinda fell for a (straight) girl. I was desperate and felt guilty for him that I couldn’t feel the same as he did to me.

I haven’t dated a girl before and that’s why I’m still not sure whether I’m gay or straight or bi or whatever the category is. Or maybe I’m just scared to be gay or bi, especially in my community. Let alone to come out to my significant ones (trust me, they’re such a homophobia and they think that gay people are sinners). So yeah, I think I’m better of alone for now, trying to figure things out (but hope it won’t take too long =P)

August 22, 2009 at 1:06 am
(115) lost&confused says:

I have a similar question thats been nagging me for some time, maybe you guys have answers?

I am 19 and have been in a couple little relationships with guys but never really felt anything, however girls have always turned me on. I always thought maybe I just didn’t have the right guy. I prayed that maybe the special guy would come into my life and he came! It was like love at first sight until later on I found out he was actually a she. My family is very strict and make their opinions known on gay relationships and stuff but I think I might really like her.

Is it to early to tell or am I gay/bi? Please help me.

August 23, 2009 at 5:34 pm
(116) Libby says:

I think I am a lesbian I wanna kiss a girl how do I tell my mom or is this just a phase I am twelve problay to young to think about this but I really need to know if u think u can help email me

August 26, 2009 at 4:44 pm
(117) fefers says:

I am 16 and I have a boyfriend but I am very very attracted to girls. my best friend and i kinda had a relationship over the summer and i thought about her all the time. (while my boyfriend and i are together) her and i are still best friends and i love her so much. i love to kiss her and touch her. she is amamzing. my boyfriend is actually supportive that i am gay! it’s great!

August 28, 2009 at 5:47 pm
(118) *Laura* says:

im 22. 23 this year. went out with my first boyfriend when i was 18 and it lasted for 3 years. loved him so much but he ended up doing something to me no woman should have to endure, but unfortunatly it happens. spent the last 2 years or so being a social hermit crab. started talking to an ex work mate of mine who is gay, i find myself very attracted to her and i dont know what the heck to do. im attracted to women and also men. i havnt been with anyone since my last boyfriend. i think in my situation its a case of ‘how long does it take for a broken heart to heal’ but its very confusing to have these feelings. everyday i think of what its like to be with a woman. yet im to scared to come out with it. so to all you out and proud, i applaud you x

September 7, 2009 at 2:02 pm
(119) Madison says:

I am a 12 year old girl. I am very confused the fact that i might be a lesbian. I mean i think some guys are cute but i dont like them but i do like all the girls and i feel physicaly atractted to them. I love to watch lesbian videos on sites like slutload.com but i hide it from my parents, friends and family. Can anybod help me????? PLEASE

September 15, 2009 at 2:57 pm
(120) sunk in quicksand :S says:

im 14. and a lesbian!-well atleat i think i am. ive been questioning whether i am or not since i turned 13. i am not—and never have been attracted to men—tbh they disgust me.. i find myself fantasising about my favourite female singers and my best friend, and my hormones have been rushing through my body for a whole month!!! it is sooo annoying–i have such an urge to fullfill my needs!! but i dont know how :( PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!

September 18, 2009 at 4:50 am
(121) nicole says:

Hi Madison my name is nicole i dont no what to do because im excacly the same as you i like to wach lesbian vidoes and im 12 too but if i am a lesbian i wouldnt no how to tell my mum :s if u have msn please wright to me and tell me what it is thanks ? x

September 18, 2009 at 6:09 am
(122) Em says:

I have been reading all your comments, and mostly they are asking for advise. I felt compelled to leave a comment, as mostly it is going to be confused teenagers that will find this page on the internet. You are each wanting advise and help, but all that is happening is the list of comments from you gets longer – but you aren’t getting the advice you are looking for.

There are so many ways to answer your questions. Your youth means you will be going through a stage where you start to emerge as a sexual person. Wether you are straight or gay, you would be about to heading into a confusing time. This is normal. There will be lots of things to explore and come to understand about yourself. find the right ‘type’ of person for you is about looking at many factors – their gender is just one of them. Sexual attraction can be just physical, but also physical attraction may exist because of what it is like ti interact with that person. When your mind connects with someone male or female, you feel an huge attraction. This can happen with someone who you don’t like enough to have a relationship with.

To all you teenagers that want to ‘know’ if you are gay or not… I would answer that that fact that you are aware of an attraction, and are asking the questions it would suggest that being gay for you is a strong possibility. But once you have accepted that don’t be scared that that is the answer for ever. I think, and this is just my opinion, that it is more important that you have a relationship with the right person, some one who you like first, love, trust, respect and admire. If this comes in the female or male form – enjoy being with that person for their qualities. A body is just the packaging, it is the person inside who you need to like too.

And finally – I understand you are scared to ‘come out’. It is scary. Not because being gay is scary (that bit if it is right for you will feel very natural), but by coming out you expose yourself to everyones views in a way a straight girl won’t. But the more girls and women that do come out and stop hiding where they feel safe, the more it stop lots of relationships they might otherwise have with guys from happening. You could see it as being fair to them too.

Being gay is not just about the physical side of things. Being in a relationship with woman is very different to that with a man. Women do not think or react the same way as men. This is partly what I was referring to at the start of this comment. you are young, and all have a lot to experience about the world and yourselves. Do not expect to have all the answers at such a young age. We all of us go through different experiences, and it is these experiences in all parts of out lives that help us learn, grow and defines who we are. Wether you are gay or straight, I think it is important that you explore your life in a way you can be proud of. Explore with kindness, compassion, respect and with a smile.

I wish you all an exciting journey. And remember, there is nothing wrong in being different to the other people around you when you are a teenager. Where you are now is just the start of your life, and this stage will one day be something you look back on. I know it does not feel like it at the moment. But life really does past by in a flash. you have to do what is right for you. Your happiness is ‘your’ responsibility.

September 19, 2009 at 4:46 am
(123) faith says:

i think im bi cuz i like girls but i also like guys ive had sex with both but i sometimes think eww girls then the next day its eww guys gross blah then the next day i like both i lie watching gay porn and lesbian porn just not staright porn lie with a guy and a girl fuckin i have no clue and im 14

September 24, 2009 at 2:02 pm
(124) Alex says:

Good question! I just found my answer to that few days ago,I was in the same limbo when I heard something called: Sexual fluidity.
Itís a book about a study made with women about their sexuality and it is exactly what I experience.
The problem these days is that we keep putting labels in everyone and everything and I will never understand why.
For me itís got to do with identity, not gender or because I was born like this or like that. I value people and how they express themselves, who they are and what they make me feel, not what Iím ďsupposed to beĒÖ Iím 41 years old and 2 years ago I fell in love with another woman for the 1st time in my life. Am I a lesbian, Bi, or straight? I donít care, never did. I donít sleep around; I fall in love, thatís my label. Follow your heart and be true to yourself nothing is definitive and you still are young, relax and things will happen naturally when and if itís time. As I often say, itís not about sex. (At least not for me) You are still knowing yourself so donít worry so much let it flow.

Alex

September 25, 2009 at 8:14 pm
(125) victoria says:

hay
well im 20 and all my life i had boyfriends. i always had this feeling that i myt be attracted to certin girls, buuttt i never fort anything of it.i am still in a relationshp with a guy bt im starting to became strongly attracted to girls more and more,im forever thinking bwt having sex with a girl but i dont know whats happing to me…. i also enjoy sex, so i think that me having these feelings myt be jus because i wanna try it, however i dnt wanna leave my boyfriend, wev ben 2getha 4 3 years and i love him heaps………….help me some1

September 28, 2009 at 7:49 pm
(126) em says:

I had to respond to faiths comment (comment 123) as I found it really shocking. At 14 you should not be having sex with anyone – be they male or female. You are still a child – so of course you don’t understand yourself yet. It was really sad to read what you had written. Perhaps your time would be better spent learning how to write properly as that will be of more use to you in the future than catching all manner of STD’s.

September 30, 2009 at 10:07 pm
(127) annalisa says:

i think i like both male an female

October 2, 2009 at 11:34 pm
(128) aj says:

Hey. I’m 15. I pretty much already know I’m bisexual but idk how to come out to my parents. I’m scared they might not accept me. An i definatly kno I would lose a lot of friends cuz basically all ma friends are homophobic.they are always talking about how nasty being gay is an it hurts me wen they talk lik that but I just don’t say anything and accept it. I kno I’m by because ma first kiss was with a girl and I jus lik the way it feels its differnt and much better than kissing guys. I do want a girlfriend or at least a girl to flirt with.

October 8, 2009 at 6:18 pm
(129) Jesse says:

Hi my names Jesse and I’m 19

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. He is quiet older and thinks differently then I do. I have not sexually experimented like he has. He has passed that “phase” in life.
I have been quiet confused lately because first of all j want to try all these new things but he doesn’t. But one of our main problems is that he is very Christian. The reason why I mention this is bc I have gay friends and he is disgusted at the idea. I have been attracted to females for so long I have fantasys and I’m just fasinated. I have kissed girls but that was friends that I have not thought of in that way. I don’t want to tell me boyfriend I have these feelings but I’m scared bc my feelings keep on getting stronger and I’m scared I won’t be able to find my “truth” I don’t know if I’m lesbian or bi or what? How do you define if you are? How can I figure this out?

October 12, 2009 at 1:03 pm
(130) Sese says:

Its Hard Cause I Think Im Lesbian I Have Feelings For Girls And Guys So I Think Im Bi. But Guys Are Too Much So I Don’t Know What To Do Ive Been Feeling For Girls For Along Time Since I Was Little Im 15 Right Now.

October 15, 2009 at 10:42 pm
(131) sam says:

I have this concern, im 19 and recently have got a major crush on one of my female lecturers, now im pretty sure that anything further than a crush would be illegal… maybe? anyway… Im not sure if im a lesbian or not, Im often attracted to men but no where near as much as I am to her, and also ive never felt attracted to a woman before, confusing!

October 18, 2009 at 7:50 pm
(132) Anonymus says:

hey
I’m 12 and i’m pretty sure i’m bisexual.
I’ve had lots of crushes on guys but the thought of doing anything with them is just weird.
i’ve had a crush on my best friend(girl) for a long time and when i told her i thought i was les last year she didn’t say anything so later, i told her it was just a phase.I love her as a sister and i always will but i want her to understand how i feel and i want her to feel the same way.
–Thanks =)

October 24, 2009 at 12:52 pm
(133) Gazelle says:

Hello, im 14 year old guy.
Im nawt gay but when imm turned on, i always think that imm a lesbean. So, i want to be a girl and then still like girls. I don’t like men but a like women with strap on dildos and i don’t know whats up with me. At school, i try to be as manly as I can but when im turnd on at home i think imm a girl. Each time a masterbate, i always pretend to be a girl, paint my toes(cuz i have foot fetish too). Is this normal in guys because i see some guys with sighns of marker on their hand nails.
Imm very confused; need help.

October 26, 2009 at 7:11 pm
(134) kay says:

i am 16 yrs old and i dont really know if im a lesbian i dont know how to tell my friends i dont want rumors to start and i certainly cant tell my parents also i like girls im just attracted to them but it just excites me but i just still dont know if im a lesbian sum1 help

November 2, 2009 at 7:15 pm
(135) Cerrie says:

I am 18 and I have always fantisised about girls whilst masturbating, but once i’m finished i feel dirty. Lesbian pics and vids turn me on and straight porn doesnt, but realistically I dont want a girlfriend, i just cant imagine it, I love my bf and I love our sex. I think its just cos girl on girl is kinky and against the norm that its so attractive, I have never fancied a girl, and I always get sexual feelings towards boys. I’d say i’m bi, but i’m not i’m just curious.

November 6, 2009 at 12:11 am
(136) SexyLesbian101 says:

im 17 and Im a proud lesbian also. i find nothing wrong with it…sex is AMAZING with my girlfriend. Ive been with a few guys but i like the tenderness of a womans soft skin. i fell in love with my most recent girlfriend, feeling are so much stronger than with guys. I Love Vaginas! :D

November 6, 2009 at 7:21 pm
(137) Alena says:

You know, I just don’ know. I read all comments here, and I think, that this ‘am i a lesbian or not’ or ‘am i a guy or not’ thing is really silly.
You know, I have some guy and lesbian friends. I like them, becuse they are more normal than other ‘normal’ people :D .
But on the other hand, I have the same problem as the others here, who are not sure how are they in reality. Because I don’t know what love or like means, somehow I don’t understand this feeling either. Maybe i am in love with a girl, maybe not. i just feel, that i want to be by her side, and never leave her alone. She was always by herself in her life. She smiling outside, but crying inside. She is hiding who is her real self is… Our story is like a soap oper from the Tv screen. Sometimes i just smiling on it when I think about it, that this is happening whit me. But I asked her, how is she thinks of me… She said, she is not looking at to me whit an eyes of a men… When I heard it, somehow I relieved, but in my heart I felt really sad. Maybe I am a lesbian, but do you know what? I don’t care with this. I want to protect her until i can do it. I live my lief as I can and as I want. I stay by this girl side, until she is gonig to find someone to herself… Am I selfish, aren’t I? But this is to part of too the other side of the reality…. Good luck in your life! :)

November 7, 2009 at 6:25 pm
(138) Bailey says:

you dont need to read this i just need to vent my thoughts….

im really confused. i think im in love with my straight friend… i wanna hug her so much and kiss her. i dont like the idea of having sex with her so maybe im not gay, but i dont like the idea of guys either… so maybe i should be a nun(joking) i think i will just have to wait and see what happens but i dont think ill ever get to love my friend in more than a friend way… unless she tells me shes gay, but i dont think she is :( im confudled.

November 8, 2009 at 12:08 am
(139) No special person says:

hey i’m 14 and i know i’m a lesbian. i’ve known for a year now. my problem is coming out with it. my whole famil (parents nd sisters) hate the idea of lesbians and gays. they always talk bout how pointless it is and that they r freaks. i know of 3 lesbians but i dont feel attracted to any of them. 2 of them r dating and both r goth. the other one is a church girl, imagine that. and she’s bi but i don’t even like her in general let alone seriously like her. another prob i hav is finding someone. iv liked a lot of chicks in the past but all r straight. i’ve only told 3 people tht i’m not straight and all 3 were through txts. it wuz kinda akward for a couple days after and still is just a little but they got over it for the most part. so i’m looking for someone going through the same thing that is about my age (just turned 14). my email is elfnshiloh@yahoo.com
email me any time.

November 26, 2009 at 10:48 pm
(140) rose says:

Hi im 17 to and think lesbian becaues i love my best friend as more then a friend and she told me to go get help and sence then i thought about getting help but i cant do it

November 26, 2009 at 11:07 pm
(141) Rose says:

Hi im 17 to i have been dating my boy friend for sence preschool and when i go over to his house i cant help it but i like his 17 teen year old twin sister and one day i told her and feel the same way what should i do i love my boyfriend

December 1, 2009 at 2:51 pm
(142) charl says:

Hi, I’m 18, and i’m so confused, I’ve always always been into guys, i have slept with a few, and had a bf that i loved for over a year. Thing is i have a thing for this one girl, now i dont know if i’m just attracted to her or all girls. We’ve known each other for years and recently i told her that i liked her and she felt the same way, we arranged to meet up but i backed out, she still hasn’t fully forgiven me for that lol. but anyways recently things have really heated up and i have slept with her twice, i can’t take my hands off her when i’m with her, but when i’m not i just think what am i doing, am i scared of being bi? am i scared what people think? i just dont know, i don’t know if i could ever be in a relationship with her even though i proper like her, i just dunno what do…

December 6, 2009 at 3:15 pm
(143) lynn says:

i dont know what i am im so confused and i love girls im always looking at them but my mom tells me i cant know if i k=like girls beause i dont date people

December 9, 2009 at 3:12 pm
(144) kt says:

Hi,
Im 13 and have been wondering if im a lesbian
i like boys emotionally but not phisically like.. i love being around boys and have had crushes on a few but when i see a handsome guy i just think okay he’s good looking. im kinda more exited if i see girl porn.. and there’s another thing… sometimes i see girls an want to be freiends with them because they are cute, confident and it seems like being friends would be a good idea and that is the knid of friend i would like (i don’t have freiends at my school) i go to an all girls school. please help!!

December 18, 2009 at 8:45 pm
(145) Kerriii says:

Hii
Im 17 and a lesbian. reading these comments of not knowing if you are a lesbian or not is what i was saying like 5 years ago and i know exactly how you feel cause my friends and parents were really homophobic so i was kinda stuck on who to ask for help ! Altho i came out 2 years ago now and most of my friends have accepted it and also my mum ! IF anyone feels they dont have a close mate to talk to or ask anything am always here to help just drop in an email and will help all i can !

January 7, 2010 at 9:13 pm
(146) Gigiluv says:

Hey i don’t know how to answer to your question because I’m having the same problem as you. I’m a 15 year old girl in high school and I think I might be Bi. Only because I kinda like some guys in school. Everyday at school I see a cute girl and I have to look more than twice and sometimes fantasize about girls! I’ve never fallen in love with a guy but I really love a guy’s nice body just the same as girls. Mm I need help to find out if I am bi/lesbian before it’s too late.

January 11, 2010 at 2:31 pm
(147) Anonymous says:

hey im 14 and i think im falling for my best friend. sometimes one of my friends jokes about how we’re meant for each other and we might be bi and it gets to me every time. I’ve gone out with guys before and i really liked them, but it was mostly a comforting attraction, not sexual. I still look at guys and think they are really hot/cute, but I fantasize about my best friend all the time. Sometimes I think she’s bi because she’s not that into guys, but im afraid to come out to anyone as bi because im not completely sure. What should I do?

January 15, 2010 at 2:10 am
(148) unknown says:

im 15 and i have had a HUGE attraction (like u wouldnt believe how much ive cried about it) on a girl in my grade..
Since i saw her i have not been able to talk normally to her or act like a normal girl xD i am in a big group of friends and we are all normal but i think im different.

I only like this one girl, and i get nervous everytime she even comes to school or talks to me. no one knows about this…and yer…

I dont know what to do. about three years ago another girl had a party and (i was kinda straight and kinda not) and heaps of my friends went so i went too. And this one girl wanted to put her sleeping bag near mine. and in the morning i woke up and she was like curled up to me and smiling..i immediately got up cause i felt a jolt of fear and then i couldnt stop thinking bout her.. and eventually i wanted to get over it (even though it made me in so much pain to have to see her everyday) and now im fine. But this one girl, she laughs at everything i say and wants to hang out with me more than any girl in the group.

I think i should just ignore it. ive had these feelings toward her for about two years and i have never opened up and given her a sign. but i have never dated a guy, and i dont feel like i want to.

I am a pretty depressed girl cause im trying to be normal and think normally, but i cant get over this, its such a hard thing to do. I want to be accepted and i want to know what i am and if i can be it.

…i am a christian and its soo hard to feel accepted anywhere i go, and i have also had an attraction to a girl at my church :( and to make it worse she was a singer and VERY beautiful, her early husband left her for no reason and she would always look at me during church and even after it..

i think shes 20 but i dont know… i dont want to get involved. I just want to be happy and normal..:(

help!

January 17, 2010 at 8:08 pm
(149) k says:

Im 15 and i go to a church..
eer since grade 2 i have been having no attraction to guys (ever) and i never have since.

I saw this lady on my church stage singing, she is i think 19? and her husband that just married her left her without words. And this lady is pretty much the most BEAUTIFUL women i have ever seen…blue eyes, blondish brown wavy hair and the most amazing complaxion.

She is really upset about her being alone and she has a baby girl :( and she always looks so sad. I instantly fell for her, and i thought it was just cause i am protective and kind hearted but its getting deeper every sunday that i see her, just a week ago i have been dreaming about her and now i cant even sleep full nights. Her face never leaves my mind, not for one second. And i have never spoken to her cause i dont know what to say xD

BUT when i see her in church she always glances at me with heavy eyes and i melt.. i smile and look away because im a nervous wreck and my heart goes crazy all day on sunday..i just want to be able to see her and tell her how i feel and she the same.

I want to be able to heal her heart and give her love and someone that wont ever leave her.

I think i am lesbian (go figure?) and i love this women so deeply, Not exactly in a “wanna have sex” way, in and cuddle, protect, and tender kiss way.

she is probs straight but i cant get over her :( i have tried getting over her for 4 years!! but it wont go away.
and when ever i see her, it getts even deeper.

i havent told ANYONE and i wont. But if she opens her self up to me and shows her feelings then the ice will be broken and i will be free from this torture!

tell me what i should do..

January 19, 2010 at 11:18 pm
(150) T says:

I’ve been feeling the same way, I’m fairly certain I’m a lesbian, but, I still find myself only slightly liking some guys if they’re really cute, but it’s much much less than women in general. An I’ve never had a real relationship with either gender so I’m still wondering, is it still possible or me to be bi?

January 23, 2010 at 8:05 am
(151) Ellie =] says:

Hi, i’m Ellie, i’m 16, i go through this weird phase, Where sometime’s i think about what i want in life and to be honest, i’ve been through so much with girl’s where i think to myself, am i actually gay?! And i ain’t sure, but i am attracted to girl’s, alot. When i’m out with my mate’s some are gay, straight, bi, but the thing is, i don’t know what i want, an to be fair i just want a relationship with someone i can trust and that someone to trust me! But i alway’s end up going for the wrong girl, i guess it’s hard for all of us on this site, because it’s like telling our life story’s but i guess it help’s alot, because you are all reading this, and probably think ” Oh my god ” But we are all typing this out to most likly figure out weather we’re gay or not, maybe some off us are just going through a phase, but some off us are actually gay, the mogoraty of girl’s are either gay or bi, but there’s alot more to it, than just wrighting this out!! :) We’re actually all looking for someone, if not your with someone i don’t know, but the reason for me writing this is to find someone to put a smile on my face, an who can love me for me! And apreciate the thing’s i’ll do for you! All i want is to be happy & for that person to be happy with me!

January 24, 2010 at 12:52 pm
(152) marie says:

Im 17 nd im in love wit my friend who has a bf but she s sure shes straight. I still dnt want to accept d fact that im bi or gay but i rly rly love her. I told her that i might be bi or gay nd she said that it didnt matter to her but i havent told her that i lover her yet! and i rly cnt imagine my life without her! does hving always had crushes on females makes me bi or gay?? pls do answer someone. i rly need some help as im still searchin myself!

January 25, 2010 at 12:27 pm
(153) Sara says:

Hi! I’m Sara and I’m 14…young huh? At first I thought I was bi but Ive realized I really don’t like boys. Yes I have had a boyfriend and now boys I guess they turn me off. Before I had my boyfriend I kissed my best friend and well I liked it.So I think I am a lesbian. I’ve told my mom before that I was bisexual…she said is was just a phase…I THINK NOT!

February 9, 2010 at 10:11 pm
(154) Olivia says:

I’m Olivia. I’m 16 years old. I have always had this feeling in the back of my mind that I could be bisexual. I’ve never really known for sure. I mean, I fantasize about girls ALL the time. I have kind of had crushes on some girls at my school, but I’m way too afraid to tell any body. There is this one girl who I catch staring at me all the time. She is really cute, and sweet. I wonder if she likes me, she is always smiling at me, and I wonder what it would be like to be in s relationship with another girl. sometimes I just want to get it over with and have sex with a girl just to see how I feel. I honestly don’t know how I feel. I have always seen myself growing up and getting married to a man, but I think that I might be bisexual. I think I like girls and I really want to see what it is like. I don’t know if I’m going through a phase or not either.

February 14, 2010 at 9:35 pm
(155) jess says:

will god still except me as a lesbian? will i go to hell! will god still love me if i marry a man and lead a fake life with him. i being how i truly am worth giving my hole family up to be this thing i dont want but am cursed with i dont want to go to hell i dont want to loss my family but is it worth lossing myself instead, people say god did this made me gay as a test to prove i love him i must over come this. why dose he hate me what did i do so wrong to be this way maybe it should all be ended before i move either way

February 21, 2010 at 6:25 pm
(156) katie says:

i think im gay, but i dont wanna be. so i try to make my self think about guys. i dont know what to do

February 22, 2010 at 1:24 pm
(157) Aliyah says:

hey I am muslim and believe it is wrong to even think about being a lesbian… i am attracted to girls bodies and imagine about having sex with them i am soo confused what i am as i also have this feeling for guys

February 25, 2010 at 8:05 pm
(158) Kaitlyn says:

Im also 17 and I get so confused as to know orientation I am. I love being with a guy but I am constantly thinking about girls. Theres just something about them that i love but I could never see myself without a guy. I dont know what I am but if it turns out that I am bi I have no idea how I would come out to my parents. My parents are so totally against it gays. What’s a good way to come out?

March 7, 2010 at 4:16 am
(159) Siara says:

I’m 22 and I fantasize about women all the time. I have had sexual relationships with a few women and am really turned on by them. However, I have also been with men but I don’t get the same feeling and excitement from them. Women to me are just so sensual and passionate. The touch of a woman’s lips is so tender. I find both butch and femme attractive in different ways! I’m just trying to figure out if I’m lesbian, bi, or straight! lol.

March 8, 2010 at 12:17 pm
(160) Veronika says:

OKAY LADIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Listen, i understand the the world wants to put a label on EVERYTHING but the truth is…. you are who you are and like who you like, ever think that maybe you like both… does that make you bi? no! We appreciate the beautiful creature aound us for what they are and if you dont ike sex with a guy or a girl that is fine. Dont labelize it…. I myself am in my mid 20s and i have dated men, i have dated womwn and i have slept with both… i dont like someone based on their anatomy, i like people based off who they are and i could fall in love with a woman as easily as a man and i think instead of worrying about what you like, just go with the flow and like who ever you like…. you will certainly figure it out for yourself but its alot of pressure to labelize yourself so soon with out giving yourself the chance to grow. be patient. i have a son so i have obviously been with men and i do prefer women and sex is great with females and i get told that it will confuse my child but truth is, if you are happy the people who love you will be happy.

March 11, 2010 at 12:35 pm
(161) lucy says:

hi im 13 and i love looking at girls naked
am i a lesbian
if i am how do i tell my frineds?
whill they leave me?

March 14, 2010 at 1:07 pm
(162) Bella says:

how do u know if ur gay bi or lez?

March 15, 2010 at 7:08 am
(163) manda says:

hi… i am 12 turning 13 this year (2010)…
anyway, im stuck and confused on what gender i find most attractive.. :| i like looking at guys.. like “oh hes so hot/hes cute/ id pash him any day” but then sometimes i feel/wonder what it would be like with a girl… ive recently tryed kissing my friend but i have such a serious look on my face when i try doing it (like i want to kiss her) but she pulls away laughing as if its a joke..(i would understand if in her position; because she is definently not lezbian) … but then sometimes i get cranky at her saying; “u think im lezbian dont u?!?” and then she always says “no man (its my nic name) i dont think ur lez!” but then i always look at her like ~tell me the truthe~ and sometimes she’ll say “gosh!, its like u want me to say u r!” and sometimes i dont think or want to be lez but… URG! >< its so hard to explain… and im here typeing this because its not like i can just go talk to a frend (girl) or my mum … -_- i just dont kno if i am; lezbian, bi, or straight… or if i am interested in girls or boys… or even bothe
please help me?

March 19, 2010 at 1:11 am
(164) kaneia darton says:

Hi im 11 and i dont know what i am i was raped by a women and i dont know if i liked it or not i need help im confused i cut myself because of the pain i feel its so hard to live with myself no one understands me i hate myself i need help PLEASE HELP ME

March 19, 2010 at 1:16 am
(165) KANEIA DARTON says:

IM JUST THE SAME I WANT TO KNOW WHAT I AM NO ONE UNDERSTANDS ME MY FREIND SHE IS A LEZ BUT SHE WONT KISS ME SO I CAN FIND OUT………. PROBUBLY BECAUSE SHE IS 22

March 22, 2010 at 2:09 pm
(166) Confused says:

I’m 15 and I’m so confused! I think I am a lesbian but not totally sure because I’ve never actually kissed a girl or anything like that.(I desperately want too though) I’ve never actually seen a girl I feel attracted too and boys just make me uncomfortable thinking about them in that way. (I see them more as friends).Also, I always have dreams that I’m having sex with a lesbian and it ALWAYS turns me on and lesbian porn makes me horny ALL the time. Am I lesbian?

March 24, 2010 at 7:59 pm
(167) confused says:

omg im 14 and i fantasise bout girls all the time and i even slept with 1 i really liked it but i dont want 2 be cuz every1 i know like hates bi or gay ppl im like so confused but girls r SOOOO hot

March 28, 2010 at 12:59 pm
(168) Anonymous says:

hi
im 12 and i think im bi
when i was younger me and my cousin used to play games and kiss each other and get naked in front of each other i loved it
but i loooovvvvvvvee boys too
ive never had a bf though
i get so turned on when i watch lesbian viedos too theyre great !
i want to kiss my cousin again to see if i still feel the same
but its not happening
ill keep tring though
thanks,,xx

April 8, 2010 at 11:28 am
(169) Jade says:

heyy im 15 and think im bi, last year me and my friend kissed and ever since that all i do i think about girls . i dont wont to be bi as alot of people dont rali like um, i get rali turned on when i watch lesbian viedos too . im rali confused

April 8, 2010 at 7:35 pm
(170) afraid... says:

I think I am honestly a lesbian living a lie… Girls have always turned me on more than guys ever have I have a boyfriend at the moment and we haven’t had sex for over almost five days and I don’t miss it one bit I fantasize of being with a girl and treating her rigt and just being in that relationship it just seems so right in my head but my moms such a stereotype and well a bit rasicst this would make her very unhappy I’m 18 almost lol in a couple of months I’d be legal legal legal lol I live in new mexico albuquerque and well if there’s a girl out here confused as well and willing to kick it let me know.

April 12, 2010 at 2:40 pm
(171) geo234 says:

hi…i am 18…i never had i serious relationship with a guy the biggest one was 4 months…. i had sex for the first time 3 months ago with a guy it was ok… but i met a girl one month ago that i was very attracted to her not only like her but everytime i was talking to her i couldnt resists i wanted to kiss her …. i didnt do anything i am confused i dont know am i bysexual lesbian straight….????

April 22, 2010 at 1:18 pm
(172) TERRI 20 says:

I’VE HAD THE SAME PROBLEMS THAT ALL OF U R HAVING..IM 17 ND IVE KNOWN I WAS A LESBIAN SINCE THE BEGINNING OF LIFE…WEN I WAS N THE 1ST GRADE I KISSED A GIRL..I USED 2 HAVE SEX..WELL NOT SO MUCH AS HAVE SEX BUT HUMP (LOL) GIRLS WEN I WAS N ELEMENTARY SCHOOL ND A SMALL AMOUNT OF MIDDLE SCHOOL..I KINDA LKED BOYS A WHILE BACK BUT IDK.. THE FEELING JUS SLOWLY WENT AWAY,,NEWAY I FINALLY CAME OUT N THE 8TH GRADE.I MEAN I DRESS KINDA LKE A GUY, I PLAY BASKETBALL, I DNT LKE TIGHT CLOTHES…ITS OBVIOUS..IT WAS JUS HARD 2 B HONEST WITH MYSELF..U JUST HAVE TO B TRU 2 U ND NOT CARE ABT WUT PPL THNK..ITS GONNA B HARD TRUST ME..BUT ULL FIGURE IT OUT..

April 22, 2010 at 3:56 pm
(173) kristy says:

im 12 13 this year and i think im a lesbian i havent kissed i girl but i want too i still like lads tho x help x

April 25, 2010 at 12:10 pm
(174) aoife.. says:

i know where your comming from.. i wasn’t sure about two years ago.. i do float both ways i havent kissed a girl yet bu i have had physical attraction towards some girls. and yes i have a boyfriend and he knows this. but for now im sticking with him untill i find a bigger opening in the wall.

May 2, 2010 at 11:55 am
(175) Mared says:

im 17 and have been in loooads of relationships with boys but few months back i pulled my girl best mate. it was the best feeling ever. few weeks later we did it again but this time we did alot more i loved it. since then i have been talking alot more to girls and enjoy having fun with them. anyone want to get in touch or ask advice

May 7, 2010 at 5:19 am
(176) belewdade says:

I am 20, I want absolutely nothing to do with girlsj during the day time But at night all I can do is fantasize about girls. I watch lesbian porn so,much but when I think about love and stability I think about guys. I had a boyfriend for many years and after we broke up I started thinking more about girls but like I said nothing emotional , I could never hold hands with a girl but I could definitely sleep with her …. maybe that makes me a heartless b but whatever I can handle living two lives as long as they never collide and no that doesngt meant being unfaithful or a liar it means I’m gonna do my own thing and everyone’s gonna knowt about it

May 9, 2010 at 4:48 am
(177) Millie says:

wow! im amazed that Sooo many other people feel the same way that i feel…. im 12 and I have a boyfriend… i have kissed my friends before for fun and ive also kissed my boyfriend.i enjoyed the kisses with my friends more tho, im so confused :) add me on msn cause i really want your advise…

May 10, 2010 at 5:11 pm
(178) katie s says:

hi im katie since this year i hae been fancying this girl but im too scared to tell her that i love her more than a mate if i do tell her , she will ignore me and will not speak to me then :( i really fancy her i just duno how to say it …. please help me
this is my addy katie_luvs_teddys@hotmail.co.uk please could you help me

May 10, 2010 at 5:15 pm
(179) katie slater says:

hi im katie since this year i hae been fancying this girl but im too scared to tell her that i love her more than a mate if i do tell her , she will ignore me and will not speak to me then i really fancy her i just duno how to say it Ö. please help me

May 11, 2010 at 9:34 pm
(180) girlyyyyyyyyyyyyy says:

i think im a lez because when iwas in 5th a girl kissed me and it felt great so know im in sixth a nd she still lovvvvves me not like love in the restroom she took of my BRA and started kissing me and she said im a lesbian and i cant stop thinking about you

May 12, 2010 at 7:39 pm
(181) anonymous says:

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May 12, 2010 at 7:52 pm
(182) anonymous says:

idk why ya so confuse no i know is because ya really trying to label yaself ya just get so exited. i dont believe in STRAIGHT GAYS BI whatever i believe in LOVE people u love who u love and thats it. me myself i realy dont believe in love cuz well i never fall in love and the idea with being with other sex doesnt bother me at all so i say it dont matter who u love dont label urself if u care about what other people says. when they ask u just say u iin love people u love who u love who cares if its a boy or a gir….

May 17, 2010 at 11:22 am
(183) emily says:

hi im 14 and i have has the same feelings i like guys as in like oh hes hot but when i watch a lesbian scene on tv i feel as if i am one of them. i cant tell my parents! but i cant tell my friends either because i know what they will do. you may say they are not real friends but they are all ive got.

i want to make sure by making out with a girl but i am to afrait to tell anyone please help by emailing me on emilythestrange91@hotmail.com

June 4, 2010 at 7:00 pm
(184) c says:

i thnk that i might be bi and i really like my best friend but dont no how to tell her.
i fell more attracted to girls then guys.

June 6, 2010 at 6:44 am
(185) Someone says:

i really like this girl and i have done since ive met her but im straight to but im beginning to go off him and fall for her even more but my heads scrambbled at the min i can’t tell :(

June 6, 2010 at 7:05 am
(186) Natalie says:

I have a boyfriend at the moment and were fine but then there’s my friend. My friends comes i hate my boyfriend and then the other way around i would trry giving signs but then i’ll look more like and idiot :/ i think she likes me im not certain but i fantasize about having sex with her and things but i just don’t no what to do :(

June 6, 2010 at 7:40 am
(187) this person says:

im in love with this girl i think she know’s that i like her i made it pretty obvious we were best friends and sorta grew apart and through all that i was in love with her im going to tell her how i really feel they might be people who are homphobic bully’s but it’s not there life i don’t care about my boyfriend im going to her when i see her in half an hour. I love her and i always will. xxxx <3

June 12, 2010 at 3:13 am
(188) bori says:

i am 40 and can only think about women for at least the past 10 years please help me, i really think i am lesbian

June 13, 2010 at 10:24 pm
(189) Jules says:

Okay, I can’t stand this anymore.

Everyone in my family thinks that I’m straight and my friends all think I’m straight. But lately I’ve been getting this thing for girls.

One of my friends (girl, straight) has this inside joke going that she’s a lesbian, but nobody means it because she’s homophobic. And then I got into it and now they’re joking that I’m her ex-lesbian girlfriend (weird, I know) but somehow I kind of like it.

Even before that, I’ve liked this girl who goes to my school, and she’s a total butch lesbian with a capital L. I so cannot stand this anymore. I NEED to know what the heck I am because to be honest I’m not sure. :(

June 14, 2010 at 6:52 pm
(190) Clairee says:

hiya i’m claire and i’m confuzed i like girls annd i watch lesbian porn but i have a great boyfriend! please if ur 12,13 or 14 add me on clairecoolglover@hotmail.co.uk thanks xxx

June 16, 2010 at 1:21 am
(191) britt says:

i think im strait, but 2 girls have said im pretty hot, and once i started talking to them, it made me start thinking. i started to talk to them as friends because i could care less if people are gay or strait. but anyway they started talking about sex and stuff and it made me really curious. girls turn me on and ive made out with girls before but idk if i could ever see myself having sex with a girl but idk.. so what does this make me? curious?

June 17, 2010 at 1:07 am
(192) anonymous says:

hi.. im not gonna tell you my name because i find this embarassing and it feels weird.. im 15. ive had tons of boyfriends, and i never really cared for them like my friends did for theres, i loved being with my bestfriends so much more.. it would suck because i would become obcessed with them.. i always wanted to kiss them but i never would let anyone in the whole world know that.. everyone would look at me differently.. and at the same time i think its so weird also.. and gross. and i keep falling in love with my bestfriends.. not where i wanna have sex with them but where i want to kiss them.. im really confused, i find girls so mucch hotter then boys, and i hate it..

June 18, 2010 at 7:45 am
(193) Rochelle says:

I have been having these weird feelings that i am a lesbian or bi. i do find guys really attractive but have never had a proper boyfriend. I havent seen any girls that i am attracted to but think i am more attracted to the thrill of having sex with a girl! Help pleaseee!

June 28, 2010 at 9:28 am
(194) nikki says:

i am attracted to guys, and iv had boyfriends that i have really cared about but the thought of guys doesnt turn me on, i feel like im constantly ‘craving’ girls. i would love to have experience with a girl, but i dont know who with since im embarrassed to tell anyone about my little fantasy’s

June 30, 2010 at 12:05 pm
(195) hannah says:

hi, im 15, and i dont know if im a lesbian? i hope its jus a phase, i get into trouble alot at school, and when a female teacher tells me off, i get this really tickly feeling inside me, i dont know what it is, but i dont want to tell the school nurse, because im scared that she’l say that it means i fancy someone or something, i really dont want to be a lesbian, cuz i willl get really bullied, im so scared, why cant i jus be normal.
and also, i dont know how to french kiss, so when my boyfriend wants to, i dont know what to say, cuz i dont want to do it wrong, then he’l think i cant kiss, and he’l tell all his friends, and im also a virgin, and im scared to have sex. incase it hurts, but i really want to lose my vaginity, also, i have fingered myself before, but i can only use one finger, if i use two, then it hurts, what does this mean? am i tight? can you please describe exactly how it feels to have sex the first time
any advise please

July 5, 2010 at 11:36 am
(196) kim says:

im a 40 yr young married woman of almost 20 yrs. i told my husband when we first met that im attracted to females. after we married i pushed my having feelings for woman to the back. thinking if i dont think about it it will go away. boy was i wrong! within the past year i have met a wonderful friend that has a sister that is a lesbian. they came to my house a yr ago for cook out, i was almost blown away by my attraction for her when i met her. i have never been so drawn to another female ever until her. we have kissed many many times! i really like her alot! i have finally became comfortable with myself being attracted to females. im not ashamed of it anymore…im finding that i have alot more of an attraction to females than males.
my husband and im starting marriage counseling, im doing this for him…i told him i would try but im not promising anything. i just dont think i want to be married anymore…im not happy

July 8, 2010 at 7:28 pm
(197) raven&mick says:

hi so. my girlfriend mick and i are lesbians. and um. sex is fun. and guys are ew. girls are sexy and megan fox is the main example why i turned lesbian. that scene from jennifer’s body never siezes to amuse me. okay bye girls. be safe. love, raven&mick. carpet munchers for life holla.

July 12, 2010 at 6:06 pm
(198) jessie says:

hey i dont know if im lez or straight coz the other day i watchen girl porne on redtube and i got really turned on.
i really want 2 have sex with a girl but…..?

July 13, 2010 at 2:09 pm
(199) Confused says:

I really need help…Im 11 and think im a leasbian i’ve never had something i couldn’t get outa my head until this..Please someone help me…I think im a lesbian because I just became friends again with my best Amber and I love her as a friend well at least i thought i loved her that way now..Im starting to have feelings for her i don’t know what i should do…And my mom said that she don’t care for gays leasbians and bisexual as long as their happy…So i was like so you wouldn’t care if me or my sister turned that way and she said no as long as your happy..So im not afraid to tell her but its just im not happy…The only girl im ever happy around is Amber:(And im trying to be a christen and this kid at my school said it was a sin…:”(What do I do????

July 22, 2010 at 12:00 pm
(200) rhian j says:

im lesbian and i think it is great,in your situation if you are more attracted to girls than guys and most prob a lesbian but if your fancy both then you are bisexual

July 25, 2010 at 6:28 pm
(201) yaya says:

hey! im 18b yrs old.. i have a daughter
im not sure if im a lesbian or straight when i see a hot guy it attracts me n i like it.. but when it comes to think about sex i think about girls.. n when i see a girl it doesnt attract me it’s really weird.. ugh what should i do?.. doesnt it mean i like both or is it just a fantasy

July 28, 2010 at 4:57 pm
(202) merry says:

hi, im 16 and i im a lesbian or not but i am really attracted to girls, especially this friend of mine…i just can’t stop thinking about her, everytime im with her i wanna kiss her…but i think she’s straight…i love her..i dont know what to do…

August 4, 2010 at 4:54 pm
(203) Alice says:

Hi, i’m Alice and i’m 16. :)
I’ve never really admitted to myself that i’m bisexual but I really do think that I am. There’s lots of guys that I am attracted to but the more I think about it, the more i realise that there are girls that i’m attracted to as well. For example, I think i’m starting to have feelings towards a friend of mine who is a girl. On our prom night I couldn’t help but think how pretty she looked in her dress. We were hugging and putting our arms around eachother’s waist when we were taking pictures and it just felt so good and natural. Then I just kept wanting to kiss her. I’ve never really felt such strong feelings for a girl before, despite always thinking that i’m bisexual.
I’m scared to tell her however. Seeing as i’ve now ended Secondary School it means that I won’t be seeing her all the time and it makes me so upset. We still meet up and everything but I just don’t know what to do. I want to tell her how I feel because I sometimes think that she feels the same way about me. However I don’t want to tell her how I feel because I don’t want to ruin what we have and I don’t want her to hate me. What should I do? It makes me so upset.
Because i’m so shy and awkward around most people, it’s hard to be in a relationship with anyone, especially witha guy. I’ve never had a relationship before. However with my friend I just feel like I can be myself and i’m never nervous around her.
Like, the other day I found out that two girls who went to my school were not going out with eachother. They’d always been really close friends but it turned out they’d been dating eachother for two months. When I went through pictures of them kissing and stuff it made me feel really upset because that’s the kind of relationship that I want to have with a girl.
Can someone please give me some advice and help what to do?
My emails x-alice_luvs_music-x@hotmail.co.uk
Thanks.

August 15, 2010 at 12:27 am
(204) Mel says:

Im 12 turning 13 this year. I am so confused. I like this guy at school, but then i like one of my best friends way moreits like i really wanna kiss her. i fantise about her in the shower. i watch alot of lesbianporn cause it turns me on.i think im lesbian… HELP!! add me if ur 12. 13. 14.

August 23, 2010 at 6:40 am
(205) lisa says:

ive never had an attraction to boys that much but ive always had an attraction to girls. they seem to just giv u this feeling that makes you like them. its kinda confusing.

i enjoiy watching lesbian porn it gets me realy horny. if your thinking of becoming or not sure if your a lesbian, watch some lesbian pron and find out, it realy gets me excited. :)

September 11, 2010 at 8:47 am
(206) Lucy says:

i’m 16 and i’ve had sex with men and women i liked the girl better :)

September 26, 2010 at 7:12 pm
(207) ashley says:

when i was 12 i met this girl,up until then i was 100% straight as far as i knew.but when i met this girl i was instantly attracted to her.and a year later i kissed her and i had so many feelings going on. i fell in love with her we dated for 3 years.and i decided i was no longer straight or bi & that i was lesbian.and i dont regret anythong either. being with a girl is so amazing and i love it.

October 1, 2010 at 10:10 am
(208) christie says:

ive been talking to this girl and we have already talked about getting together,and i was fine with that until i told this guy and he asked me why did i think i was a lesbian,but i do like this girl,but the guy is really goodlooking too, but he doesnt want a girlfriend,he just wants to…..if you get what im saying,but i dont know what to do…help me out
*im so confused

October 22, 2010 at 4:15 am
(209) sam says:

Hey I’m 19 and I keep thinking about girls and what it would be like to have sex with one I really want to try it but I don’t know any one who would I get really happy when I see a girl I like I need someone to helpp x

October 27, 2010 at 8:17 pm
(210) Robert says:

My ex went thorough 3 males before deciding she was a lesbian. More power to you ladies in helping similarly inclined ladies before everyone suffers tons of heartbreak!

November 1, 2010 at 9:45 pm
(211) apple786 says:

Hi I always just thought i was straight and I had some guy crushes when i was little. but then I was on this website called fanfiction and i accidentally read some guy/girl like pornfic (or whatever) and I got turned on. Then I read some that was girl/girl and it was really hot.
I don’t get attracted to girls at school, or any girl I’ve ever seen. I like guys though (i’ve got some crushes) and now I’m like addicted to girl/girl porn. The thing is, after I watch it I feel dirty and disgusting, not just upset with myself, but psyically ill and angry. (no offense to anyone).
When I think of a girl’s body I think it’s really sensual, but when I think of guys I feel safe and happy and warm.
Like the idea of being with a girl is like a big empty fire and being with a guy is smaller, more concentrated heat, like white fire.
I don’t know. I’ve never been sexually attracted to a guy, but I’ve never been sexually attracted to a girl that I saw either. I’ve never kissed anyone (guy or girl) and now it seems like i’ve got bi friends coming out left and right, and Im’ just like “is this me too?”
I don’t know. In the end I can’t picture having any kind of relationship with a girl.
so someone please reply: what do you think?

November 4, 2010 at 6:40 pm
(212) Help is on the way says:

Hey dont worry i am called a lesbo by these 2 girls but im soo not and if u r thats ok but just make sure that u dont do anything u regret find a guy u like and make the first move if u dont like him then keep looking for a guy u like a lot this isnt saying to marry him but maybe after that u will know hope this helps a little

November 13, 2010 at 3:00 pm
(213) blue 32 says:

Hi i need some advice there is this women that is married.
i work with her about 7years ago . i ran in to her at my job
i feel happy to see her but i hide my feeling be cause she is marreid and has kids i cant be selfish. if know whin i look in to her blue eye i feel as if i know her forever and all i can think about is how warm and soft her touch would be .
I think iam doing the rigth thing i have to look at the big picture. and not be selfish. i do love her

November 13, 2010 at 11:19 pm
(214) Jewel says:

Hello, I am 14 and i have been with the same girl twice. We didn’t go all the way.. she fingered me and felt me and we made out but thats it. I loved it.. but i have a bf, but i don’t like him. I have never liked any of my bfs. I think i am a lesbian.. And i wanna be one. I love being with girls. If i think about dick and doing stuff with guys it makes me sick to my stomach. I have never kissed a guy either. And right now i am so horny for HER. [:

November 21, 2010 at 6:40 am
(215) laura says:

I think i am a lesbian. It started when i accedentially clicked on a photo of two girls lying on top of each other kissing and grabbing each others asses. (type in girls kissing into goggle and click on images its the first that comes up.) I dont fancie my teachers or my friends but that photo really turns me on and i feel like i want to make love with another girl and so on. I have had boyfriends but it never worked and none of my friends are gay but i really want to try it out, i just hope someone who is a lesbian comes to my school. Does anyone else feel like this? I have also written a story for that perfect night and have left spaces for her name.

November 21, 2010 at 8:00 am
(216) Kc says:

I am 15 and attracted to boys but I keep thinking I am a lesbian lesbian because I think womens bodys just sort of turn me on, the curves and shapes, I have never been attracted to a girl ind I really hope inever will. Inane been worrying about it so bad that I cry and everything. Inane asked my friends and mum but they just say I’m being stupid. But I have been worrying so much that Im scared I might turn lesbian one day. And worrying makes me think of kissing and having sex with girls and I keep getting turned on. I’m sorry to those who are gamut please please tell me am I a lesbian or bi and how do you know completely if you are gay. Please please help me

November 21, 2010 at 9:30 am
(217) laura says:

hi i have commented before on comment 215 and if you are around 13 or 14 and looking for someone you can email me on [removed]

November 24, 2010 at 1:43 pm
(218) kitana says:

hey so im 11 nearly 12 and i think im biesexual , my friends say im not but who r they to judge my sexuality ? anyways wuts it like later on , i have already planned my lesbain marriage

November 24, 2010 at 2:11 pm
(219) Sof says:

Hey , im sof , im 13 nearly 14 and i think im bi .
Resently i had fun with a friend like feeling up and stuff . But now she is completly weireded out ! Tell me if ur interested ! Xoxo

November 24, 2010 at 2:35 pm
(220) laura says:

hey Sof im really interested!

November 25, 2010 at 3:29 pm
(221) laura says:

im free if anyone wants me. i have had the basic experiance just leave a comment and ill get in touch

December 6, 2010 at 5:43 pm
(222) em says:

i think its best not to kid yourself, you know in your heart if your gay or not, so just be true to yourself, anyone needs any help send me an email 1994emilytaylor@gmail.com. i found out not long ago that i was a lesbian so anyone whos confused or anything send me a message xx

December 9, 2010 at 1:35 am
(223) kebz says:

i dont know if i am gay but, i like looking at girls, and the issues about homos really get to me, but i do fantasize about boys, but i have no feelings for any guys i have met, and my friends ask me if i am asexual, lol becuz i never have feeling for anyone, maybe if cuz guys are such dicks, they annoy me, maybe i am waiting for the right guy, and i fantasize about gay guys i dont know why but, i am confused as hell, can anyone tell what this is bi, lesbo, straight?? i dont have an effing clue!!!

December 10, 2010 at 9:49 am
(224) Candy says:

Now I’m 25 years old .When I was 19,i found I have strange feeling to her ,before this ,I’v known her about a year ,I didn’t know how this feeling happened.But I know I love her ,I can’t express my heart to her ,because I heard nothing like les around me before.The only thing I do is making friend with her .It is hard time for me ,because she didn’t know someone like me love her ,she often went out with different guys,I see these ,my heart is broken and sad ,but nothing I can do ,sometimes I’m afraid she would find me abnormal ,It’s OK ,she never find out .After gratuated from college ,I have 5months with her ,we slept together in one bed ,but two blanket,begin I have no desire to her ,we are too tired from work ,but slowly i found I started have dreams which she is in ,and some nights I can’t control myself ,I touched her body, cuddled her and rubbed her breast ,I feel excited.But these things I only have done five times .I felt scared ,I regreted it more time,I hurt her .So I force myself don’t face her and face to wall when we slept ,the desire was controlled .To my surprise and let me confused that time she never rejected me and stop my behave,why ?until now ,I didn’t understand .Afterward she left ,we never said anything about emotion .We would always be best friend .I never have a formal boyfriend ,so I don’t know what to do ,I will follow my heart in future .

December 10, 2010 at 3:23 pm
(225) amee says:

I am 22 and even though I am not atracted to girls(and don’t think I ever will be) I love lesbian porn. It really turns me on and I even think about it when I masturbate. I have thought about trying to do “stuff” with another woman but I’m not sure if I can do it because I try to imagine how it would be in real life and it just isn’t for me. I would love to chat with another girl who feels like I do! strwberry_cupcake_luvr@hotmail.com

December 16, 2010 at 1:53 am
(226) Annalbell says:

i am 13 and i have this friend she is a transvesite. someone who dresses like a man and is a girl i am so attracted to her…what do i do i have dated boys i started knowingly masterbating at 9 and i dont know what to do i also think i might be lesbian because when i was younger i totally thought this girl my best friend was hot i am scared i am gonna do something that i shouldnt do like make a move on accident although i am only a middle schooler many of my friends have come out. i dont know i made out with three girls before the one i mentioned and the other one from when i was younger’s sister, and my best friend till this day but only one i still think is the best one ever. the first one what should i do???

December 16, 2010 at 12:05 pm
(227) laura says:

hey i am 13 aswell maybe we could start talking?

December 22, 2010 at 12:00 am
(228) Secrets says:

Well it depends. Give yourself time. If your attraction to girls fades away, then it doesn’t. As well, like Sam (comment 3) said, it also depends on your attraction to guys . . . And no, it is NOT all about sex!!!

December 23, 2010 at 3:49 pm
(229) Cassidy says:

I am lesbian, and proud of it. I have sex with other women on a regular basis, and now am engaged with my girlfriend.

December 26, 2010 at 6:22 pm
(230) Debbie says:

Hey Help?
Im 14 And A Girl i have no idea if im lesbian or not the thing is i dont want to be:/

I Have never had a crush on a girl in my life! like at school i never see a girl and be all oh im in love with her :L
i loveee boy’s Like Hot boy’s you know :L
but i watch lesbian porn and i allways end up masturbating to it!
so what’sup with me? Help?

Out– Demi x

January 7, 2011 at 12:31 am
(231) Mallory says:

Hi im 12 and i dont know whether im bi or whatever all i no is i think i like my best friend! :/ But shes strait. If i am lez, how do i tell my parents? I dont think im lez but…. I fantisize… :/ Help!

January 14, 2011 at 12:04 pm
(232) Jess says:

I am 15, and like most people i am kind of confused about my sexuality Which is normal………..People need to understand that is is normal to be confused. But the one thing that has shocked me is al the 12 and 13 year olds saying they have done more than just kiss with boys and girls.You are only kids….Yous should wait, grow up and have fun while you still can. Dont stress you have the rest of you life to worry about it. Also how do you know that your “straight” friends arent thinking the exactly same as you are? Like i have said already, Slow down, dont stress :)

Hope that has helped everyone :)

January 18, 2011 at 3:08 pm
(233) Becca says:

Hi my names becca,Im thirteen years old and I’m beginning to question my own sexuality…since I can remember I’ve been attracted To girls. But I’ve never really admitted it to anybody. A few months ago me and my friend kissed,it was amazing and I’ve been attracted to her ever since. I still like boys,but threes something I find so attractive about her. Were really emotionally close but I’m not exactly sure..

January 23, 2011 at 9:50 pm
(234) Lizzie says:

I am 17 two but i think i’m a lez but i dont know i like this girl sooo much but i’m soooo scared to talk to her i have not talked with her in a while but i can pic me with her and kissing her and stuff but i dont know if i am. i am scared to tell my friends about my crush but she is sooooooooooo HOTTTTTT.

I just also want to say thanks to who asked this in the first place. I think it is a big ? in all of our lives.

January 23, 2011 at 10:07 pm
(235) Elizabeth says:

OMG i think i am in LOVE with this girl named Jen :) but she is soooo hot and i cant get her off my mind all i can do is pic my self kissing and stuff. SHE IS SOO HOTT bye da way i’m 12.

help me please

January 24, 2011 at 12:44 pm
(236) Sophia says:

hi im 13 and i have fantasies about me and a girl together she is really hot and sexy i dont no if im a lesbian tho or if im straight help me plz

February 2, 2011 at 3:54 pm
(237) Confused says:

Hi so I found this when looking up ‘how do I know if I am gay?’
I am 17 and have been with guys and never a girl however I have close friends (girls) whom I often have sexual banter with. A lot of the time its joking but some times I feel more. A few of my friends have come out recently and it got me thinking- I am now questioning if I am gay. I fantisise about women and men but im not sure if I like/date guys because im scared of admitting to myself that I may be gay. I am SURE it is not however I always find people who say they are bi as confused and id like to know if I am straight or gay? Part of me wants to be gay although part of me wants to be the conventional ‘norm’ I think im just scared as to how people may react if im gay. ahh im soo confused one min I am almost certain im a lesbian others im sure im straight!?

I have posted this on the off-chance that someone may respond to it??
x

February 3, 2011 at 9:36 am
(238) unknown says:

Hello. This is the first time I will talk about this. I just don’t know what I am anymore. I’m 20 years old and I never have a boyfriend before that’s why its so hard for me to know whether I’m a lesbian or not because I still don’t have a relationship with a man or woman. The thing is, I like watching lesbian shows or movies. My god, I finished the entire season of the L word. I watched “think straight, loving annabelle, better that chocolate and many more” and I liked it. I liked it a lot. And there’s this girl I liked when I was still in highschool. I always think about her and always find her around campus just to look at her. We were friends back then but we started not to talk because I was so shy to talk to her or even look at her in the eyes. And when I graduated, i totally erased her in my mind thinking that I was just attracted because she has a really nice voice which I liked. I like boys too. I find them hot and sexy but there are really times that I want girls. Its really hard for me to describe this because lesbians are not accepted that much here in our country. I really don’t know what to do.

February 5, 2011 at 4:43 pm
(239) BiCurious says:

So im 19, and i would say im flexisexual as im into guys and girls, but recently since ive gotten close to a friend who is gay i’ve had the urge to kiss her but i can’t as she’s got a gf :( such a shame. However for all you confused girls out there the best way to figure out who you are is by doing nothing!… i no sounds crazy, but if you try to figure out who you are by watching films etc its just going to confuse you more, just let yourself go and like who you want. But if you are lost talk to someone it really does help i guess im lucky as i can talk to my sis n friend about it :) x x

February 6, 2011 at 5:00 am
(240) Dandie says:

Okay , so …
Be free , because it don’t matter who u are as long as ur happy . So love who u want . But just saying ,that’s called bi , when u like boys and girls .

February 8, 2011 at 4:17 pm
(241) Charlie says:

Hi im 14 (girl) and i already know that i am attracted to boys and girls, my problem is that i really like this girl and i have for a bout a year but i dont know if shes a lez or not :/ or even likes me back i have so much trobble seeing her everyday and + i havent come out yet either, help!

February 9, 2011 at 9:47 pm
(242) erin says:

I am literally having the same problem. I have an amazzzinnngg bf and we talk about getting married and all that, but i always think about girls. And not that every girl i see i think “omg i want to have sex with her.” even my close gf’s i could never touch. In fact, i’ve never even hooked up with a girl..I dont know any gay girls, so its hard to know. basically, im super confused…help?

February 16, 2011 at 2:28 pm
(243) andrea says:

Hi my name is ANDREA am 30 yrs old. About a year ago i met this girl who is driving me cracy because am constantly thinking about her, forgot to mention i have being married for 13 years and a have a boy, all my life i tought i was straight now am so f—- confused is not funny, am trying to figure out what is that i feel about Ayle but is impossible because she would not even look at me, try to contact her to talk to her and she tought i was a stalker. Non sense, i know i gave her details about my life that might creep her out like i was so stupid to tell her the first day we talk i was married and i was so atracted to her , i didn’t know how to make her understand but i knew i want it to be completly honest with her and not lie about my life, she must think am somebody that doesnt know what i want and i was going to take her to experiment or something.

February 17, 2011 at 5:25 pm
(244) sam says:

hi im 18 and i really like girls alot but for the past 8 yrs i have been dating boys because i dont want my friends to findout that i like girls because i dont know how they will react to me telling them.

February 17, 2011 at 11:10 pm
(245) alex says:

I am 13 and I have a question. I am I a lesbian because I like boys like I like girls. I like dressing like a boy I like doing watever a boy does I feel so confuse. please if you have an answer email me at :

February 22, 2011 at 10:44 am
(246) Cassie says:

I think you are a lesbian or bisexual(you still like guys) if you are able to fall in love with a woman. If you are able to then there’s your proof.

February 28, 2011 at 11:26 pm
(247) jj says:

Is finding another lesbian to love and apriciate u hard?

March 7, 2011 at 11:35 am
(248) binx says:

hi im 13 and im really confused, im no im young but i dont no what to do. Ive liked girls before, and now i have a really big crush on one of my best friend(girl) but shes straight , and i have iked boys before, but i always think about kissing girls and being with them, and i dont do that with boys, i just have this weird feeling inside thats hard to explain, i wish i could tell someone but my friends are all straight and my parents hate the “gays” ive never kissed a girl (or a boy) so i dont no what it feels like, but i really really reallly want to kiss this girl, i dont know if im a lesbian, bi or straight. PLEASE PLEASE help me What do you think i am, a lez, bi or straight? P.S ive always told myself im not a lesbian cuz its not normal.

March 10, 2011 at 10:37 pm
(249) willow says:

i think im gay but im not sure can you help me

March 15, 2011 at 2:57 am
(250) sona says:

@binx-same here i’ve olways wntd 2 kiss hr(my bst frnd bt she has a bf)…..btw if u dnt mind cn u chat wid m in yahoo or fb???

March 16, 2011 at 11:43 am
(251) binx says:

sonna: yeah i would love to chat on facebook, cuz im really confused so yeah whats your facebook and we will chat (if ya want) thanx.

willow: i will try and help but can you explain your problem a bit more??

March 16, 2011 at 5:58 pm
(252) Sian says:
March 19, 2011 at 7:26 pm
(253) Sophie says:

Right, here is what i think. I think about being with grils and guys so i dont lable myself. I have only been with guys but when i see a good looking girl, i think about them, all the time, and it drives me crazy! But i think its important that you go for the person, not such much the gender.
If i am gay though, how do i come out to my friends? I dont want them to act strange around me.

April 3, 2011 at 5:34 pm
(254) Esme says:

Hi I am a 14 year old girl, I’m sure I am lesbian. I have told my mum, my dad and sister…their totally cool, they don’t care they are amazing and would never judge me. I am Christian, and beleve that god will accept me for who I am, because who I am was his intention. I did tell my best friend; she was a total idiot about it, so I told her that if she woulnt accept me, then I couldn’t be her friend anymore, so that was that. And Im glad I told her, I’m glad not to be wasting any more time on somebody like that. Your REAL friends will be fine: the people that mind don’t matter and the people that matter don’t mind, (I love that saying it is sooo true!) of course your differences will make life a little harder, but easier to identify who your real friends are!
So I really want to talk to people in my position, see what advice you have for me… (I don’t want advice from know it all adults, telling me I am too young to decide, to think about school…(I am very hard working at school, I don’t know anyone who works as hard on their schoolwork.) but I want advice from people who know what I’m going through.) I want to meet somebody, theirs no local groups around me or at my school, so I am not sure…I need somebody I can fall in love with, someone feminine-like I am! Now I have discussed it at length with my family I want to so badly…any suggestions?…………..

April 4, 2011 at 6:44 pm
(255) Kennedy says:

Hey, I’m 13 years old and I feel as though im attracted to women.. And sometimes boys :/ so as u can see it’s very depressing and stressing :/ but I feel as if I want to kiss a girl more than a boy right now. I really like this girl (my best friend friends with her for nearly 6 years) I just want to hold her close to me and maybe kiss her I’ve brought the lesbian thing up with my friends about what’s they’d do if one of us turned lesbian a few wouldn’t mind but the girl I like finds it werid and says she was how should we put it disown them. So I don’t know I haven’t spoken to anyone about it yet. I know a couple of years ago a discussion came up between my mother and me saying she would not care if I wanted to hang my religion or sexuality.. Its not really my mother I’m pariculary worried about comin out to but my father…well that’s another thing.. He well I haven’t got a strong relationship with my dad never did left my mother when I was 3 months old occasional hour together but never father daughter stuff like visiting my nan by luck he’s there he will never go out of his way to come see me paticualry (got a bit sidetracked lol) we’ll anyway I heard my man and my dad talking about gays and lesbians nd well it scared me because I had my suspicions at the time.. Can I say it was said as tho they’d never met a gay person. And how it is werid seeing two women together.. Well that’s my dad. But school as well I’m worried and trying to find another girl to be happy with. Please has anyone got any tips on coming out atoo my friends and mother ( not quite my dad lol) email me on oh and is it just a phase or a part of growing up (because I really hope not) or is it my sexuality because the thought of kissing another girl makes me get butterfly in my stomach lol :)

April 5, 2011 at 4:14 pm
(256) Esme says:

Hey Kennedy! I think if your mum will be fine then tell her! I am 14 and I’m sure I am a lesbian, (I commented just before you, that will give you some background.) I knew my family would be fine, but it IS a very very hard thing to tell. If your not close to your dad, then don’t tell him straight away, (he’ll have to find out eventually, when you invite a girlfriend to tea!…;))
When I spoke to my mum, I felt better! That secret wasn’t all bottled up in me anymore! Like I said, I really want to meet somebody so do you have any thoughts on that? If you don’t then reply anyway-I just want to talk to people in the same situation as me! I know I’ve got my mum but she has not a clue what it’s like to be a lesbian, she says she thinks it’s good I’m one because women are so gentle and will understand me better (I mean, sinse WHEN have men really ever understood women properly!?) she says she sometimes wishes she could be! Also, you know that girl you like, I know how you feel! I get crushes on girls ŵho will never like me back as they are straight, no matter how hot I make myself look…lol! Not to try to give you ideas, but when everyone thought I was straight, I used to really reject any lesbian stuff, and be kind of awkward about it. For a while I liked this girl, and she would cuddle me or lean against me and I would think: “maybe she likes me!?” but I had to realise The harsh reality. If she’s like that, (and I know it’s hard) you need to let go, move on. You could be bi, sometimes I think I’m bi but then I realise that the pen us repulses me! :/ when you fantasise, try thinking about boys, then girls, BUT NOT THAT ONE! It’s not good for you; you could be the hottest chick on the planet but a dead straight homophobe won’t like you back. It’s not fair, I know, but i’m afraid it’s true, but the right person is out there for you, do a bit of experimentation! Please reply! X

April 5, 2011 at 6:13 pm
(257) Kennedy says:

Hi esme. I think what my problem really is is that I’m not sure whether I am lesbian (it’d be awkward if I came out to everyone then few weeks later seein a boy lol) but like I said the thought of kissing a girl makes me happy you know. But the thought of kissing a boy not so much lol :/ yeh men have never understood women lol! So if u wanna chat with me reply. :)

April 6, 2011 at 11:32 am
(258) Esme says:

I see! Oh thanks for replying! I know how you feel, I think I like boys sometimes, but when I picture kissing girls I get butterflies aswell! ;) have you ever had a boyfriend…get one! One that you fancy! You could be bi! Or a girlfriend, just to see weather you like it! If you are bi, then that’s great!!!! You get the best of both worlds! (for a while, I thought I would try both, but now I just want a searos relationship with a girl because I am swaying towards that.) yeah I see you point, you could just discuss it with your mum…
X

April 6, 2011 at 1:01 pm
(259) Kennedy says:

Hey esme yh I have had a bf in primary.. I could try to have an bf but I don’t fancy any boys (nobody likes me n e way lol ugly I suppose) I fancy one girl my Bff just told her today that I might be gay she took it fine lo. Two of my closest friends now no I might b gay and it took a huge weight of of my shoulders. Li don’t suppose I could go out with a ggirl don’t know n e one who is bi or les and I don’t think any of my friends will offer to like in some way experiment (kiss em) lol

April 6, 2011 at 4:22 pm
(260) esme says:

oh kennedy thats amazing! yeah when you tell its kind of heavy but you really do feel like a huge weight has been lifted! i would also kind of like to ‘experiment’ but, like you, all my friends are straight!
also, don’t think your ugly! i have never sean you, but don’t think that. i know its like the law not to like the way you look…im no expert, but i know that, if your confident, boys….AND GIRLS… ;) will like you. thats just how stuff works! are you in england, or america? im english, by the way. xo

April 6, 2011 at 5:47 pm
(261) Kennedy says:

Hey esme! I am actually welsh lol! Hoping to meet a gay girl some point lol actually experiment then yah know give it time I might come Pinot the closet and other people might too lol !

April 6, 2011 at 5:59 pm
(262) Kennedy says:

*come out of the closet* *sigh* iPods….

April 7, 2011 at 2:21 pm
(263) Esme says:

That’s amazing! Yes I like your thinking! Other girls will come out if you have been strong first! But be careful, because people can be rediculos about being a lesbian, which is not fair, and its un just…it’s not our who we fancy! it could be boys, girls, both…its just something we have no controll over! i cant wait to get a girlfriend! as soon as i do i am gonna let my friends know! your welsh thats cool! i love wales have never been but it apeals to me. Sorry I didn’t reply earlier, I had a school trip…
Anyway I am really happy for you that your friends have been so accepting! What did they say when you told them? Have you told your mum? Xo

April 7, 2011 at 2:58 pm
(264) Kennedy says:

Did you enjoy your school trip? My friends weren’t bothered lol. I find it easier that way lol. Went out with my friends today. One girl dosent know i like other girls lol so she was saying how cute boys r and which one do I like lol stuff like that haha very awkward so i just played along lol (the girl is pretty gossipy so I don’t trust her and I don’t think I’m ready to come out lol) pretty funny actually. Nope I haven’t top my mum yet. Not ready too yet too much going on in my life (and hers) at the moment. I can’t wait to find a girl. Nobody I know is gay! Lol have you anyone special in mind ?

April 7, 2011 at 3:42 pm
(265) esme says:

heeeey! no i am afraid that the school trip was boring…we went to see this play, it was good but really wearid! did you have a nice time with your friends?
i don’t blame you for not telling gossipy girls. (none of my friends know, apart from that ex-friend i mentioned earlier, i have all her secrets, so she wouldn’t DARE tell mine!) when i meet somebody i am gonna start telling. i REALY want a girl too! but everyone i know is straight! no i havnt really got anyone on my mind, i get crushes, but i try not to kid myself… i know i used to like this girl, but i knew she was streght. its wearied though, because i have a feeling she thinks i like her boyfriend! like you said its wearied talking about boys when you know you like girls, and she said: “who do you like?” (i didn’t know they were going out lol!) so i said that i didn’t know but that this boy jasper was cute! and i had a crush on the girl for a while! im more likely to want to go out with her lol ! jasper is really nice and cool but it just feels really wearied to me… if i did have to go out with a boy, it would be him, and so i find myself not liking them together. but im not in love or anything, but i want love with a girl! do you have your eye on anyone special?xo

April 7, 2011 at 5:35 pm
(266) Kennedy says:

Yeh really enjoyed except from the odd moments wen my friend would point at a group of boys and ask “which one?”!
No I don’t have anyone in mind lol don’t fancy anyone around my area right now. :/ guessing I’m waiting for the right girl to come along haha! Knowing me I will probably fall so hard for a straight girl and it will hurt after awhile.. ell I guess has life :/

April 7, 2011 at 5:54 pm
(267) Esme says:

Ohh! What did you say when she did that!? You still like boys a bit though, don’t you? Or is it mostly girls now? But how awkward! You need to join some lesbian groups, wait untill whatever is going on with you and your mum gets ironed out, then I really do think you should tell her, then you can join groups…you never know, now that a few people do know, someone could come allong! X

April 8, 2011 at 2:55 am
(268) Kennedy says:

Hmmm… Lesbian groups! Dosent that mean I’d have too come out to people? Well thanks you’ve been. A great help thoughout our convosations so thank you you gave me the confidence to tell my two best buds! :D

April 8, 2011 at 8:55 am
(269) Esme says:

That’s fine I know how it feels! Thank you for being there to talk to! You would not have to tell everyone to join a group, they can be so desecrate…I am about to join some and the only people who know are people exactly like me who are part of it themselves, but it did help, my mum knowing, remember that your mum had you because she wanted to be a mother, which means being there for you, even if it’s not the best moment. But I understand though, if you feel like your burdening her, I always feel bad. It’s up to you, if I was your mum, I would want you to tell me, then you can join groups and get a girlfriend!lovely to speak to you! Xo

April 10, 2011 at 4:28 pm
(270) id rather not say says:

im 11 i like boys but i never really works out i also like girls too. i know its not a phrase. at my sleep over last night i got into a fight and went out side the other girl went and cheered me up. we huged and i kissed her onj the cheak this morning i told her she was not mad i was sooo glad

April 14, 2011 at 10:55 am
(271) Heather Elizabeth says:

I kissed my friend once.she wanted to see if she was a good kisser! she was great but tehn like iwanted to make out wiht her so bad! then we did for a min then she was like eww! i was likeikr ! i jaut wanted to kiss her more!i dnt know waht to do how to i tell my so called boy freind&& i dont wanna go around looking for a gf and then everyone will n=kno im lesbian! and if i am the only one?! im on ly in middle school to!

April 14, 2011 at 3:59 pm
(272) Kennedy says:

Dilemma! Lol… My best friend Ellie k I thought she was lesbian because she had never had a bf so I really ad my hopes up lol cause she gorgeous u know! Lol but I find out she’s had been dating a boy not long before christmas.. :( soo should I just forget about my feelings for her or just you know keep my hopes up??? And hope she’s bi or it’s just some sort of cover up?? Lol

April 18, 2011 at 2:28 pm
(273) robyn says:

hi im robyn im eleven and i have a crush on a boy but i feel attracted to girls ,do this mean im a bisexual or gay or normal also if i am i know in school i will have crap takeb out on me . i read some of your inspiring ways of getting through but i need a straight anwer .

April 20, 2011 at 11:49 am
(274) haley says:

heey im haley. i have a boyfriend but when i see a girl i just want to make out with her i feel like im bisexual but i really dont know. i have a long ways to go in life maybe i will find out a way to see what i really am and hopefully i am not lesbian or bisexual.

April 28, 2011 at 3:11 pm
(275) Kelly says:

glad of finally coming out to all that I am a lesbian

April 28, 2011 at 5:26 pm
(276) Esme says:

Hey it’s Esme sorry I have been away with no Internet at my aunties! sorry! Kennedy I am delighted about that girl!! GO FOR IT! Don’t come across as desperate but let her no your available. anyway how’s stuff? Still no luck for me, I am going to join a group…
Hey Haley I would love to talk to you because when I was 11 I had almost EXACTLY the same situation…
So there was this boy…I thought I was in looove. I was. He was my first love, but, I used to think sexy thoughts about my girlfriends…a lot, but also this boy. I loved him, but he was just soooo shy. I know he loved me back because he would tell his sister about how he felt and she would tell me…lol.
Shame because he will be really disappointed as he has been in love with me since year 2.
I have set up an email especially for this website, it’s not the one I use for regular. I did it cause I wanted to meet people but keep my identity safe on the Internet. I would love to talk I must talk about this girl Kennedy! And I would be really glad to help you haley as I felt the same way at 11. Email me and I will give you my real email and my Facebook. And my real name, I put ‘esme’ up here so I could feel safe. I’m sorry if you feel betrayed it was purely to protect myself but I trust you and I think it’s time we talked in private. And congrats Kelly; it does feel so good to have that weight lifted from your shoulders. All the best hope to hear soon. Xo

May 1, 2011 at 11:58 am
(277) Kennedy says:

Hey esme !! I have done the exact same thing setting up a new email nd Facebook so my name ain’t really Kennedy haha just don’t want this getting out yet! Yeahh I was hoping we could talk somehow so email me on my 2nd email address [removed by moderator] we can maybe chat on facebook too maybe lol wb x

May 3, 2011 at 1:40 am
(278) marissa says:

hey im 13 and im so confused can you help me??

May 9, 2011 at 1:08 pm
(279) confused says:

Hey, so I’m 16, my Dad’s homophobic and my Mum’s not too keen. I was brought up listening to my Dad’s views, I never really agreed but some of it was bound to rub off. I used to think it was weird to be gay when I was younger but when I was 13 I started to develop my own views, but I never thought of myself as gay, I always assumed I was straight. Anyways, for the past couple of years I’ve been more unsure, I’ve been with guys, one I wasn’t atall attracted to and never kissed. One I thought was good looking and we did stuff and I enjoyed it but not that much. I’ve been single since summer and much happier. There’s a boy in my class I’m kind of attracted to but somehow I don’t want to be with him… I’ve never been with a girl but I’ve thought about it and I think I fancy one of my best mates. I’m pretty sure she’s straight though. Trouble is, I still don’t want to be gay. I want to tell someone but I feel as though coming out to a friend would be a final; I am gay. As I’m still unsure I don’t really know whether I want that but I do want to talk to someone about it. But the only person I would ever tell is the girl I like, which makes things problematic… I would never come out to my family, it isn’t worth it. If anyone ever manages to read all that whining, what do you think, should I tell my friend? There is a gay guy I’m kind of friends with and would feel more comfortable talking to, but I’m not sure if I can trust him not to blab.

May 9, 2011 at 3:14 pm
(280) confused says:

And another thing lol. I think if I got with a girl then I would be sure, and I want to do that but I don’t know any lesbians and I’m not sure if I am gay that I want to be in a relationship anyway…

May 20, 2011 at 9:40 pm
(281) toni cooper says:

i am also 17 an i have been in a lot of lesbiean relationships an i dont have any atractions to boys

May 25, 2011 at 7:46 am
(282) LOLO says:

This is for Michelle ($) .Hey, I too am going thru a somewhat similar phase. Can we share our ideas on this. Do add me to ur chat list and we can see how it goes from there

May 26, 2011 at 10:21 pm
(283) Mic says:

I’m engaged to a man and have only ever been with men, but I’m really excited by women. I know I like women and would want to be with them if I wasn’t with my fiance. However, he is the only man in the world I am attracted to. He’s fine with my bisexuality and encourages me to be with women, but I think it’s kinda like cheating. I’m so confused.

May 27, 2011 at 6:27 pm
(284) Sarah says:

i am going through the same thing. i just dont know. i feel like i am attracted to girls but i feel like it may be a phase

May 31, 2011 at 6:32 pm
(285) Jem says:

I know how you feel…

June 1, 2011 at 7:48 pm
(286) megan says:

im attracted to my cousin its kinda strange buti dont care she came over one day during december 1year 1/2 ago and she fond out that id startedmy period ,but i got shy and she just toldme it was alright to talk about it and she started going on what it was like when she started and then it was called a day and she left but the weekend after that she came back on the saturday and whilst my mum went to the shop she accidently got her breast out and she said she did’nt mean to, then she said she wanted to check her pad in her pants so i looked awaywhilst she did it had least lasted 2 mins dont i turned back and i saw her vagina but i could,nt see the inside bit ….. it lasted one split second 4me to turn my head away again so then i lost my mind i had to be with her but its like i dont think she notices that she could be a lesbian so letme carry on then i got this weird feeling i started touching her and hugging her then sheleft ,but it was’nt over yet she came backto get her scarf ,she could’nt findi it so then she started staring atme and thenkissedme on the lips i sed yuk because she might make fun ofme but i made a big mistake that day i cud of kissed her back now im lost without her :( but i would rather have a vagina touching mine rather that a penis stuck in it releasing sperm ,i dont think i want kids.

June 3, 2011 at 7:04 pm
(287) Kennedy says:

I sort of know how u feel, I went to Paris with the school ancouple of days back… And me being me got unwell due to not drinking enough water and got dehydrated. Had major migraine so I was lying in bed curled up into a ball in pain. So one of my friends went to find a teacher. But at this point I was Groaning in pain and I heard my friends out in the hall telling sum one I wasn’t well that I was crying so these two other girls came into our room ( they r two yrs older than me) I’m not going to go into detail… So one girl came over and lied down beside me and cuddled into me. Trying to comfort me because I was crying out in pain at this point. The other girl then turned out the lights to try ease the pain. I was lying there wincing in pain and the girl who was next to me cuddled me closer and kissed my neck… I didn’t rly think much of it that night. But the next day as I replayed the night in my head, I can’t stop thinking about that girl. Yes to her that kiss prob men nothing… Her lips were so soft. I just want someone I can be close to someone who is attracted to girls. No one in my area that I no off is gay. Just wish I had the guts to tell my mum. So I had someone to talk to and maybe then she could encourage me to go to a meeting where I can meet other people who r gay…

June 5, 2011 at 10:40 am
(288) Nicole says:

Hey im 17; almost 18 and really confused.. i Have always been attracted to girls and have hooked up with girls before but i no to them it was just for fun but to me it was more than that, but i always feel guilty like im doing somthing wrong or going to get caught. I am mostly confused because i have had a few boyfriends but none of them seem too last; i always get too a point where im like *we are not meant to be; it dosnt feel right* and it is almost always because i am not sexually attracted to them. I often think about girls sexually and guys can never please me like that. But its not just about the sex; i want more than that with some1 and i just dont no what to do. Im not worried about what any1 thinks; my family are pretty open minded. Im just dont no any1 he isnt straight and i no it will take dating to an entire new level; but when i see lesbian couples i think *i wish i had that*. What do i do?

June 23, 2011 at 8:56 am
(289) Mel says:

Hey
I’m 14 and i think I might be lesbian because I have strong feelings for a girl-friend of mine but I’m not sure if it is true feeling or not because i think i might have feeling for a guy but i’m not sure and also my sister is a lesbian and she still hasn’t told my father so if i am i don’t think i could tell him which is really upsetting for me and i don’t know how to come out to my friends

whats should i do :S

June 24, 2011 at 1:52 am
(290) Katie says:

Im a lesbian and i have had two bfs but i found out tht they was major turn off. Now im dating a girl we have been dating for a year and i have to say that sex with a girl is alot better then with a man. i never screamed or moaned with a man but with my gf she drives me insane. I love the sex alot better thn with a man its more fun because you both have the same thing

June 24, 2011 at 8:10 am
(291) Mel says:

Ok I know that I’m a lesbian but i need help coming out to people because I have no idea how to so please can someone help me I really need it :S

August 29, 2011 at 7:47 am
(292) jacky says:

im 13 and i have a girlfriend its natural and completly normal.
if u think ur a lezo then try it find another lezbian makeout and spend a day or 2 as a lez then if u think its good then go for it!!

September 4, 2011 at 1:13 am
(293) Quinn says:

I’ve been MAJORLY struggling with my sexuality for the past month. I’ve never been attracted to a guy but I think I’ve been attracted to girls before. I like holding hands with girls and sitting on their laps and…just them, period. The female body is so much better to look at than the male body, to me. I find myself checking out a woman’s body all the time, but never a male.
Here’s when things get confusing. I can see myself being with a guy, and I can only kinda see myself with a girl. The idea of kissing both a girl and a guy is fine (even though I haven’t had my first kiss yet). I can’t imagine either gender when it comes to sex.
Can anyone help? I’ve been so stressed out about this and it upsets me to think about. I’ve been losing sleep ’cause of it and I’ve been worrying a big sister like figure in my life who I’ve been confiding in about my struggles. I’m so so so confused. Does anyone have any helpful thoughts?

December 10, 2011 at 3:13 pm
(294) Layla says:

hey, recently my friend french kissed me and im not sure if i liked it or not… i really want to try a girl-girl french kiss again but dunno who to with as my friend is straight. Anyone wanna meet up? contact me at if you do

January 8, 2012 at 3:23 pm
(295) DREAMBUNNY says:

i am a 14 year old girl who has no interest iin girls i have only had 2 boyfriends and i know i am 100% straight i never want to be with a girl but i find lesbians fasinating i dont watch les porn or look up girls bodies but i want to let you know that not everyone will reject you if you les/gay/bi etc. family friends people will accept you and go on let it out and if people have a problem then they are ugly on the inside. show your beauty let it shine and pour your heart out. if you love someone let them no. hope this helped xxx

January 10, 2012 at 3:58 pm
(296) Hkxd says:

I think i am a lesbian, but i am not sure. All my friends when they see a guy they say that he is fit, i don’t see a guy as fit or not and just copy what they say. If i told my parents i am lesbian, they wouldn’t he impressed. I don’t fancy girls, but l like a girls body. I am 13 PLEASE COMMENT!!

January 11, 2012 at 3:53 pm
(297) *silence* says:

Hkxd u might not be lesbian u are only 13 you still have a long way to go in life and if you have never been with a girl then you may be straight and liking girls bodies may just be your hormones. if u do becoe lesbian then grab the bull by the balls and go for it girl :) x

January 19, 2012 at 8:19 am
(298) kirti says:

Hi,
i dont no i am ib and i am not lb?
but i like girls . so pls give me ans
and my id is so pls help me.

and i love girl.

January 24, 2012 at 10:24 am
(299) bri says:

hi i an 15i have been i a lesbian relationship before but i have a problem i like girls but i also like boys but i am mostly atracted to girls i need help and how do u tell your family my mum knows and she didnt take it well so i dont know how to tell the rest of my family PLEASE HELP ME

February 1, 2012 at 1:31 am
(300) Confused girl says:

Uuh so im sixteen. I im in love with men. Always have been. But for the past year, im been having feelings for my bestfriend whos a girl. Honestly were really kinda dirty together and we hugg like 10 times a day and we act really gay and hold hands and cuddle but shes completly straight. We never do anything past that but ive always wanted to kiss her! I wanted to attack her cause shes the most beautiful girl in school. We touch alot andshe obviously doesnt have a problem with that but i always think shes gonna get freaked out at me. Or not want to talk to me. I always wanted to tell her how i feel. We say i love u all the time but what she doesnt know is that when i say i love u, i acctually mean it. When she says it, or texts it, i get this bubbly feeling inside and just wanta open up to her. But i never had the guts! I absolutly love the feeling when we see eachother and a cradle my arms around her waist. And when she does that to me. We always talk about making out and kissing and sex. By ourselves. But i know that all i will get, and give her will be hugs and cheek kisses. Shes tall and im short, so when we hug my whole body is aggainst hers and on her chest and neck. We would skip class and leave class just to see eachother and snuggle and cuddle. And she smells sooo guud. When she hugs me really tight, i have her sent on me for the rest ofthe day. Coming with me whereevr i go. Its sensational. Thats alot. Help. :(

February 8, 2012 at 1:48 am
(301) April says:

im 20 years old and i like guys but every time i see one of friends i seem different she is a lesbain and looks down on me all the time. how can i tell if im a lesbain mostly all of my friends and family are gay lesbains or bi when i was little my mom throught i was straight but i dont know how can i tell.

February 16, 2012 at 6:29 pm
(302) Jackie says:

I have a bf but I think I like my friend and I know she doesn’t like e in the same way. I am only 13 but Im really confused. Im not sure if I’m a lesbian or not cuz I really like my bf.

February 27, 2012 at 10:56 pm
(303) Michelle says:

I accepted tht I’m lesbian I’m 12 yrs old & I have this huge crush on this girl but I think she’s straight. I’m afraid to let ppl know I’m lesbian cuz all of my friends are straight :( it’s really hard but me myself I’m proud that I’m lez cause I can’t help it if I’m lez. I just love girls body’s & how they are I’m really in love with my friend I always tell her I love her but she takes it as a friend way wen Im really in love with her. How do tell ma friends tht I’m lez? It’s so hard & I just want to be with the one I love all da time i nvr stop thinking bout her I want her to be mine I love her so much!!!!! What shud i do? How shud I tell ppl so they understand what I’m going thro bein lez is a part of life & it’s normal to have feeling for da same sex. I just don’t no how to express my true feelings. I been keepin it a secret for so long I wanna tell ppl but I’m scared & I really love this girl what do I do!!!!????

March 6, 2012 at 2:33 am
(304) geeeeeeoorgie pie says:

heyy, ok. im not sure if im bi, leso or straight beacuea si watch porn (is it bad at 13 and a girl?) and i like to wath both porns leso and straight but does that mean anything?

March 23, 2012 at 10:59 am
(305) Desirae says:

I AM ONLY 13 AND I THINK I LIKE GIRLS I LOOK AT SCHOOL AND IM SURROUNDED BY GIRLS ALL I KNOW IS I ALWAYS CATCH MYSELF LOOKING AT SOME GIRLS BUTT AND WANTING THEM TO BE MY GIRLFRIEND BUT YET MOST OF THE BOYS AT MY SCHOOL LIKE ME ?

March 26, 2012 at 1:15 pm
(306) Clare says:

i know for sure im lesbian? but i like girls so much! there so attractive! but sometimes i fall in love with boys? i guess sometimes i get jelous cause all my friends have a boyfriend and i dont! but i prefere girls! yeah im in a relationship with one now but ….she lives quit far away from me! but shes really nice! i just want to kiss and cuddle her!……and anyone on here that wants to chat? reply to this and we can talk soon:) xoxo

April 2, 2012 at 8:00 pm
(307) L says:

I’m 21, currently a Virgin as im respecting my body until the right person comes along.

A gay work friend made a joke about me being a lesbian, i took it quite seriously and come to think of it i always crave attention from females? yet i find men attractive!

Am i lesbian?

April 5, 2012 at 10:03 pm
(308) Emily says:

Ok, i probably won’t get an answer, but what the Hell.
I’m 13 and i’m eternally confused about my sexuality. i don’t mind the concept of me being gay and i’m sure my family would be fine with it. but i’m scared of all the homophobic people and how i’ll get teased and possibly assaulted.
but i’m not sure if i am gay.
i do find boys attractive but i cant keep a relationship with any of them. but i do fantasize about being with girls.
i’ve heard that lesbain sex is more passionate and that intruiges me, and i dont like the sound of hetrosexual sex.
Am I Gay?

April 29, 2012 at 6:17 pm
(309) Margaret says:

I’m a lesbian, and it’s perfectly fine to think guys are attractive even if you’re gay! I went through a phase pondering whether I was bisexual or gay. I turned out to be gay. I was really turned off by thinking of having sex with a guy, or even kissing. But with a girl I thought it was pretty sexy. I have a bunch of straight friends, and whenever they have a crush on a guy, we always talk about if he’s hot or not! Remember, gay, bi, or straight is your sexuality. You’re sexually attracted that gender. You can think a guy is hot, but having sex with him might be a major turn-off. Good luck, hun!

May 31, 2012 at 9:21 pm
(310) Jessica says:

I’m 13 years old and I don’t know if I’m lesbian or strait. I went out with a guy this year, but only because he asked me out. I never really felt attracted to him, but I am attracted to girls. I know that my friends would be fine with me coming out. In fact, my best friend’s sister is bisexual. I’m just really confused and I don’t know how my family will react if I come out. And what If I come out and realize that I’m not lesbian!?

May 31, 2012 at 11:46 pm
(311) Dani says:

Well i come from a strongly religious mother im 18 and i’ve always been taught that gay isnt right and such.But for the past year or two i’ve been into girls way more than i ever have with guys.Yea i think some guys are hott and i even think about wat our kids could look like but for as long as i could remember whenever i picture my future there isnt a guy in it.i recently had sex for the first time, with a guy and i almost vowed to myself i would nvr do it again but im sooo confused.i mean im sure sex with a guy could be good if its a guy who knows wat he’s doing but its just not something i look forward to.sometimes im so sure im a lesbian then other times im like i cant because of my religious teachings.i need to know for sure what i am so i know how to go about with accepting myself for me.

June 19, 2012 at 2:04 am
(312) Danielle says:

Hey I’m 12 and I don’t know if I’m gay or not. I think I’m in love with this girl from school. I have dreams and fantasize about having sex with her. I keep thinking about it and it’s summer so I’m away from her alot and it’s becoming harder and harder being away from her. Im very confused in weather I’m gay or not and I’m afraid to tell anyone.

June 21, 2012 at 9:09 am
(313) Leah says:

I am at a very confused time in my life. I have been married twice and am now in a relationship with a man, but there’s a real problem with everyone of the relationships. I am not turned on by a man at all. If they run around in their underwear it grosses me out. During sex i can’t look at him. I have to concentrate on what is being done, but i can’t reach my goal unless i think of a woman. It was this way with the first two as well. Can you tell me what all this means?

August 8, 2012 at 12:17 pm
(314) Eunice says:

Hi i think everyone should check out ‘romantic friendship’ because it is possible that’s what you want with your friend, instead of actually being les, but idk, i just think it may help.

August 8, 2012 at 12:31 pm
(315) Eunice says:

Hi. Some of you may want to check out the term ‘romantic friendship’.
From wikipedia: The term romantic friendship refers to very close but non-sexual relationship and at times physical relationship between friends, often involving a degree of physical closeness beyond that which is common in modern Western societies, and may include for example holding hands, cuddling, kissing, and sharing a bed.
This may be what some of you are feeling/want with your friendsm but i’m not sure, i’m not an expert in this or anything but yeah, just want to open up the possibility to you all.

August 13, 2012 at 4:07 pm
(316) Confused Girl says:

Well, my friend and I had lesbian sex when we were 12, I’m now 14, and my other friend who is bisexual admitted she fancied me so we dated and we kissed. I really liked it and we stroked each others hair and everything. Now she has a boyfriend and I am deeply in love with her,it felt nice having a girlfriend! I watch lesbian porn and it really turns me on. Except I like having a boyfriend! I prefer girls but I really don’t know if I am lesbian or bisexual, but I just don’t know how to tell my parents! Someone help me!..

September 13, 2012 at 11:39 am
(317) Lauren says:

Omg i have the same problem i can get quite horny around guys but then i just think of a girls body and if i see my friends boobs while were getting changed i get super horny…

September 16, 2012 at 2:21 pm
(318) Liv says:

im 14 and a girl and ive never even had my first kiss but there is this girl on my volleyball team and were not like best friends but sorta just team mates but i cant stop thinking about her and sometimes i wonder if we could ever kiss but im as positive as i can be that shes straight. i was at one of my highschool football games and i saw her talking to a guy and my heart just died and now i dont even know what to do. i cant tell anyone cuz theyll think im weird or my friends will think i like them and i dont its just this one girl. shes the only person whos made me feel this way

im so heartbroken because we’ll never be together

September 26, 2012 at 9:32 am
(319) Gwen says:

I get your heartbroken thats exactly how i felt about this girl in camp who is bi but she acts like she’s straight. i wanted to kiss her so badly. Go to your best friend or someone u trust and tell them. i told my best friend and she understood.
goodluck

September 27, 2012 at 9:50 pm
(320) ANONYMOUS says:

IF YOU LOVE WOMEN, YOUR A FREAK OF NATURE.

October 15, 2012 at 4:31 pm
(321) L says:

I’m straight but I want to try lesbian sex so ya and I’m 12

October 21, 2012 at 2:45 pm
(322) Brittany. says:

I’ve been having this feeling for awhile. I’m just 13. Me and this girl have gotten super close. We flirt a lot, we haven’t kissed yet, but we have done some stuff that’s lesbian. I believe in god and I don’t want to be lesbian. I really like this girl though, I know I’m lesbian and so is she. Being lesbian isn’t that bad, honestly. Everything will be okay and you will find some peace.

October 24, 2012 at 6:11 am
(323) Raine says:

Wow. I’m not real sure what I am yet.
Time would solve it surely.
It’ll come to me eventually. -sigh-
I just wish one day I woke up and knew exactly who I was. xD

November 1, 2012 at 7:52 am
(324) zoe says:

hey i am zoe and i am 99.9% lesbian ..so what? im 16yrs and i had some boyfriends who i didnt feel anything when they touched me..so i thought that i might be bi or lesb.and that i am… i wiss i could shout it and tell it t everybody i know….above all i dont know eny one who is lesb exept my bisex. (ex) best friend who we were just one step away from doing sex (3 months ago).. now.not even to talk t me… so what can i do? pretending that nothing happened???..1 thing i can say..”i hate my self for loving her”.. XD…some help over here?? or to talk ..

November 7, 2012 at 12:38 pm
(325) Maisie says:

I think i’m the same. Except i haven’t ever fancied a girl i know.
I see girls on tv ALL the time i fancy, and can imagine having sex with a girl. Seeing girls kiss, or the thought of it seems normal and i like the idea! I kissed a girl when i was like 8 so obviously i didn’t get turned on, but i have always questioned myself after.
I have done things with guys, but never done something to a guy because i can’t seem to let myself.
How do i know if this is a phase? or i’m gay or bi? because i haven’t fancied an actual real life girl! :(

December 1, 2012 at 5:16 am
(326) blis deby says:

i hav feelings for both guys n girls…… i love girl’s body n i fantasize ab that….. i wanna hav sex with guy.. n feel that sometimes i wanna hav sex with a grl… i love boobs.. n boobs reallly makes ma mood on….. i love a lot of guys n i feel they r hot n wanna f** them……:( dont knw if m a homo or strait………

December 29, 2012 at 12:57 am
(327) christy says:

im 14, im sure ima lesbian but never had a boyfriend, i cant tell anyone i no or my parents about this, because they dont like lesbians im so confused if anyone want to talk to me id me glad to:)

January 29, 2013 at 5:08 pm
(328) pheonix says:

im 15 and for me it all started when i happened to stumble across an episode of the real l word after the first episode i was addicted then it was the real l word whiich i still love i mean whitney jheeze, before that i had always considered myself as straigt because iv had bfs and have only been interested in boys but i started to realise things and they clicked into place, like id remember back to when i was watching skins when i was younger and i thought effie was really hot, and the fact that i fancied my re teacher when i was in year 7 then my history teacher in yr 8 i didnt actually notice these things untill i thought about my sexuality. but not im sorta classing my self as confused or bi, aand you could call me a total closet case as i havent actually told people but i see it as this straight people dont have to come out as straight so why should i have to come out as gay. so im gonna do what i do and just be myself ill date/sleep with a guy or girl and just see what happens

February 9, 2013 at 4:24 am
(329) girlygirl says:

I’m twelve and in year 7.
I kinda have feelings for girls, but I like boys too.
Last year I kissed my 2 bffs at my birthday sleepover and kinda liked it. I don’t know what to do, none of my mates know about it and I am dreading telling them. I’ve had a crush on my mate since i can remember. Please help me, my email is rachelwade101@sky.com HELP!!!!

Ps, my parents don’t know either…

February 9, 2013 at 4:41 am
(330) Rachel says:

I like to be around girls but I don’t know if I am a lesbian or not coz I’m only 12 but i like like my bff shannon we kissed at my birthday sleepover but it was a dare soo please help me I’m rachelwade101@sky.Cool email me for tough please!!! ;)

P.s i haven’t told my mates yet or parents so i need help…

April 9, 2013 at 6:13 pm
(331) iraqidinar711.tumblr.com says:

Hey! I’m at work browsing your blog from my new iphone! Just wanted to say I love reading your blog and look forward to all your posts! Carry on the outstanding work!

July 7, 2013 at 3:37 am
(332) loretta says:

First of all don’t ask about the name it’s in case one of my friends read this they will know it’s me. Ok well I have not so recently discovered that I like pictures and videos of women having sex (by the way I’m eleven don’t judge it’s not weird… yes it is I’m eleven) any ways I think I’m lesbian or bi. I broke b up with my boyfriend because I didn’t like him any more and I was sure I was lesbian I haven’t told any one, and I know this is weird but I think my cousin knows because here comes the gross part I sorta maybe made out with her and liked it and wanted to do it more and more so did she probably, but not with her that’s gross. I’m pretty sure I’m a lesbian but I’m not sure I don’t have much attraction to guys they are gross and I have fantasies about women and dreams about them by I haven’t told anyone opposed to my cousin who might know but if I tell any one I’m scared they will not understand and I just want to know what to do my mother won’t understand my sister will laugh so will my brother and I cannot tell my dad or my step brother (cause they only visit sometimes) but I sorta have crushes on a few of my friends but I’m scared to tell them cause we are going to pine view middle now, 6th grade yay, and and I don’t want to be friendless there and people to think I’m weird oh and who ever jess on this site is does not have the write t tell us what to do do its better to figure it out now then when we are 39 or some old age and I do have a crush or two on my friends like I have one on laine.p. and hannah.m. I am so glad to get that out of the diary I never had and to let This out ok um BYE ladies or weird women here is my email please I need help now bye ladies, or really weird men (that email is not my name ;) it’s my mother’s… yeah that’s sounds smart) :D NOW BYE

July 15, 2013 at 6:54 pm
(333) corrina says:

i’m 12 and i dont know what to do at school everyone is straight and i think i get aroused or something i stick my finger up my Virgina hole it feels so………… NICE!!! but at school no one feels the same way i fantasied about having sex with a girl i want to rub and hype some girl and to kiss and mean to make-out with one it just feels right i just want a girl who wants what i want so if your 12 going to 13 email me if your interested in me (corrina.2001@hotmail.com) i will be waiting so email as soon as possible !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

July 16, 2013 at 2:29 am
(334) ucantjudgeme says:

Hi I’m 19 years old ever since I was young I’ve been attracted to girls…. When me and my friends would play when I was younger we would play house and hump each other and it felt sooo good… When I think about boys I don’t get aroused the way I do when I think about girls…and I have had a lot of sex with girls as well as boys … My point is that I think I’m strait up gay but my family won’t except it and lately there’s no one around that I can hpave sex with and I’ve been yearning to scissor and hump and lick and all sorts.of nastiness with a girl what do I do?

August 11, 2013 at 12:25 pm
(335) Julia says:

So super long back story time.

I grew up in an exreemly sheltered home. When i was little I thought ‘vagina’ was a disease! I really had no ideas about sex until the 7th grade and even then all I knew was that a man and a woman got nakedd and something happened. And then I developed my first crush on a guy I’ll call Dan. I had allways had problems making friends with guys. It was akward and I never really understood guys. But I got a huge crush on him and I have all the classic symptoms, butterflys, always wanting to be around him, ect, ect. Excpt one thing- I never imagined kissing him or anything else like that. I only wanted him to notice me and to talk to him. After about a month my feeling faded and now were sort of friends.

Then in the 8th grade I found out about what sex really was and about gay people. I have a religous and slightly homophobic family, but I have no problems with gay people. I thought ” If two people really love each other, why should it matter if they are the same gender?”

Then I began to devloped a crush on my best friend (we have been frinds for 4 years). Unlike with ‘Dan’, I don’t feel any butterflies or what ever. I can think clearly in her presents. But all I want to do is talk and kiss and have sex with and cuddle and whatever. I can never imagine having sex with a guy, only with other chicks. I still have this crazy crush- type thing on her and I’m confused! Am I gay? Bi? PLEASE HELP I APPRICATE EVERYONE’S IMPUT.

P.S. I have never been in a relationship and I am 14, if that helps.

August 15, 2013 at 12:51 am
(336) Shae says:

I’m 11 and I like girls. I really want a girlfriend so bad you Dont even understand. I want a girl I can call my own, kiss, hold hands with, a cute relationship. Idk what to do:’(

October 12, 2013 at 11:43 pm
(337) isabella says:

i am an 11 year old. idk if im lesbian but i know for sure im in love with a girl. the bad part is i might be in love with my cousin, sounds like i may loose my virginity, or whatever that word is 4 when i kiss and like ur family… pluss i also have a bf, but i dont like him, AT ALL, only using him to cover my real love. while still battling my questions on if im lesbian. so yeah. i never actuly kissed a girl but i know i’d like it. pluss, boys and/or men r nasty, descusting, abuser’s, who scare the **** out of me when they pool their pants down! so yeah, I AM NOT GOING NEAR THEM, EVER. but im still lost on my lesbian or not question. . . just need some help :(

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