How Do I know if I am a Lesbian?

i am a lesbian and i like it is so fun having sex wot girls you will like it !!!

I had sex wiv a girl m8 th eother day and it was great we liked each others virginas and everything we also snog alot lesbian life is fab!

hey I’m 17 too and I have that EXACT felling I think that this is not a phase, but I cant say that for you. Now are you sexually attracted to men or is it just “OMG he is SO hot?” only you can answer this question dont worry about it thing happen for a reason. go with the flow.

hi, im very confused i started mestubating when i was 13 years old now im 30yrs.i’ve got two lovely kids. and i’ve been having this feeling for women for a very long tym and now i think its the right tym to have what i was looking for,for a very long time. the question is how do i start?

I feel exactly the same about you, But now i dont i just push the guys aside coz it makes me feel sick to think about gettin it on with guys.. As it doesnt with girls. x keep your chin up.

hello.
i am also 17

and i have a similar problem i woudl like an answer to.
I have been dating my bf for almost 3 years now
and i love him more than anyting in the world and woudlnt ever do anythignt o hurt him.
But, i constantly find myself fantisizing about the girls body..
even my own sometimes
i dont know if there is anythgin wrong with me
i dont think.. actually i knwo for a fact that i woudltn ever have sex with aa girl
i jsut dont liek the thought of that
but i think about girls body A LOT and they are jsut so hot to me
but i love sex with a man
and im nto sure what to think
confused >.

does my heart make a flip-flop when I am with a girl I like..yes, and how!! I think of her almost the whole day. I want to kiss her, make love to her, and just be with her. I have always thought that I wasn’t so much interested in guys..which makes it a problem coz how do I know that I’m straight if I have never fallen for a guy before. I have usually rationalised that I haven’t met the guy for me that’s why I don’t feel anything for the guys that I have met beforehand..
but now, I am uncurably attracted to this girl, she feels the same way too and so we are sort of dating. I’m so afraid, I fantasise about kissing her and all but i think that perhaps it won’t be the same when i actually do it with her and so I try to postphone the event..am I a lesbian? I don’t know..but what i know is I love her and I want to be with her, if that means I am a lesbian, then yes!!!

hey
im only 15 but i also have feelings for sertain girls but i also have feelings for boys so i have desided im bi

mabey thats what you are?
anyone get any tipe on how to come out? all my friends know already but im scared to tell my mum and dad

ok who knows whether we’ll get an answer, but what the heck.
I’m 18, I’ve always had what I first felt to be an unusual attatchment to girl-mates. I never really thought much of it, until the feelings seemed to get stronger. I’m quite happy excepting if im bi or gay but as the saying goes “innocent until proven guilty” my problem is how do i go about finding myself, answering my question. All my friends are straight so they dont really understand why i dont just know.
Well if anyone does check this out, some advice will definately be appreciated.

x

Hey,
I’m 15 too and soo confused. I sort of always assumed i was straight until i accidentally watched an episode of the L word and found myself wanting to watch it again (now i’m addicted to it!) But yeah, then i realised that the sex scenes made me hot and i started thinking OK, maybe i’m gay. And i started reviewing my life and how when i was 12 me and my friend (girl) kissed (to see what it was like kissing, not necessarily kissing a girl) but i wanted to do it again. And then i watched gray matters, and he mentions he knew she was gay when she had a crush on her teacher and i realised i too, had had crushes on my female teachers. and now i fantasize about kissing my friend (girl)… but i still think “ooh that guys really hot” etc. and then i think maybe i just think i’m gay cos i enjoy watching the L word and then i’m read about straight people who watch the L word and argh I really don’t know! Maybe that makes me bi?? please help!!

Why is it that with every homosexual instance, the first thing anyone says is about sex itself? You can be homosexual without having sex, you just have feelings for people of the same sex. You love a different way, and whether you express it physically or not is a different matter entirely. I’m fourteen years old and I feel the same way sometimes. But I don’t know anything the next kid doesn’t.

I’ve decided that i am gay! I have had certain feelings for female teachers of mine in the past and i have a massive crush on my PE teacher who is also a lesbian. But i dont actually know if she come on to me wether i would actually kiss her or whatever! I have come out to my parents about being gay and they are all alright with it took some time to get used to! I told my mom first and she already had her suspisons about me batting for the other team and she seems to be correct! I have never actually done anythin with a girl i am waiting for the right person to do it with but i am 99.9% sure i am a lesbian. It can be a hard choice and has took me about 5 years to face the fact that i am actually gay! I dream about how i would like my life to be and be in a stable relationship with the girl of my dreams. Life can be hard but it will all be worth it in the long run! KEEP SMILING!

can anyone whos lesbian change and become straight? if yes how? and how can you know someone’s lesbian by looking at her?

my boyfriend took me to the strip club and bought me a lap dance.. and i loved it. and i cant stop thinking baout this girl.. i want to go back to see her, and i think about being with her….
but i am straight..
i dont know.. maybe i’m not

hey im cortney and im 13 and i dont know if im bi or a lez so right now im very strest out and i dont know to react so any have a
coment u no ask

Don’t try to define yourself as lesbian or straith. Love life, be generous. You can experiment if you want, but don’t define yourself.

Really, u should just be cool and stop trying so hard to figure out. I’m 28 now, and i only accepted the fact that i’m a lesbian when i was 21 I broke up with my bf to be with the girl (of course she left me in the end..)
Anyway, the point is, dun bother with labels and stuffs like that, just keep loving with all your heart ok babe!

girls
any one have feel, what are the main purpose to create opposite sex by GOD. any one try to search it. r v social animal or social human.
sex is realy fun but at what value ask yourself. sisters search it

im 18 and i was always kind of eeeew yukk girl on girl thats gross but the more i thought about how wrong it was the more i noticed how attracted i was, see i was being a homophobe because i was too scared to admit it to myself , but i went over seas last year and just after my going away party i ended up kissing one of my friends (girl) and the feeling was so intense for both of us she was nervous i was shaking lol but the way i explained it to her was that , im not gay , im not bi , im not straight even , im just livin and im attracted to a person not a gender so girls feel free to love whom ever you fall for , love is amazing embrace it happy days happy days bye now

It is nice to hear all the comments from girls, who, like me are so freakin confused. My situation is a bit different. I am married, have two kids, a professional job, blah, blah, blah. Seems like such the perfect straight life. But I have always had feelings towards girls and guys were just “convenient” and “acceptable” but there was always something not quite right in my relationships. My mom asked me when I was younger if I was gay or bi and I was like no, I am just curious. Recently I met this fantastic girl and now I am having this soap opera affair. I feel guilty but at the same time, I have never felt so complete with another person sexually in my whole life. It’s the first time I have felt so safe. Weird. So, am I a lesbian. Does it even matter. Maybe we just love who we love; there is no need to categorize.

hello im 14 almost 15. i have a boyfriend that i been going out with for a lil over a yr. i have always thought women were sexy and butiful. but latly i realy have falen 4 this girl but i think she is strate but idk cuz we use to always jock around that we were together she would kiss me on ym lips i never thought of it more than jst frends having fun untill we were not friends. we use to be bestfriends but we got into a fight cuz of my boifriend and we never 4gave eachother. then thier is this other girl she is bi. and she thinks im into her. she is alrite more like jst a friend. i almsot had sex with her once (long story) but i know this is more than jst a faze i dont think of my bf as some on to b in love wiht enymore i dont even feal confterable when he tuches me, the worst part is the girl im in love with dont talk to me she peaticle hates me. it hearts soo much. i cut myself cuz of wht i have done, let her go.
i just want her to b mine. i hope she is bi but i really dont know.
=/ very confuzed consumplated and sad

sit it out ad if you still feel the same way in a few mounth the give girls a try ,and if not forget it just do what makes you happy

hey, im 17 and i have a boyfriend which ive been with for over a year now. every time we have sex i think of girls, and i cant help but feel like im turning gay. but i never feel emotionally attracted to girls its just a physical thing, but i dont know weather to go for it a risk losing my boyfriend or keep it a secret.

I am done playin around, i want something serious now, i always been interested n chicks. and took me along time to consider da fact i am bisexual. but now i am still confussed. i want a real relationship with someone but dnt no wat gender. in this usa world i c myself with a male, and living in peace. and then in my dreams i picture myself with a chick. i had plenti of dreams kissing a gurl. i am a virgin with dudesz but not with chicksz. i love intercourse with gurlsz, and i am just plain scared to do it with a dude. (not da pregancy dude) but i have alot of friendsz who did it wit dudesz and regretted. and i dnt want any regrets in my life. and dudes sometimes dont interest me i use to judge a dude quickly now i just c them as them. Their might b a few that stick out. but i just cant picture myself with one. my mom is homophobic and if i come out that i am a lesbian it will be chaotic. i want to follow my heart but then i dnt want to break any.

hi im a 36 year old female, i had a girlfriend when i was 14 we lasted for 2 years then i met a lad who i got along really well with and just because it was expected of me i eventually married him and we had two kids, i often fancied other women during my marriage but always stayed faithful but i never felt truely happy, until recently that is my husband left me for another woman and i started going out partying and stuff and i have met this wonderful women who i feel very strongly about and she feels the same it has took 20 years for me to finally be the person i was meant to be

hi i’m a 12 year old girl and i’m confused i’m not sure if i’m a lesbian or if i am bi but there was this girl at camp she was really amazing her name was lizbet i tried everything so she would notice me but it still didn’t work but i got a picture of her and i can’t wait till it develops but i don’t wanna be a lesbian or bi i just wanna stick with guys and to make to worse i watch porne on youtube but lesbian porne i’m just really confused

I’m confused on this subject also. I’m a 17 year old who’s struggling with trying to figure out my place.

i’ve dated guys and i’ve dated one girl. Out of all the guys i dated (4) i only was sexually attracted to one..of course after we had been dating for a long time. The girl i fell deeply in love with and there was a point where i was sexually attracted to her.

The first time i kissed a girl, it wasn’t that great because she was my friend AND she wasn’t necessarily the type of girl i liked. So i never did anything with her. I’ve also never done anything with a guy.

Theres also the fact that i think about women more than men. I find myself trying to attract women more often than a male. Also when i have a “crush” on a girl i KNOW i have a crush on her. But when it comes to a guy, i’m confused as to how much i like him. Like, can i see myself being romantically involved with a guy? or is he just a friend.

i can’t ever see myself having sex with a guy now that i think about it. Maybe its cause i haven’t..but who knows? can someone help me? i’m tired of being confused.

Hello all you confused girls. I’m 49 years old and I had the same feelings when I was 15. Since I was from a small town and coming out was not accepted I strugged with my sexuality most of my life. It was so painful to go through life trying to be straight. I got married had two beautiful kids which I’m grateful for, but deep inside I wasn’t happy. After going through 3 relationships with men, I finally got the guts to say f***k this, I’M A LESBIAN!!!I’m so much happier now, and I wish I would have done it long ago. My best advice to you is, BE TRUE TO YOURSELF AND DON’T FAKE THE FUNK! Good-luck! It’s sooooooo much better being with a woman.

Im 15, and im going with a girl. to be honest it feels really right. I do think im confused abit. but i cant stop thinking of her. shes amazing.its really amazing being with a girl.

Hey, i am only 14, when i was 13 i decied tht i was a bi but even then i hardly had any feelings for boys but i was to scared of wht people would think, i have now come out and told people tht i am close to ‘i am a lezbian’ but i find it hard to have relationships with girls because i dont know anyone tht is even bi or gay, so i am kind of looking if anyone interested can add me on msn or summin if they like (the addy: patriciaemma@hotmail.co.uk) xx

im 15 years old. when i was little i use to wish i was a boy, and how much i wanted to end up with a girl. but now i like being a girl but i still have feelings for girls, but i also am attracted to boys. ive dated both a boy and a girl. and i like going with he girl more. does that make me bi or lez?

Hi, I’m not a Lesbian (I’m straight) but I’ve heard that a lot of Girls have fantasies about being with other women but it doesn’t necessarily mean that they are a Lesbian =)

Hope that helped X

im a guy and i say you all should add me on myspace lol ;]]

Ya well im 21 and i have always thought girls were hott without really being sexually attracted to them. I recently had two of my friends tell me that they were bi and I have made out with both of them, plus a little more with the other. All I can say is that I liked it alot, but I still dont think im gay. I think that for some people, like me, enjoying another girl sexually is only attractive because it is so dangerously forbidden and scandalous. So maybe you all should just figure out if you actually like girls or like the “playing with fire” aspect of the whole situation.

I am 22 and when I was younger, I went through wondering if I was going through a normal phase or maybe if I were truly into girls. I began to ask myself questions and put some thought into what it truly meant to be bisexual and what it meant to be a lesbian and the differences between them. I confided in some people whom I was close with and I was told by a couple of them that bisexual just means you’ll mess with anything… that bisexuals were pretty much disgusting animals. But I myself made up my mind that if a decent straight person is someone capable of loving & being attracted to someone of only the opposite sex, a gay person is someone capable of loving & being attracted to someone only of the same sex then most likely, a bisexual is someone whom is capable of loving & being attracted to either or sex and this doesn’t necessarily mean you have a girlfriend and a boyfriend at the same time. Whether or not you choose to be romantically involved with more than one person period depends upon your type. If you’re a monogamous type of person (meaning the type to settle down and commit to one person) then you can still indeed be bisexual. Whether your are heterosexual, bisexual, or homosexual, no relationship should be solely built off sexual desire alone. So, a good question to ask yourself when you’re wondering is whom am I capable of loving as well as having a physical attraction and draw too and what are my desires?

hey! i dont know what it is but i love watching lesbian porn. it makes me so horny and excited and then sometimes i fantasize about being with a girl and sometimes want to try stuff with a girl but i dont know if i can actually ever do it. am i gay? like i dont know.

hi
well im 27 and still confussed myself. when i was 18 i had a realaationship with another girl we wa together 4 10 month and fell in love. since then i have have short realationships with men and also slept with another girl.
i got it into my head that i was doing something wrong was i bi?
then just recently i met this girl and had a one night stand its not what i wanted but dont think it will turn into anything. iv never felt so happy them two days after i dont get his feeling with men.Its so frustrating.

Yeah, I know how you feel I grew up not knowing if I was lesbian or not. I messed with a couple gurls. Then I got with a alright guy had a child then found out that I wasnt into guys I love the way females are. They are beautiful in every way. Now that I am 21 I have been with a few females. I am with someone now who I have been with for over a year and we are talking about having our own family and getting her pregnant.

I thinK MAyBE UR BiseXUAl

well im 15 and like im not sure if im bi or not. theres this chick who was in my 6-8th grade class. and like she was so gorgeous, and like we were friends and stuff but like i knew i really liked her.but the thing is that we both act like homophobics(kinda) so i dont think shes gay. shes way too gorgeous to be gay :[ and i remember 7th grade summer i saw a pic of her and this guy she was going out with and my heart literally just dropped and i just broke in tears. but ive never felt like this with a guy its always been oh yea hes cute and thats it never serious like her,but im a sophmore in hs now and i usually see her when shes going to the train and me to my hs.and the first time i saw her when i became a sophmore i got so happy like my heart literally started beating so fast, and when she saw me she like ran to me and hugged me so tight :[ and i just loved being in her arms and we had a great conversation and now that i know shes goes the same way im starting to g othat way unless i look like shit. but i dont know if im bi and do i just like her because i wanna be like her or do i actually have strong feelings?

iv kinda always know tht i was gay. i nvr had th ‘gushin’ ova a boy at skool thing like my otha frends.
it took along time to bring it out int th open. to tlk abt gay things, books, films, gay issues etc. i dnt hav trbl ‘aceptin’ it, cos it had always bin thr, but th reaction of others reali got me..
i rbma my mom askin me wen i wos 16 but i denined it. im 32 now n im jus beginin t embracde my slf.. im more open abt it wth certain frends. esp my gay n bi frends.
most my frends nu n e way or hada feelin tht i mite b.
i think wot held me bak wos my parents reaction. part of me thinks tht they r atleast my mom knows.. n im not quite sure how theyl take it.. but im thinkin more n more of tellin thm cos its sucha stumblin blok for me.. myb wen i do tht thn il finally b free. (corni so i apologise)
i so need to let it go..

i ges wot im tryin to say is take ur time.. it not n e thin tht u need t truly dcd strait away (no pun intended!!) ul kno i ur own time wich way t fly.. stay tru t urslf..

take care.. XX

im 16 i keep gettig these strange feelings around girls, i’ve never been interested with boys, and girls just seem to turn the light on.
i really like my best friend for i while, then one night i asked her if she’d like to be my partner.
she didn’t answer. i felt really stupid. we’re still best friends but things don’t seem the same around us any more. if ever anyone mentions anything about lesbians or gays i tense up.
people think lesbians and gays are stupid these days and they just jip them. i really dont want to tell anyone cuz im scared they’ll either never talk to me, laugh at me, or just take it as if im joking.
i dont want anyone else to feel how my best friend feels now whenever she’s around me
some one help

I’m 21, and I don’t now what to say you girls, for me it started few years ago. I was so into guys before, just never been intimate with a guy, never really dating, just around 10 making outs , really hot making outs:). But after seeing me that I can not make a relationships with any of this or any guy even if they made me feel hot, I tried to think about other girls and real feelings like love..and so on. I’ ve never been with a girl but after this much time I think that my body and soul can not survive with out sex any more, just don’t seem normal. One of my gay friends ones asked me ” ohhh why don’t U still don’t have a solid relationship and a regular sex? Are U lesbian?” ANd I really don’t know yet but who knows, in the end all it meters that we find happiness ..that’s what I think.
Cheers

hi im 13 and im not sure about my sexuality but i have this thing for my maths teacher were i just cant stop thinking about her, i even dream about her! im SOO happy wen im with her but am sad because i know i have to leave soon. i just want to be with her all the time! this might sound crazy but it feels like im in love and im crazy about her. but im so confused and dont know what to do because i have been hiding if for about a year now and its driving me nuts! any advice?

I have always thought i was straight because thats what is ‘normal’ and what ‘everyone’ else is. However as time passes and i meet more people im starting to think that i might be a lesbian. I play football for a womens team and all bar 2 are lesbians so im always around lesbians and talking about what they get up to and things. I find a womens body so much more sexier than a mans and do fantaize about being with a women, and i do want to make that fantasy a reality. However this is not so much the sexual side with a women, just the intense relationship that i have seen lesbians can have and i am starting to desire that. I do think that guys can be really fit but i never think beyond that with a guy but i do if i saw a fit girl. also a mans dick is just so ugly and the thought of giving blowjobs makes me sick… although the thought of normal sex with a man i liked is fine. i also havent said a word to any family or friends so i feel kinda alone, its all very confussing but i guess life will find its path

hi
i am 17 and i think i am a lesbian.i have dated with some guys but nothing more,for about 2 years i have started to think about girls very hard,but i dont know any les/bi girls around me. any ideas?

I am 14 and i think im a lesbian. ive felt like this 4, 3 years and im not sure. like i ll see a hot guy and ill think “ooohh he’s cute” but then i started 2 like my friend more than friends and experiance diffrent feelings HELP ME PLZ

I am at a very similar position. I just got out of a two year long relationship with a guy, and for two weeks of that relationship (about 6 months before it was over) I dated a girl (yess, at the same time, its a longgg story). But my point is that after going all the way with her, and after we broke up, it just didn’t feel the same with my boyfriend. I stopped wanting to have sex with him, for him to even touch me, I lost all interest. Now that I’m single I am somewhat attracted to guys, but I find myself fantasizing about being with a girl again. I miss the bond and the feeling sooo much. My whole life I knew that I liked girls, I just knew it. However, I never had a true emotional bond with a girl, it was mostly sexual attraction.I am starting to think that I really am lesbian because after dating that girl all I can think about is girls. What sucks is that I have no gaydar, so I have no way of telling which girls might be interested and which are just friendly. I guess I have yet to figure out and sink completely into that scene.. but honestly, what do you guys think? Do you think I’m a lesbian if I lost all interest (and pleasure) of having sex with a guy after having sex with a girl?

i am 16 year old girl and have a crush on this girl and i think she likes me back but i have dated boys before doe this mean im gay

Hey im 15 too , but really really confused, i never really thought much about being gay to be honest it never crossed my mind but about a year ago i started playin rugby and all my friends where gay, so it became normal in my environment, then one day i was speakin to of the girls and we decided to start dating, i honestly thought i had fallen in love with her but then about amonth later i cheated on her with a nother girl! and now i find myslef constanly thinkin her but not in a sexual way so my friends say tha i don’t love her.
but then i had a new (female) teacher and i can’t stop thinking about her, and in a sexual way, i feel like i actualy love her. But i still find boys hot! please help me i am so confused and i just want a answer.

im 17 and im realy confused. it started after watching south of nowhere, i startd seen girls differently, almost as if there can be more. i thought mayb it was just crazy thoughts or fantasies. in skool i had a crush on my teacher and it wouldnt go away. there were fantasies i use to get of boys dat are now wit girls. i dont know wat to do. is it because i want attention. or am i misin luv in ma life. i still think guys r bangin. but i dont like sex wit guys at all.

I’m a straight 22 yr old woman in a 3yr relationship with a man. All of a sudden recently I started sexually thinking about women! I’ve NEVER been with a woman in my life and I love my man plus he satisfies me. HELP!!!

I’m confused aswell, idk if I’m bi, or lez. I know sex isn’t all that, but sex with a guy totally grosses me out, yet pleases me. As for a woman.. kind of confuses me but sounds hotter. I still think guys can be cute and stuff, and used to just love my ex bf. Now I like this girl, she’s so damn hot and I love her personality. But I still don’t know what to think of myself.

hey. Im 15 never been with a girl, but i have thought about alot. Like alot alot!!! i have had some pretty strong feelings about my friends, i have made myself funny one just so they wan2 be around me. I havnt dun anythin with a guy or a girl, the idea of being with a guy just disgusts me. But a girl on the othr hand sounds amzing. I just have know idea wat 2 do, my mom is a republican, mormon homophobic 50 yer old. If i tell her i will never c her again. i need help

gurl u str8. im doin da same thing. and im 16 i still like haveing sex with my boyfriend but something about a gurl just rouses me. i get a different kinda horny. who know a females body better than nouther female?

i kind of feel the same way but im scared to say anything

I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years and 4 months, and I love him more than anyone in the world. I want to get married to him and have his children in the future. But I am confused about my sexuality because lesbian porn turns me on, and I keep having dreams about being with a girl, and these dreams make me really excited! I don’t want to be with anyone but my boyfriend, but I think I may be bisexual, or maybe just curious about what it is like to be with a girl sexually. I have talked to my boyfriend about this and he does not mind if I explore with another female, but I’m too scared to try something new! I want to know, but I am afraid to find out whether or not I am bisexual!

i am 16 and i knew at a very young age i would often make out with my friends one time i even had sisters lol but seriously for some people its easy to doscover for others its not all i kno is that you cant over think it to much youll drive urself crazy! so just go with the flow try it out if your feeling a little to uncomfortable then maybe its not for u and is just a phase

Hey! im 23, and, when i started to date, i date guys.. but.. there was something wrong.. i never felt in love or so happy.. so i never had a relationship over 6 months..

so, 2 years ago, i started to feel something for this girl, friend of mine.. and two months later we fell in love..

this december we celebrate 2 year anniversary and it sooo right and we are so in love and now i understand why i never fell with a guy.

in the other hand, my family doesnt know anything cause they are extremely religious and i think its too much for them to deal with.. so im happy and they are happy

Pol.

hey im 17.. and i use to be like that im a lesbian and in a very wonderful relationship. when i was younger i had a boyfriend and i always thought about girls and how hot they were i never thought i would have sex with a girl but i feel in love with a girl and i really didnt care what i did with her, as long as i was close to her and could just make her happy. she was straight and said she would never make love to a girl or even consider it.. but she doesnt think of me as a girl she thinks of me as someone who makes her completely happy..

all in all. just be with someone who makes you happy that you could see yourself spending the rest of your life with, and it will be perfect.

so im 14 nearly 15 and iv had my suspicions for a while. In yr 7 and 8 i fancied my female english teacher, now in yr 9 and 10 i fancy my history teacher and im starting to fall for a girl/woman in my village. do i respect older women or do i fancy them . they just seem like very very close friends but i fanticise about making out with them or me being in peril and them saving my life or visa versa. im sorta confident im les coz iv never fancied a guy

Maybe you’re BI-sexual (meaning you like males and females) It’s perfectly normal and quite common where I’m from (canada)

also.. let me say… it doesn’t matter what you label yourself as. You are YOU and you like whomever you like. So don’t stop yourself from having something beautiful because of your gender orientation. It’s not worth it, hun. Trust me.

I want to be straight but i cant, ive been having crushes on this girls and theres one in my bus, to me all i wanna do is spend time with her, but because of me staring at her too much it became obvious, now i want her to be my friend but i cant cause she knows… can anyone help me please?

Hey everyone. My name is emily and i am 14 year old. I hav enever been with a girl in my life… Yet. but i tend to be more attracted to females. I have been into guys sense i was able too walk. i’m not kidding. but when i was five years old. an older girl told me it was okay to do things with girls. and i was young and beileved her of course. and i think that a womans body is the most amazing thing in the world. : ) and i am curently taken by this guy i’ve been crushing on for the past year. but now i feel like he isn’t my type. i honestly think i may be Bi-sexaul… and want to know what are some of the warning signs??

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http://www.myspace.com/emilycushman

Message me if you have an answer please! : )
thanx : )

-Emily

well, im 14 years old and im almost 100 percent sure tht im lesbian. some times i think tht i mite be messed up in the head. when i fall for a girl, i fall hard. its almost like i become obsessed with trying to get there attention. on more than one occasion, i have ended up getting in fights with these girls. i have had NO experience with getting girls attention, and the only way i kno how is to meke them mad. i have only fallen for 2 girls in my life. one was 1 yr ago. we came soo close to having sex. it was at school, all alone, in the locker room. she was ready, but i wasnt. she moved to texas, so i made the hardest choice, and let her go. the other girl was her cousin. she practicly hates my guts! im soo confused! id do anything to be with her!!

okay so i have been attracted to girls for at least 4 years. i am 16 years old and i have had both boyfriends and girlfriends and i am attracted to both but i always enjoy myself more in the company of a girlfriend. i moved to a new area about 6 months ago and im super attracted to a girl friend. we talked about being attracted to girls and she doesnt know my whole story and i really wanna tell her. we talk about everything and i know i can trust her but i want to tell her how attracted i am to her. she is beautiful with an amazing body and all i want to do is please her and kiss and lick her from head to toe.. but i dont want to tell her and weird her out then ruin our friendship.

ok so im 13 and i have had like a million crushes on boys in primary school but now im in an all girls school and i everytime im close to my (girls)friends i just feel like im gonna kiss them. but i dont no if this is a phase or the real thing but i keep having some fantesies of my and a m8 from my math class just kissing, but the thing is shes a lesbian, but thats just a rumar goin round so i dont no if i should beleive it or not, but all i want to do when im around her is kiss her, i dont no why but im pretty sure im a lesbian but im not sure.

yaz xoxo

well im 16 andd i have been with alot of guys. been hurt by alot of guys…just really cant stand guys anymore. i’ve hadsex with a guy before and i liked it. however, im really attracted to tomboy type of girls, and the way girls care and think. i’ve always joked about being lesbian with my friends but now i suspect that i am. i think guys are attractive..attractive enough to kiss but thats all. but they are all just dicks and i dont like guys. theyr all pigs. and girls arent. i dont know how to have sex with a girl though..i dont understand..
Plus, lately i’ve been obsessed with lesbian movies. i just ordered like 3. but i feel like im losing touch with reality. idk im so confused =/ SOMEONE PLEASE RESPOND TO ME: MAXINE

maxine-
our situations are different but i think i can relate. i’m fifteen… but i’ve never been with a guy, never wanted to be with a guy. and i fantasize about my girlfriends too, even though they’re all straight for sure. lately I’ve sort of suspected that I am attracted to just girls, not guys, but I don’t think we need to label it, yet at least, just follow where your heart tells you too, i guess. if you’re attracted to girls, be attracted to girls. don’t feel rushed to have sex with one if you aren’t ready though. just take it slow and explore. hope i helped.

hi, im only 11 but i think i am a lesbian. Youre probebly thinking that shes too young to know what shes talking about, but i do. i always have the erge to kiss a girl but all my friends are straight so im finding it hard to keep to m yself. I’ve kept it too myself but im worried someone might cath on after all i am visiting lesbian sistes on my sisters laptop.

It’s ok to be a lesbian, to be bi, or to be straight. IT doesn’t matter at all because it’s who you fall in love that matters!! REMEMBER THAT!!! We shouldn’t have to label ourselves because people around us are forcing us to. I find my heart falling for a beautiful girl yet I’m still attracted to men. I think the only thing that separates our thoughts is gender. Eliminate it and you get nothing….just LOVE and our heart…

The other day i kissed my mate and fingered her. In away i think im bi but i dunno how 2 cum out.

I am a lesbian and i want to find a woman to enjoy me.

ive been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now on and off.I love him but for the past year or so i have had feelings for girls. when my bf touches me i dnt really get excited or fell anything i no we have something but i dnt think i want to be with him anymore but its hard to dump him as he wont leave me alone when i do . i do like girls like them alot and i do think i might me a lesbian but i also think boys are fit or hot but nothing more i feel i should be with a girl and i feel i would be happyer. One of my best friend went through this faze and i was the one that she sed she liked but at the time i didnt feel and thing for her but now i think i do but when i talk 2 her bout it she thinks im joking. I want to be with a gal if i find her but if i dnt ill just keep quite and betend im straight. add me if u like abster_rocks@hotmail.co.uk

im 14 going on 15, and i was postive i was straight until about this time last year when i met this girl (charlotte) and i fell for her so badly. i always knew i was bi but recently iv realised taht all feelings for guys have gone =/ my mums pretty sounds about it tbh, but its sort of a forbiden subject around my dad.

since liking girls i have had intermute releations with 3 diffrent girls and its the most amazing thing ever.
im really happy for anyone who wants to come out openly about their sexualty like myself, but be warned not all teenagers are quiet understanding, be prepared to be hit with all the shit ever imaginable. i might get crap from dick heads at school, but except form that im really happy that i came out about my sexualty and it makes me confidant in myself =] dont let over people bring you down.

since i came out quite a few of my freinds have aswell wich tbh i dont think any of them are they just do it to be ‘diffrent’, honestly i have never seen them actually with a girl.
i can happily say that i have been in love witha girl(even if it ended terribly and we both started selfharming and naked piictures of each other ended up around the school. in fact im extreamy excited about meeting up witha girl tomorrow her names nicole and i want to be with her all the time.

dont worry about things to much, in my experiance, everything works itself out in the end =] i hope i was of some help.

The question you may have to ask yourself is other than feelings what other factors may have contributed to this suspicion. When I was a child, I was molested by an older girl. My first sexual contact was with a female. Your earlier sexual experiences have a profound impact on orientation. Psychoanalysis points to these contributing factors as a basis of sexual orientation. Also, it is natural to have sexual attraction to same sex partners especially when you are young, so I have read and experienced. If it is solely women that you are attracted to, I would say that is your orientation, but if it is both you may have to decide which lifestyle you prefer. For me, I chose men since it was simplier and I didnt like one particular activity that I had to do if I were with a woman. I know this sounds like simplistic advice, but it worked for me.

I am a lesbian and i dont really know what to do with my sexy girlfriend do i do sex a lot cause that is wht I was thinking about doing.

I’m 18 and wen I’m with a guy I’m uncomfortable and wen with women I’m the best like I know I’m gay in my Mind but how do I tell my soul

Hi im 13 and confused!I lik guyz but I also lik some girlz!Lik I had my first kiss wit my best friend(girl) and liked itt!Then last year I made out wit thiz one chikk in my class we had lik french kissed and stuff.I just dont no!!!I thinkk im bisexual but im tryin to convince myself im straight!Can anyone help???

I’m 17 and I’ve known for a long time that I am a lesbian. Either that OR i haven’t found Mr.Right. Everyone wonders what their sexual orientation is at some point. You can’t help who or what you are attracted to. If you spend all this time pushing these feelings down then eventually the pressure will build up and explode!! And I don’t think anyone wants that!! Tha important thing is to remember that you are not alone.

im 14 and i feel the same way. ive never really had any feelings towards any other girls until just recently that i started liking my bestfriend. turns out shes gay and
now we are going out and im happy. im not quite sure tho if its just her or if im bi.

hi

i once felt my frends parts at a sleepova. she liked it n we ended up doing it, n i now am carzy 4 her. i think about her all the time n wen we’re together all we do it kiss n i always feel so good after it. i know im lesbian but its taken a while. just try it, n if u like it stick to it.

i have a friend & we known shes lez shes shagged loads & loads of girls
i think shes coming on to me & we know she has a dildo under her bed she has invited me her house for a sleepover im soo scared please help me she thinks im falling for her but im not please HELP!!!!!

Hi, Im also 17 yrs of age.

i cant say that i am not confused which i am. i like girls n i love boys. Most of my fantasies are all about haveing sex with a girl or two. Everyone is always confused when they start thinking about girls in a different way. It’s just apart of one of the steps to finding the answer that best fit u. U can’t fight wat u are or the sexual feelings u have about a certain gender. it’s alot to take in by, stay with me. The first reason why most are so confused is because, most think about how their friends, family, or boyfriend would react and think of them. Im not a full believer about that, “Go with the flow”, thing. but it is true, u need to be patient n see where ur feeling lead u. cuzz ur feelings always lead u to the right path, even if the answer is not wat u expected or wanted. Try kissing a girl an see wat u feel or how it makes u feel. if it feels the same way as u were kissing a boy, then u are BI-SEXUAL. If it feels stronger then when u are kissing a boy, then u are a LESBIAN. Just accept it, take it in, and take advantage of it. trust me, u’ll recieve the answer u n ur body has been waiting for.

hi im brogan and i am 12 i snogged this girl once and it was fantastic i loved it and we did abit more aswell , anyway i really like this girl and i want to tell her but we have fallen out so i cant really . and my school is very harsh about things like this so i wouldnt be able to tell anyone but i just wish she felt the same this isnt the first time i snogged her we have done it a couple of times but she told me she isnt a lesbein or a bi but i dont see how she can say that if she did that with me i think i love her

I am 12, and i masturbate. i dont know if im bi or lesbian but i always fantasise about my friends. someone please help as i am really confused, please?
i would be really ashamed to be bi or les, as i tihnk my friends would hate me. also, how do i come out?

I think the title of being a lesbian is not as important as what you feel. For me, my parents have a strong opposition to my coming out as a lesbian, so for the time being, while I’m at home, I’m letting them think and refer to me as questioning. In my own mind and heart though, I know that I am a lesbian. Coming out to yourself is a long and delicate process that shouldn’t be rushed. Some questions that you should ask yourself for starters are, “Am I sexually attracted to boys or girls?” “When considering spending your life with someone, can you see yourself sharing the rest of your life with a man?” “Do you ever get chills when you see a gorgeous girl with an unusually low-cut shirt on?” “When you have fantasies, do they involve men or women or both?” These questions are mere suggestions. Especially if you are in the beginning of your coming out process, women may not be the consistent answer to these types of questions. IT IS OKAY TO BE A LESBIAN. Even if the rest of the country isn’t totally on board with gay marriage and equal rights for homosexual couples, to quote Milk “You are not sick. It is not wrong. There is nothing wrong with you!!” Many people lead long and happy lives as lesbians!! Don’t rush yourself to put a title on your feelings. Approach it on a case by case basis and eventually a more firm and definitive answer will become more apparent to you. You have nothing to prove to anyone! It is your mind and your body! Take your time!! Good luck and keep your chin up. Also, I recommend trying to reach out to PFLAG or 1 in 10 in your area if you need support or help through this process.

hi

i hav been with a guy for 2 years then we spilt
now im attracted to girls and i dont know wat to do

please help

im 16 and i feel the exact feeling and i dunno what i should do, like the boys ive been out wid havent done ewt for me, but im only 16 so i think i prob aint met the right guy or summet??

Hi there, over the last 2months i have been going through the exact same as you.
I believe that everyone has a bit of Bi in them and if you fall for a girl you really can’t help it. Embrace it XD
The only thing that matters is how you are feeling at the present time, not the past and not the future. So if right now you want her, go for it.
Licking out a girl does not sound very appealing! Ewww Fishy face, but if its with someone you love it’l be the most amazing thing ever.
Go have fun all my fellow lesbians, we are the future x

sweetheart to me and 4 me there was never a phrase. thats what straight people tell you so that you can question it. i know you feel uncomfortable but dont it is what it is. if anything just be yourself and never feel that you shouldn’t feel that way because of what other people think.you don’t just wake up one day and start going through a phrase its been waiting to come out the real you sweetheart let it be.

Last year i had some stuff goin on with this girl. she was my bff! she got curious and so did i and tuh-duh there it went. but we didnt tell anyone about it
but we still do it ever y month

Last year i had some stuff goin on with this girl. she was my bff! she got curious and so did i and tuh-duh there it went. but we didnt tell anyone about it
but we still do it ever y month

hi im 16
i dont know whether or not im gay, a bi or a lezzy!
me and this other girl met once and she didnt know whether she was one or not so we kissed and it felt soooooo good!
but then it got out of hand and she kindof liked it more than me and locked me and her in the bedroom and thretened me till she made me have IT but even considering that i still like girls and dream of haveing IT freely!
plz help me!

hi every1

im amm sooo confused
lyk i was with my bf for 2 years but it didnt feel write soo we split and now i am attracted to girls and i dont know wat to do

please help me
talk to me at
gabbywoodford@hotmail.com

okay so this is really hard for me to say, i’ve been struggling with feelings for girls for about a year now, and i’m almost fourteen. i think i might be bisexual, or maybe lesbian im not really sure. ive had a few boyfriends, who ive hooked up with, but i never felt anything special between us. i guess ive had some feelings for a few girls, but i dont know any gay/bi girls in my grade, so i dont have anyone to talk to about it. im just so confused. this might sound really stupid but i always thought lesbians were supposed to be a little masculine, but im not at all. like .. i LOVE dresses and purses and shoes and straightening my hair, etc. so im not really sure where i stand with this whole lesbian thing. if anyone could maybe email me with some advice, i would love to talk to someone around my age whos going through the same thing. thanks ! xox

email: lifeis2perform@aol.com

Well, to be honest, it’s your choice whether you want to be a lesbian or not. But, the truth is, do you really think you are one? Do you get sexualy attracted to women just walking down the street? Or people you have known for a while? If its people that are walking down the street, think of the possibileties, either, you like the look of this person and you would like to be more like them. The way they look is something you would just love to be like. Or, you would love to see what is under their clothes. Do you get that tingley feeling when you think about that?

What about when you first see a woman walk through the door; Whats the first thing you notice about her? Her hair: You love her radiance and the way her hips sway as she walks. Her eyes: You notice the smaller things. The things people would usually miss on a lovely woman. Her outfit: You like to know how she is feeling. Does she nitise you too? Her body shape: You want to know whats under that hundred doller dress. Will she want it too?

Another part to consider, will you be fully attracted to this woman you are considering being a ‘lesbian with’. Are you just there for the sexual pleasure? Just to talk? Do you get along better with her over any other boy/girl you have dated?

Last question, would you mind going past the hand holding and kissy faces and make love with the girl? (Does not apply to virgins) Does that idea repulse you? Do you retch on the thought? If a girl were to say, ‘lets go have more fun’ do you walk away, laugh at the idea, scream ‘hell yeah’ out your window?

All of this adds up. If most of your attractions are to women that lesbionic, the chances are far higher that you ARE a lesbisan. If most of the lesbionic thoughts repulse you or disgust you, maybe your not that into it. Or, maybe you like a little of both genders.

Hey, im only 12 but i seem to be having a similar problem…i’m not interested in having sex with girls but i seem much more attracted to them and have never ben attracted by a boy before…i know that i have alot of hormoans atm which could make me confused..but i’ve always been headstrong and known what is best for me…i think im more bisexual than a lesbian tho

I am a lesbian and i can spell. Why is that all of you other lesbians can’t spell. This poor girl is asking if she is a lesbian and you keep telling her the wrong thing by talking about “Fellings” (Feelings) and “mestubating” (masturbating). You should be concentrating on her and answering her questions. Let me answer it for you. Yes you are a rabid lesbian. You love the muff and you can’t get enough of the heavenly scent of lactation. You wake up in a cold/warm sweat wanting the feel of a huge booby tickling your left nostril. Anyway that is about it. My advice take the plunge, your mum can help with this. She’s a chick after all.

im 39 and still dont no give the kid a break

hi, i’m 16 nearly 17… from the age of 14 i have had feelings for girls, when i play football i can’t help looking at other team mates knowing that some of them are lesbian, one of my team mates know that i am either bi or lesbian as she seen me making out with another girl from another football team… i have never had a sexual experience with a girl, i have only ever made out with them, i am extremely curious of how it would feel to have sex with a girl… i think i can safely say i am lesbian because i have only ever had oral sex with a boy and the thought of intercourse with a boy makes me cringe… i’m scared to go to newcastle scene (gaybars) because my friends don’t know about my sexual orientation and i’m scared in case i get with a girl meaning they hate me or stop talking to me. . . please help me!

p.s i am okay about my sexual preferences, i just don’t know how to tell my friends or parents… i’m considering telling them when i start college in september as i know quite a few lesbians that i will be interacting with in college… (one of them being football team mate) “/ x

wow.. i cant actually believe that there are 13 and 14 year olds on here already saying these things.. not hating at all. but i guess when i was 14 i never once thought about anything like that. BUT as i grew up and went through different stages of my life i found more and more of myself every year..for all you girls that are saying u get hot watching lesbian porn.. thats totally natural.. and has no determining factor on wether u are gay or not. it is actually human nature for absolutely everyone to get curious and even be turned on by the beauty of two women.a lot of u have friend girls that act like they would totally never EVER be into that.. but thats not true.. they have def all checked it out atleast. human curiosity. i actually dated a guy for 4 years.. though i was so in love but i never really thought about HIM during sex…my mind always went to girls.. but i thoroughly enjoyed sex with him.It is just recently, as in 8 months ago, that my sexual curiosity for women has esculated to wanting to def take it a step further with a ggirl that has really just pretty much won my heart. i actually get “butterflies” something that i never thought would happen.but you should also know that i am a very lovable person.. everyone that has ever come in contact with me knows that. i have a lot of love for people and would do anything for anyone. so i agree with the person that says dont label it. or even stress it. just be you and love who u love. it is a very beautiful thing. society these days continues to make things so difficult. but as they say..”you cant help who u love”

i am 13 and thnk i am gay or bi but dont know i am realy turned by girls and have went all the way with one but also went all the way a guy but got more pleasure from the girl and want to do it agine but it could be a phase

if you could help email me at randibeth94@yahoo.com

im 16. i dont know if im straight or bi or even lesbian. i have gotten with guys but never girls. recently i have started having feelings for my bestfriend. im starting to wonder if she likes me back or its just me and im weird.
if u have some help for me plz leave a comment

youre all lesbians be proud!!!

You just know – there’s no other way to say it.

I’m 31 now and have known that I was gay for about 16 years, although I had my suspicions before then. I TRIED to have boyfriends, I TRIED to like them, I TRIED having sex with one or two – but I really felt nothing. Yes, I know, the traditional straight answer would be that I should keep trying ’til I found the “right guy,” but I honestly couldn’t see the point. But when I was with the girl I had been best friends with since kindergarten, I felt complete and totally happy. I came to realize that this was “love” – when our relationship turned physical, I finally realized what I was!

“Coming out” was another matter entirely – my dad was fine with it (mum had died when I was 12), but my “friends” at school turned their backs on me and my girlfriend. I thought it was strange at the time – after all, I was no longer “competition” for the boys they were interested in! I knew in my head but only gradually learned in my heart how deep homophobia runs in our society.

But I couldn’t go through my life denying who I was (or maybe I just gave up caring about other peoples’ opinions).

It really doesn’t matter how old you are, Brittany – romantic and sexual feelings don’t suddenly “descend” on you when you reach the Age of Consent.

hey,im confused.. im 14 years old.. and i feel uncomfortable around boys. i want a boyfriend and once this boy i really liked asked me out but i said no.. because i was afraid of having a boyfriend
im scared.. i want a boyfriend and do things but i feel so uncomfortable. although i am fine around girls

Hi everyone,I am 16 years old and I really need your advice.From an early age I had an unusual sympathy for beautiful girls but I fell for boys.More than a year ago this sympathy became something stronger…I calm down persuading my self that I was feeling that way because I was extremely friendly with girls or I just wanted to be like them,nothing more.But now things has changed.I cant hide it from my self.I am 99% sure that I am lesbian but this 1% full of doubts drives me crazy.I had just few relationships whith boys only for days but hadnt feelings for them.Although,I had done nothing whith girls I have amazing feelings for them…And I dont mean just sex.Actually,the wierd thing is that I am not sexually attracted by girls,only guys(But I think emotion is what counts).Please,give me your own view of some questions I have…I love emotionally girls so why am I sexually attracted by guys?Also,my look is girly(not tomboy)and I am attracted by girly girls,is this common for lesbians or all lesbs.are tomboys?

Hi, i am 20 yr old girl i work with my dad and i start liking a girl at work i think she likes me too but the problem is i am brown and i am scared if my dad know that i m gay he would never talk to me again but i really like that girl soo should i tell her that i like her or not?

hi I am 14 and I am bi but I am quite confused because I like guys but I only like them a bit and most guys don’t atract me and only serton girls atract me. one time I even fell in love with on of my bestfrands she told me she was okay if we tryed it. it didn’t work out and she told the whole school her and my other friend were the only ones who new, so now no one talks to me I only have a few freinds left and I now cut myself.
well if anyone around my age wants to talk e-mail me. kitkatkk3@hotmail.com. I am actually a really nice bubbly person.

oh yeah Dee email me I went thro the same this not to long ago and it didn’t go to well I can help my email is kitkatkk3@hotmail.com. and anyone else that need to talk you can email me to hope to hear from you!

I,m 36yrs and was married for 15years with four children, divorced then stayed single for 03 years .. One night whilst on duty I saw this person coming out of the car towards me and immediately I said to myself, there goes my single life. Luckily few days after she approached me and rest is history.

She is such a caring and loving person and I have never enjoyed lovemaking like I do now.

I’d like to hook up with other people who have been straight all their lives and now in a lesbian or gay relationship. charmaine796@yahoo.co

Hi, I’m 22 years old and living in an anti-gay country where homophobia is everywhere. When my internet-chatting-friend came out to me a couple years ago, saying that she’s a bi, I was okay with that and wasn’t even bothered. But lately I started to liking girls. I get attracted to them. And not just physically or sexually. It’s more than that.

I’d been in a relationship with some guys. I broke up with my latest (ex) boyfriend because I was kinda fell for a (straight) girl. I was desperate and felt guilty for him that I couldn’t feel the same as he did to me.

I haven’t dated a girl before and that’s why I’m still not sure whether I’m gay or straight or bi or whatever the category is. Or maybe I’m just scared to be gay or bi, especially in my community. Let alone to come out to my significant ones (trust me, they’re such a homophobia and they think that gay people are sinners). So yeah, I think I’m better of alone for now, trying to figure things out (but hope it won’t take too long =P)

I have a similar question thats been nagging me for some time, maybe you guys have answers?

I am 19 and have been in a couple little relationships with guys but never really felt anything, however girls have always turned me on. I always thought maybe I just didn’t have the right guy. I prayed that maybe the special guy would come into my life and he came! It was like love at first sight until later on I found out he was actually a she. My family is very strict and make their opinions known on gay relationships and stuff but I think I might really like her.

Is it to early to tell or am I gay/bi? Please help me.

I think I am a lesbian I wanna kiss a girl how do I tell my mom or is this just a phase I am twelve problay to young to think about this but I really need to know if u think u can help email me

I am 16 and I have a boyfriend but I am very very attracted to girls. my best friend and i kinda had a relationship over the summer and i thought about her all the time. (while my boyfriend and i are together) her and i are still best friends and i love her so much. i love to kiss her and touch her. she is amamzing. my boyfriend is actually supportive that i am gay! it’s great!

im 22. 23 this year. went out with my first boyfriend when i was 18 and it lasted for 3 years. loved him so much but he ended up doing something to me no woman should have to endure, but unfortunatly it happens. spent the last 2 years or so being a social hermit crab. started talking to an ex work mate of mine who is gay, i find myself very attracted to her and i dont know what the heck to do. im attracted to women and also men. i havnt been with anyone since my last boyfriend. i think in my situation its a case of ‘how long does it take for a broken heart to heal’ but its very confusing to have these feelings. everyday i think of what its like to be with a woman. yet im to scared to come out with it. so to all you out and proud, i applaud you x

I am a 12 year old girl. I am very confused the fact that i might be a lesbian. I mean i think some guys are cute but i dont like them but i do like all the girls and i feel physicaly atractted to them. I love to watch lesbian videos on sites like slutload.com but i hide it from my parents, friends and family. Can anybod help me????? PLEASE

im 14. and a lesbian!-well atleat i think i am. ive been questioning whether i am or not since i turned 13. i am not—and never have been attracted to men—tbh they disgust me.. i find myself fantasising about my favourite female singers and my best friend, and my hormones have been rushing through my body for a whole month!!! it is sooo annoying–i have such an urge to fullfill my needs!! but i dont know how PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi Madison my name is nicole i dont no what to do because im excacly the same as you i like to wach lesbian vidoes and im 12 too but if i am a lesbian i wouldnt no how to tell my mum :s if u have msn please wright to me and tell me what it is thanks ? x

I have been reading all your comments, and mostly they are asking for advise. I felt compelled to leave a comment, as mostly it is going to be confused teenagers that will find this page on the internet. You are each wanting advise and help, but all that is happening is the list of comments from you gets longer – but you aren’t getting the advice you are looking for.

There are so many ways to answer your questions. Your youth means you will be going through a stage where you start to emerge as a sexual person. Wether you are straight or gay, you would be about to heading into a confusing time. This is normal. There will be lots of things to explore and come to understand about yourself. find the right ‘type’ of person for you is about looking at many factors – their gender is just one of them. Sexual attraction can be just physical, but also physical attraction may exist because of what it is like ti interact with that person. When your mind connects with someone male or female, you feel an huge attraction. This can happen with someone who you don’t like enough to have a relationship with.

To all you teenagers that want to ‘know’ if you are gay or not… I would answer that that fact that you are aware of an attraction, and are asking the questions it would suggest that being gay for you is a strong possibility. But once you have accepted that don’t be scared that that is the answer for ever. I think, and this is just my opinion, that it is more important that you have a relationship with the right person, some one who you like first, love, trust, respect and admire. If this comes in the female or male form – enjoy being with that person for their qualities. A body is just the packaging, it is the person inside who you need to like too.

And finally – I understand you are scared to ‘come out’. It is scary. Not because being gay is scary (that bit if it is right for you will feel very natural), but by coming out you expose yourself to everyones views in a way a straight girl won’t. But the more girls and women that do come out and stop hiding where they feel safe, the more it stop lots of relationships they might otherwise have with guys from happening. You could see it as being fair to them too.

Being gay is not just about the physical side of things. Being in a relationship with woman is very different to that with a man. Women do not think or react the same way as men. This is partly what I was referring to at the start of this comment. you are young, and all have a lot to experience about the world and yourselves. Do not expect to have all the answers at such a young age. We all of us go through different experiences, and it is these experiences in all parts of out lives that help us learn, grow and defines who we are. Wether you are gay or straight, I think it is important that you explore your life in a way you can be proud of. Explore with kindness, compassion, respect and with a smile.

I wish you all an exciting journey. And remember, there is nothing wrong in being different to the other people around you when you are a teenager. Where you are now is just the start of your life, and this stage will one day be something you look back on. I know it does not feel like it at the moment. But life really does past by in a flash. you have to do what is right for you. Your happiness is ‘your’ responsibility.

i think im bi cuz i like girls but i also like guys ive had sex with both but i sometimes think eww girls then the next day its eww guys gross blah then the next day i like both i lie watching gay porn and lesbian porn just not staright porn lie with a guy and a girl fuckin i have no clue and im 14

Good question! I just found my answer to that few days ago,I was in the same limbo when I heard something called: Sexual fluidity.
It’s a book about a study made with women about their sexuality and it is exactly what I experience.
The problem these days is that we keep putting labels in everyone and everything and I will never understand why.
For me it’s got to do with identity, not gender or because I was born like this or like that. I value people and how they express themselves, who they are and what they make me feel, not what I’m “supposed to be”… I’m 41 years old and 2 years ago I fell in love with another woman for the 1st time in my life. Am I a lesbian, Bi, or straight? I don’t care, never did. I don’t sleep around; I fall in love, that’s my label. Follow your heart and be true to yourself nothing is definitive and you still are young, relax and things will happen naturally when and if it’s time. As I often say, it’s not about sex. (At least not for me) You are still knowing yourself so don’t worry so much let it flow.

Alex

hay
well im 20 and all my life i had boyfriends. i always had this feeling that i myt be attracted to certin girls, buuttt i never fort anything of it.i am still in a relationshp with a guy bt im starting to became strongly attracted to girls more and more,im forever thinking bwt having sex with a girl but i dont know whats happing to me…. i also enjoy sex, so i think that me having these feelings myt be jus because i wanna try it, however i dnt wanna leave my boyfriend, wev ben 2getha 4 3 years and i love him heaps………….help me some1

I had to respond to faiths comment (comment 123) as I found it really shocking. At 14 you should not be having sex with anyone – be they male or female. You are still a child – so of course you don’t understand yourself yet. It was really sad to read what you had written. Perhaps your time would be better spent learning how to write properly as that will be of more use to you in the future than catching all manner of STD’s.

i think i like both male an female

Hey. I’m 15. I pretty much already know I’m bisexual but idk how to come out to my parents. I’m scared they might not accept me. An i definatly kno I would lose a lot of friends cuz basically all ma friends are homophobic.they are always talking about how nasty being gay is an it hurts me wen they talk lik that but I just don’t say anything and accept it. I kno I’m by because ma first kiss was with a girl and I jus lik the way it feels its differnt and much better than kissing guys. I do want a girlfriend or at least a girl to flirt with.

Hi my names Jesse and I’m 19

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. He is quiet older and thinks differently then I do. I have not sexually experimented like he has. He has passed that “phase” in life.
I have been quiet confused lately because first of all j want to try all these new things but he doesn’t. But one of our main problems is that he is very Christian. The reason why I mention this is bc I have gay friends and he is disgusted at the idea. I have been attracted to females for so long I have fantasys and I’m just fasinated. I have kissed girls but that was friends that I have not thought of in that way. I don’t want to tell me boyfriend I have these feelings but I’m scared bc my feelings keep on getting stronger and I’m scared I won’t be able to find my “truth” I don’t know if I’m lesbian or bi or what? How do you define if you are? How can I figure this out?

Its Hard Cause I Think Im Lesbian I Have Feelings For Girls And Guys So I Think Im Bi. But Guys Are Too Much So I Don’t Know What To Do Ive Been Feeling For Girls For Along Time Since I Was Little Im 15 Right Now.

I have this concern, im 19 and recently have got a major crush on one of my female lecturers, now im pretty sure that anything further than a crush would be illegal… maybe? anyway… Im not sure if im a lesbian or not, Im often attracted to men but no where near as much as I am to her, and also ive never felt attracted to a woman before, confusing!

hey
I’m 12 and i’m pretty sure i’m bisexual.
I’ve had lots of crushes on guys but the thought of doing anything with them is just weird.
i’ve had a crush on my best friend(girl) for a long time and when i told her i thought i was les last year she didn’t say anything so later, i told her it was just a phase.I love her as a sister and i always will but i want her to understand how i feel and i want her to feel the same way.
–Thanks =)

Hello, im 14 year old guy.
Im nawt gay but when imm turned on, i always think that imm a lesbean. So, i want to be a girl and then still like girls. I don’t like men but a like women with strap on dildos and i don’t know whats up with me. At school, i try to be as manly as I can but when im turnd on at home i think imm a girl. Each time a masterbate, i always pretend to be a girl, paint my toes(cuz i have foot fetish too). Is this normal in guys because i see some guys with sighns of marker on their hand nails.
Imm very confused; need help.

i am 16 yrs old and i dont really know if im a lesbian i dont know how to tell my friends i dont want rumors to start and i certainly cant tell my parents also i like girls im just attracted to them but it just excites me but i just still dont know if im a lesbian sum1 help

I am 18 and I have always fantisised about girls whilst masturbating, but once i’m finished i feel dirty. Lesbian pics and vids turn me on and straight porn doesnt, but realistically I dont want a girlfriend, i just cant imagine it, I love my bf and I love our sex. I think its just cos girl on girl is kinky and against the norm that its so attractive, I have never fancied a girl, and I always get sexual feelings towards boys. I’d say i’m bi, but i’m not i’m just curious.

im 17 and Im a proud lesbian also. i find nothing wrong with it…sex is AMAZING with my girlfriend. Ive been with a few guys but i like the tenderness of a womans soft skin. i fell in love with my most recent girlfriend, feeling are so much stronger than with guys. I Love Vaginas!

You know, I just don’ know. I read all comments here, and I think, that this ‘am i a lesbian or not’ or ‘am i a guy or not’ thing is really silly.
You know, I have some guy and lesbian friends. I like them, becuse they are more normal than other ‘normal’ people .
But on the other hand, I have the same problem as the others here, who are not sure how are they in reality. Because I don’t know what love or like means, somehow I don’t understand this feeling either. Maybe i am in love with a girl, maybe not. i just feel, that i want to be by her side, and never leave her alone. She was always by herself in her life. She smiling outside, but crying inside. She is hiding who is her real self is… Our story is like a soap oper from the Tv screen. Sometimes i just smiling on it when I think about it, that this is happening whit me. But I asked her, how is she thinks of me… She said, she is not looking at to me whit an eyes of a men… When I heard it, somehow I relieved, but in my heart I felt really sad. Maybe I am a lesbian, but do you know what? I don’t care with this. I want to protect her until i can do it. I live my lief as I can and as I want. I stay by this girl side, until she is gonig to find someone to herself… Am I selfish, aren’t I? But this is to part of too the other side of the reality…. Good luck in your life!

you dont need to read this i just need to vent my thoughts….

im really confused. i think im in love with my straight friend… i wanna hug her so much and kiss her. i dont like the idea of having sex with her so maybe im not gay, but i dont like the idea of guys either… so maybe i should be a nun(joking) i think i will just have to wait and see what happens but i dont think ill ever get to love my friend in more than a friend way… unless she tells me shes gay, but i dont think she is im confudled.

hey i’m 14 and i know i’m a lesbian. i’ve known for a year now. my problem is coming out with it. my whole famil (parents nd sisters) hate the idea of lesbians and gays. they always talk bout how pointless it is and that they r freaks. i know of 3 lesbians but i dont feel attracted to any of them. 2 of them r dating and both r goth. the other one is a church girl, imagine that. and she’s bi but i don’t even like her in general let alone seriously like her. another prob i hav is finding someone. iv liked a lot of chicks in the past but all r straight. i’ve only told 3 people tht i’m not straight and all 3 were through txts. it wuz kinda akward for a couple days after and still is just a little but they got over it for the most part. so i’m looking for someone going through the same thing that is about my age (just turned 14). my email is elfnshiloh@yahoo.com
email me any time.