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"I have been with my first same-sex partner for four years. For the last year and half we have not been intimate. We both work nights and have different days off. She has recently told me that she feels this is more a friendship then anything else to her due to the lack of intimacy. She also says that I'm not sensual enough when we are together and that when we are intimate she is always the one who starts it. We have both agreed that we love each other very much and we will try to work this out. We agreed to take time off from work once in a while and make more time for us. But is there anything that I can do to "spice" things up to make her feel like we are more then friends? How can I be more sensual? I kiss her, I hug her and I tell her how much I love her everyday, but obviously she needs more."
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    September 20, 2009 at 5:01 am
    (1) drkwulf says:

    well first off congratulations on lasting so long I only hope I can do the same with my current partner, I’m a bit of a player so that might be a problem. Anyways, so you’re not intimate anymore hummmm…what if you just started kissing her on the neck when she’s doing dishes or watching tv or maybe just start to play footsies. Tell her how much she means to you. Just grab her up and lay a good one on her right when you wake up. Talk about how y’all met. Talk a little dirty to her, use sexual inuendos. Just make her feel loved and wanted every woman loves that. Well good luck I hope y’all last many years after this.

    December 26, 2012 at 3:07 pm
    (2) lesbiannnlove says:

    mabey you guys need some serious reconnecting time i know it can be hard as i also have problems in the relationship …affection is a must so i hope you guys can work it out also from experience you should do some checking out to see if she is still interested in being with women

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