"I have been with my first same-sex partner for four years. For the last year and half we have not been intimate. We both work nights and have different days off. She has recently told me that she feels this is more a friendship then anything else to her due to the lack of intimacy. She also says that I'm not sensual enough when we are together and that when we are intimate she is always the one who starts it. We have both agreed that we love each other very much and we will try to work this out. We agreed to take time off from work once in a while and make more time for us. But is there anything that I can do to "spice" things up to make her feel like we are more then friends? How can I be more sensual? I kiss her, I hug her and I tell her how much I love her everyday, but obviously she needs more."
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