To Shave or Not to Shave?
Wednesday May 3, 2006
What do lesbians prefer, a natural bush or a shaved pubic area? That's what one lesbian coming out wants to know before she has sex for the first time. Wondering About the Bush wants to know, "I was just wondering if there is an unwritten "rule" regarding pubic hair? Shaved? Or not shaved? "
Here is my answer about lesbian pubic hair.
What do you think? Add your comments below.
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Dear Wondering,
I believe that u decide what makes u both com4table and go from there. Above and all, relax.
Consider this . . . If u and she have all ready kissed? Probably because u have, how do her smooth lips feel against urs? In my experience, I enjoy shaved on both of us. She and I enjoy that fact that “our lips are kissing”.
Now, on the other hand, pretend that she has hair on her lips or kissing a guy with a beard & mustache. Which one turns u both on?
Remember, consider all in4mation received then feel it out. I so wish u 2 become resolve soon. and everly thing else will follow in learning what feels best.
Sincerely,
Tayler
Hi again Wondering!
4got this… Shaving is careful must and the skin is so sensitive. Inquire 2 womyn u know as 2 how they take care of their shaven area. Me? I wash 1st, use a shave gel. I go over the skin one more time with the razor. If don’t keep ur skin moisturized, that top area becomes dry and itches more when the pubic hair comes. I found that lotion is the best. In using lotion frequently 2 stay moisturized, there4, less irritation by scratching and rubbing. It is so embarrasing 2 feel the incredible 2 need 2 rub or scratch, but people r around. Over time, ur pubic area will begin 2 become a little less sensitive and small bumps may come, but a little lotion can help.
LOL, I think I am finally done. I’m sure all of us that comment, will offer some valuable suggestions that will help!
Take care
Tayler
Dear Wondering….
Although I never used to shave (my girl didn’t, either) I have always trimmed my pubic hair. As time went on (so did my girl) I met a fabulous lover who was completely shaved. It was so fabulous I asked her to help me learn how - she did and ooohh sweet, sweet stuff - it’s great in every way! Be careful, moisturize well, and be patient with the learning curve and the initial bumps. They eventually go away if you moisturize daily. Try it…and then lay back and enjoy!!!!!
I’d have to differ from the above comments. My wife and I are both unshaven. Not only do we both love ‘parting the curlies’ to find the hidden treasure within, but there is something so incredibly erotic about looking at a naked woman with that tantalizing triangle of hair. In addition, (in my mind) shaved girls look so…young (pre-adolescent), which is a little disturbing to me. (Not saying that it’s weird or wrong for anyone else to see beauty in a shaved girl, it just wierds -me- out a little…so, it’s wrong -for me-)
So, as long as it’s clean and doesn’t smell like flowers or baby powder (I like my girl to smell like girl)….keep it the way it was made…and enjoy it!!
A
Hi Wondering,
I think you should do whatever makes you feel comfortable, don’t do anything you don’t want to do. I personallly have tried Bushy, Trimmed and shaved. They all have pros and cons.
Shaved- my girl really liked it the first day she said it felt smooth, soft nice. but by the second day i was prickily, and rough, she didn’t like that. see i’m thick so it grew back fast. also i didn’t like it very much because, it was itcy and bumpy after the first day.
Bushy- the pro about being bushy you don’t have to do anything. con my love/girl got hair up her nose and ate to many hairs. hair balls. even though she didn’t mind i didn’t like hearing her caugh up hairballs while we were cuddiling.
Trimmed- I like this and so does my love she doesn’t eat many hair and no rash, easy to keep up. i personally like it better trimmed.
But in the end it is your decision so just find what it is best for you. i’m sure your girl will be happy with whatever you choose.
I personally prefer shaved, for both myself and my partner. Its clean, fun, and sexy. When you do it regularly, it doesn’t itch growing back. In the same way that tweezing your eyebrows hurt far more when you first started, now its not so much of a issue. Just moisturize when you get out of the shower.
My girl and me are both shaved…we like it best. I hardly ever get to see her, so it’s just once in awhile that I shave it all the way off. I love the feel of everything on skin, and the skin there is so sensitive, I adore it, and so does she. We prefer it. But they’re right- it does get itchy if you don’t moisturize. So do it daily! (But hey- if guys can scratch their balls, why can’t we scratch our crotches?) Anyway, whatever you think is natural for you hun- go with it- expiriment around if will. It’s great fun.
Be adventurous!!
Try it one way for a while & then maybe try the other. See which one you like best. I’m like Amanda, I love going thru the curls to find the hidden treasure. I have had both. To me, it’s up the individual to experiment & find out for themselves what they enjoy the most.
Good luck to you!
I love the feeling after I’ve shaved and so does my girlfriend, but OMG! As soon as the first day’s over I get terrible red shaving rash and it itches like hell!! (And yes, I’ve tried every tip in the book!). So, my advice to you is try everything once then see which YOU prefer…. Just remember that it’s YOUR body, and that if your girlfriend loves you and wants to be with you she wan’t care whether you’re shaved, trimmed or au-natural! (Just for the record my g/f shaves however I just trim using a trimmer).
My girlfriend and I are always “bald”. This because we enjoy the visual benefits of it. It is a turn-on to see that soft, tender skin. mmmm….
As most have said, it’s a matter of personal preference. It’s a turn-on for me when my partner’s pubic area becomes “slightly” fuzzy but most of the times it’s shaven “YUMMY”. I prefer to shave and keep a very slight shadow. It looks sexy and very appealing to the lips. Once you shave and keep up with the maintenance, the itching will stop. Either way, I wish you and your girlfriend all the best! By the way, I want to give myself some props as my partner and I recently got engaged. We look forward to a happy and healthy relationship!
My girlfriend and I both much prefer hairless over hairy. We both shave completely, everywhere that hair grows in the genital area, including the lips and butt crack as well. I find that I am very sensitive when I am freshly shaven, and I have to have sex shortly after being shaved, or I will soak through my panties. It is definately a pleasant sensation for me to be hairless! On the other hand, I get really horrible ingrown hairs, (and I’ve tried every remedy around, and even seen 3 dermotologists about it, to no avail,) which is why I am having all my hair “down there” permanatly removed. Until I can get all 3 hair removal treatments, I will still have some hair, and so my girlfriend and I both shave each other. It’s a very erotic experience, and we both enjoy both the process and the results.
A hairy p**sy can trap menstral blood, and discharge, which is the major grossness of hair. The easy thing about being hairy is that it doesn’t take any work. If you don’t shave, it helps to shampoo and condition your pubic hair, and leaves the hair down there really soft, something that both you and your partner will enjoy. I actually have a special kind of conditioner I use down there between shavings, because the hair is courser than the hair on my head. I use conditioner designed for the courser kind of hair normally found on the darker-skinned people. This makes a big differance, and also makes it easier when I do shave.
In your personal situation, I’d try out shaving and see if you like it. If you do, I’d do it the day you think you’re gonna have sex so that you are all soft, and MOISTURIZE! I use a Cetaphil lotion, that has no dyes, perfumes, or anything else. If you use lotion with perfumes and dyes, it can burn, which is quite painful. Also, anything scented will undoubtedly taste nasty.
Whether you decide to shave or not, be sure to clean yourself thoroughly before, and use some sort of conditioner, so that it is soft.
If you’re worried about what your girlfriend will think, ask her what she prefers. You can even bring it up casually, (I’ve had numerous conversations with lesbians about the shaved v. hairy debate, even when we weren’t fucking. It’s one of those things that lesbians talk about.
In my experience, a lot of younger lesbians shave, and older lesbians tend to be hairy.
Both my partner and I shave and trim and, yes, I agree with the comment about shaven pubic areas on both areas enhancing that “kissing of lips” sensation. Wow! I use baby powder instead of shaving gel or soap when I shave my pubic area - no bumps, no ingrown hair and no itchiness. Try it.
I prefer when we’re both shaved, for different reasons. I have long hair - on my head - and it’s easier to see the hairs between her lips when she’s shaved. Weirdly, she gets MY hair in her pubic area but not her own, usually. I like to be shaved because I LOVE the feel of her tongue, mouth, lips on my naked skin, there and everywhere. And the remarks about hairballs and coughing rang true for me, too.
How do u shave with baby powder? I don’t get it …
how the hell did a photograph of my bald head get on an article about shaving pubic hair?
still, no worries. looked hot, didn’t it?
I think before you sleep with your girlfriend you should do some “in-home trials.” I wish that I could shave, but alas I have thick hair and sensitive skin. I just trim. I have tried everything! But if anyone has any suggestions, I would be more than happy to try. I think that this is an issue that is alot more common than I thought! Thanks, it’s nice to know I am not some “psycho” that is worried about it! Thank You ladies!
:)
Shaved heads are cool.
1st thing, the comment about men scratching their balls and women not being able to scratch… men don’t care so do it if you want to, its just the women who keep that notion up (and some men who don’t scratch).
Now, if you shave you have to do it regularly (every other day works best) and eventually you get used to it and it won’t itch or get ingrown hairs. Try it for at least a month before you give up if you really want to try it
Next… don’t shave against the hairs like it’s easier for you to do on your legs, or shave down then up. I have shaved every hair on my body at some point and learned that the pubic area is like a mans beard, sensitive and pimply if done wrong. Other areas aren’t as sensitive.
As for preference I had a girlfriend who liked it shaved and sometimes when it was prickly because it gave stimulation. As far as goin down there She liked hers shaven sometimes, every 2-3 days. I hate long hairs. People are all different and you should try it all, but most people I know don’t like a full bush, probably at least trim it. Trimming and finding different lengths can be a fun experiment.
Shave for at least a MONTH every other day before you throw that idea out!! And try different techniques!!
Man in touch with his body.
Oh yeah and Shaved heads are sexy, esp on thinner faced people.
People who think they can’t shave: Try doing it more and with the direction of the hairs only. Try it for 3 months because some areas took that long for me.
I was shaving my entire area for over 5 years…and I hated it! My ex-girlfriend always went down on me and never mentioned if she preferred it or did not like it…I assume she really liked it
she always wanted to go down…Even after 5 years of shaving the rash, irritation, and purplish bump never went away..I don’t even know why I kept doing it…I just assumed that is what you had to do…Recently I have had a new liberation and I don’t shave my entire area anymore, just the bikini line and I trim and I actually have a better time in bed now..I feel more erotic and natural and have an easier time getting an O …I have a better sex life now…I wish I could just go totally natural but I just can’t bring myself to do that yet…Ciao!
I LOVE BUSH !! I love the way it tickles my nose!!