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Rosie O'Donnell's gaydar went off when she saw footage of Oprah Winfrey and her best friend Gayle King's cross country road trip. Oprah and Gayle say they're not gay, because they're not having sex. Rosie says that doesn't matter, they can still be gay. Isn't that the truth! I can't tell you how many letters I get from frustrated lesbians who are not having sex! But is that the point, really? Did Rosie have any right to accuse Oprah and Gayle of being lesbians? Watch for yourself and add your own opinion below.
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    September 23, 2006 at 2:27 pm
    (1) Barbara says:

    I agree with Rosie…Oprah and Gayle seem to be gay to me.. but maybe never consumated the sexual act…I haven’t heard whether they have ever been asked if they are or could be bi-sexual. My question is are they willing to jepardize their relationship, as it is now, if Gayle decided to marry a man, or Oprah married Stedman? I think Oprah won’t marry him because she know’s she will be losing something ….Gayle..and vis versa.

    September 23, 2006 at 5:43 pm
    (2) Angela says:

    I agree with the implied sentiment of the comment. I believe Rosie’s statement was commenting on the intimacy of their friendship….TRUE FRIENDS, nothing sexual at all. Their commitment to being each others advocate. The relationship if it were sexual in any nature would definitely be a successful, committed relationship….and OPEN. I have always respected how Oprah does not deny herself….she would not deny Gayle as her lover. She would embrace her and herself….if anyone agreed or not.

    September 24, 2006 at 9:21 am
    (3) Denise Egielski says:

    I agree with Rosie. If Oprah is not
    willing to come out then we ALL know that she has phobias against Gays, Lesbians and Transgender.

    September 25, 2006 at 8:30 am
    (4) Doc says:

    You Are What You Say You Are
    We shouldn’t be placing labels on people in the first place and if we are then the only person we have a right to label is ourselves. Speaking as a member of (and not for) the LGBT community, I think it is digusting that Rosie has the audacity to tell Oprah what she is or is not. If Oprah is gay, it is her business and choice whether or not the put that information out there. Before Rosie came out of the cloest and was content to play up her “non-sexual” crush on Tom Cruise, which was also before he was jumping on Oprah’s couch, Rosie probably wouldn’t have appreciated if someone took it upon theirself to spill her beans. The fact of the matter is that Oprah says she is not gay and this should be respected. When people, expecially from the LGBT community, start discrediting Oprah’s knowledge of herself and claiming to know better about her than she does, it is not different from all the people in history who have said to people they know who have come out that it is just a phase or refuse to accept they are really gay. Bottom line is that Oprah is the only one who knows who she is and she should be the only one speaking out about who she is. You are what you are, and Oprah says she is not gay so everyone needs to mind their own business and leave it alone. Especially Rosie!

    September 25, 2006 at 10:13 am
    (5) Tu Sung says:

    I think Oprah, Rosie, and Stedman are probably gay, they just don’t know it yet. Everybody is gay to some degree or another.

    September 25, 2006 at 12:35 pm
    (6) Jana says:

    I think Oprah and Gayle are as close or closer than sisters…just because you like to be with your best friend does not mean you are gay…and who are we to judge anyways..this is a not none our buisness thing.

    September 25, 2006 at 2:08 pm
    (7) deb says:

    I think Rosie is a militant lesbian who should learn to keep her big mouth shut. Most people are like me and believe what you do in your bedroom is your business and no one else’s. The only one who cares is the one you have to stand in front of to answer for your actions during your life. Rosie really shouldn’t be in a position where she can voice her opinions. I will no longer watch the Veiw if she is on it. Sorry.

    September 28, 2006 at 2:17 pm
    (8) Shirley says:

    I will say that I am shocked at the comment Rosie said on the View. What is she trying to really do to herself….get ousted? Doesn’t she know that when you go against Oprah you will eventually lose? I see that she has been out of the loop for a minute. I personally do not feel that it is up to her or anyone to out anybody if you don’t have all your facts. So what if Oprah and Gayle are undercover lesbians. Who isn’t now a days? What happens and takes place in the bedroom should remain there….in the bedroom. We should all leave Oprah and her private life alone and worry about our own private lives cause I am sure it needs fixing.

    September 28, 2006 at 7:35 pm
    (9) Gina says:

    I think “Doc’ explained it at best. People needs to mind their own business & stop labeling people when they do not know any facts at all.

    September 30, 2006 at 5:29 pm
    (10) beefy says:

    I find it so disrespectful and sad that the
    the media and NOW Rosie (!) are “accusing” and obsessing on the “gayness” of Oprah and her friend…..in my mind, this obsession is hurtful to gays/lesbians becoming more and more accepted in every day America Society!! I come to this conclusion because the obsessive badgering, makes their “gayness” appear to be:
    abnormal, odd, unusual…like there is something to gossip about. It does not, in my opinion, HELP create a calm, non-chalant acceptance around coming out, gayness, or being gay, in the average person who may or may not understand homosexuality.

    This unhealthy badgering and obsessiveness perpetuates gays and lesbians as being spectacles of our society. We, as gays and lesbians, might attempt to take on an attitude of “if they are gay–they are; if not, they are not”…. and go on about our lives….their “coming out” will happen as it is meant to happen.

    I do know that there was a time that “outing” was popular….I was never a big fan of that. Although, I have been out since I was 18 AND after coming out, I have never lived in the closet but I feel that coming out is each individual’s choice within their own timing and comfort level.

    Rosie and her strong opinions are hurting gays and lesbians MORE than helping us become mainstream…and we are definitely on our way to becoming part of mainstream society…as it should be.

    October 1, 2006 at 4:40 pm
    (11) Jac says:

    Who cares about whose gay and who isn’t. Why is everyone making such a big deal about what Rosie said? So what, everyone is entitled to their opinion. Besides, we all know how close a best friend could be, and if there wasn’t anything to hide then a big fuss wouldn’t be made over it. If Oprah is gay or not gay O WELL. Rosie was always known for having a big mouth.

    February 4, 2007 at 1:18 am
    (12) Seay says:

    Can this frustrated by society gay woman please close her mouth? Ever since she came out of her walk in closet, Rosie’s been mean and nasty to all. Enough already!!!! She finds the need to comment on every issue and every person as if she’s an expert! If Barbara Walters so desperately wanted to boost ratings with a LOUD MOUTH idiot, then we know where this show is going.
    Oprah has told just about everything and if she were gay she definitely would’ve told her viewers already because she wouldn’t be ashamed of it. Nearly everyone around her is gay, her stylist, makeup artist and hair dresser. Can’t two women have a loving sibling-like relationship without being called gay? For heaven’s sake!

    June 15, 2008 at 4:23 pm
    (13) Celeste says:

    As old lesbians we can assure you those girls are gay. Not only do Oprah and Gayle wear matching diamond bands on thier pinkies, (only little girls and lesbians do this), but even before Gayle appeared on the national stage we could see Oprah’s sexual preference. Breeders have no business voicing an opinion on this subject, as they have no experience with it, just like we can’t give advice on sleeping with men.

    September 15, 2008 at 12:27 pm
    (14) Soulgirl says:

    As a gay woman myself, I think it’s so silly that we all feel compelled to “out” celebrities. Just as Rosie did, IF Oprah is gay, she’ll come out when SHE is ready. Rosie spent half of her career in the closet so who is she to judge or out people? After reading all the crap about this, I must say that I don’t think Oprah is gay at all. Like Oprah has told reporters, all her business is already out there and that if she were gay, she’d let us know because she doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with being gay. And I believe her. She’s been very open about extremely private details in her life. Why would she hide this? I mean, she’s already worth 1.5 billion dollars. It’s not like she has to worry about her career. I happen to be a lesbian and I have my girlfriend who I love. However, I also have a best friend who is straight. She and I have been very close friends for 11 years and watched her children grow up. It is a special bond, like sisters but it’s not a romantic relationship at all. So I completely understand that there is a difference between close sisterhood and having a lover. The bond that Oprah has with Gayle doesn’t make them gay.

    March 16, 2009 at 11:12 pm
    (15) b says:

    Opera, if you are reading this- Your public denial of your feelings for Gayle is highly disappointing, hypocritical and morally adjacent to everything you say you stand for, truth, you give lies…. a. you lie to your fans because b. you are so afraid of loosing right winged republican fans so c. that you and Gayle cant be happy and open together and d. I want you to know that you are letting down all of your family by denying the fact that you are gay because e. you care more about money then standing up for who you truly are.

    I just want you to know that you influence my x girlfriend, she said she wanted to have a “opera and gale” (those where her words) relationship. She was the love of my life, and soul mate, and thanks to your poor role modeling we will never be together openly or ever again. This made me feel a pain that I will never recover from….

    I don’t know how you sleep at night-

    September 15, 2009 at 5:19 am
    (16) Lyn says:

    Of course she’s gay. Just look at how few men she lets into her audience!!! You think that’s some kind of accident? For God’s sake, it looks like Ellen’s studio audience!!!

    September 30, 2009 at 11:18 pm
    (17) Surgicalgirl says:

    I’m not sure if Oprah and Gayle are gay. Oprah spends a lot time with Tyler Perry, I’ve heard two of them are very good friends. Hes been on her show several times. Who knows. What do we really know about Oprah? Her personal life is a mystery. I remember years ago when rumors were spreading about Whitney Houston and her best friend being gay too.

    November 16, 2009 at 3:41 pm
    (18) ThisIsTrue says:

    Just because Oprah’s never been married does not mean she’s a lesbian. On the contrary, she’s been in a stable relationship with the same man for a quarter century & have you any idea how many men Oprah’s been with BEFORE Steadman? There was the guy in Chicago she lived with for 5 months & who accused her of doing crack with him. There was the married guy in Baltimore she tried to kill herself over. There was Lloyd Kramer, the only white guy she ever dated. There was Bubba Taylor, the guy she dated in college & when he tried to break up with her she flushed his car keys down the toilet so that he couldn’t leave her. There was Anthony Oatie her high school sweet heart. There were all the men she had sex with during her promiscuous years when she had a baby at 14. So there are volumes & volumes of examples of Oprah being straight but no evidence at all that she’s gay. Being unmarried proves nothing. Most successful black women do not get married & no one’s more successful than Oprah. It’s possible she’s a lesbian. Anything’s possible, but the odds are against it & the lesbian rumor only started because Oprah played the therapist on Ellen’s coming out show. Prior to the late 1990s there was never a single rumor Oprah was gay despite the fact that she was in the tabloids every week since the 1980s. If Oprah were really a lesbian the rumors would span back to her days in Baltimore & the tabloids with all the billions they’ve spent investigating her would have evidence. Just because Ellen & Rosie are lesbians does not mean all Emmy winning talk show women are lesbians. Remember only 10% of the population is gay. Posted at 4:10PM on Nov 7th 2009 by Kaner

    December 8, 2009 at 2:48 am
    (19) Ann says:

    OMG!!! Are you people all Blind?? Of COURSE Oprah is gay!! Stedman is just her cover!! Why do you think they have never gotten married?? She is w/Gayle 24/7!!

    January 24, 2010 at 9:01 pm
    (20) marji says:

    This is so funny!!!Lesbians assessing straight relationships!!Would gays feel that straight people can truly understand how they feel. Straight women have close relationships with other women that can last a lifetime. There’s nothing sexual about it. It is just that you find someone in your life that thinks the way you do and you can relate to on all levels except sex. I have a couple of those type of friends. For someone like Oprah being constantly in the public eye she is limited in being able to have many ‘best friends’. She is lucky to have found Gayle. She is someone she knows she can trust and talk over her important life experiences. What I like about my ‘best friends’ you don’t have to start from scratch with them..they know my history …and with them I can just start talking…and I don’t have to fill in the blanks….

    April 27, 2010 at 6:21 pm
    (21) Teshna says:

    Rosie needs to shout her big fat mouth & try working on stop looking like a pig. MIND YOUR OWN DAM BUSINESS. who cares if they’re a couple,what does that change? will the war in Iraq end? You’all need to get a life

    May 26, 2010 at 5:46 pm
    (22) Windowsyl39 says:

    Who the hell cares if Oprah & Gail are gay or not. It’s no ones business. If they are, she will say when she is ready, till then why don’t you all just Mind Your Own Damm Business!

    October 18, 2010 at 10:58 am
    (23) ANGIE MUDUNGWEA says:

    i like Oprah so much so please guys leave her alone and mind your on business. if Oprah is a lesbin and if its okey with her so let it be.

    October 18, 2010 at 10:45 pm
    (24) mary w says:

    Oprah and Gayle are lovers, have been lovers for some time, and there are no two ways about it !! Period. End of story. It’s very obvious. My gaydar has been screaming about them for years now, and when my gaydar is that strong, it’s NEVER WRONG !!

    November 5, 2010 at 11:31 am
    (25) Peter Sammy says:

    Oprah has ALWAYS been gay, even if she is not homosexual!

    December 8, 2010 at 3:32 pm
    (26) Terri says:

    Having a close bond with someone you love, be it your mother, child or best friend has nothing to do with being gay. Being gay is a sexual preference and has nothing to do with loving someone deeply emotionally. I’m not saying gays don’t love their partners, I’m just saying being gay is your sexual not love preference.

    December 8, 2010 at 8:21 pm
    (27) Bearded by S ... man says:

    Gay Gay Gay!

    Beards work both ways. Right Oprah

    December 8, 2010 at 10:01 pm
    (28) Wade says:

    Yeah, Rosie had to chide in due the fact she already let everyone know she is. The difference here is that although Rosie uses prejudice, no one is calling her out (media-wise) as they should be.

    First off, this is none of her business (the relationship Oprah and ANY of her close friends) and being she is not a ‘gay’ expert (unless she considers experience solely), if I was Oprah, I would sue the ying-yang outta Rosie. That would (hopefully) shut up Rosie for a while.

    December 8, 2010 at 11:45 pm
    (29) Idiocracy Alert!!! says:

    We can only guess if the much beloved Oprah is gay or not, but one thing we know for certain:

    Rosie O’Donnell is one of the most repulsive pigs of a human being living today.

    ~ Idiocracy Alert!!!

    December 9, 2010 at 2:35 am
    (30) Tony says:

    I remember when Rosie was still in the closet and making fun of Nathan Lane for still being in the closet. If that wasn’t the pot calling the kettle…

    Long before Rosie came out, I knew she was gay. When she had Jenny McCarthy on her show, her attraction was pretty obvious. So I think my gaydar is working.

    Oprah hasn’t shown a sexual attraction toward women that I could tell. If she’s close with Gayle, good for her for having someone close! Why not appreciate the fact that she has a good person in her life, and leave it at that?

    Honestly, this runs on the same vein as young girls that get beat up in school for holding another girl’s hand. Or straight guys that are perceived as gay being driven to suicide. Society is so homophobic that even the mere perception of being gay puts people at risk.

    December 9, 2010 at 2:47 am
    (31) Henriette says:

    I saw a clip of Oprah on Babs Walters’ upcoming special. Oh, the tears Oprah shed. How can people think such a thing- that she’s a lesbian? And get this: why, oh why, would she lie about such a thing? I’ll tell you why: so she could be a TV star in the 80s. It was tough enough being black and fat, but a lesbian too? Would such a person be welcome in households across America- predominately watched by straight white women? Give me a break. She lied for her career. And she was the first entertainter to ever do such a thing… NOT!

    December 9, 2010 at 3:17 pm
    (32) ESTELLA DAVIS says:

    THESE ARE LESSONS IN LIFE. THEY ARE NOT INDIVIDUALLY YOURS OR MINE, BUT, LESSONS IN LIFE THAT AFFECT US ALL. THEY INCLUDE US ALL. THE NIGHT BEFORE ELIZABETH EDWARDS DIED, I WAS IN MY MOTHER’S BATHROOM. ON MY MOTHER’S BATHROOM WALL IS A LITTLE PLAQUE THAT READS “FAMILY, FRIENDS, FAITH”. MY MOTHER’S NICK NAME IS ELIZABETH. OUR NEIGHBOR, ELIZABETH OWENS DIED IN RECENT YEARS ALSO AND ELIZABETH EDWARDS REMINDS ME SO MUCH OF A FIRIEND NAMED, MARY HOFFMAN. LIKE ELIZABETH, MARY LOST HER DAUGHTER YEARS AGO. LIFE WILL INCLUDE US ALL, NOONE IS LEFT OUT. OPRAH WAS CHOSEN TO ANSWER THE QUESTION, WHAT’S IT ALL ABOUT AS FAR AS GAYS, LESBIANS AND HOMOSEXUALS ARE CONCERNED BECAUSE SHE HAS THE MEDIUM, HER TALK SHOW. WHEN GOD GIVES YOU THINGS LIKE HER MEDIUM, THE SHOW, SHE MUST USE IT OR UTILIZE IT FOR ALL. A LIGHT IS NOT HIDDEN UNDER A BUSHEL. IT IS THE SAME WAY WITH ABORTION. WHEN GOD GIVES YOU THE MEDIUM, YOU MUST USE OR ACKNOWLEDGE IT FOR THE GOOD OF ALL. LIFE AND DEATH IS A MARRIAGE AND WE SIMULATE IT ALL THE TIME, NEVER QUITE KNOWING THE DANGERS INVOLVED. BUT, THAT IS HOW IT IS WITH GOD. IT IS NEVER EASY. THE PRICES MUST BE PAID. THAT IS THE SYMBOL OF THE CROSS. GOD IS WORTHY. DEATH MUST BE WORTH THE PRICE. WE WILL ALL CRY BEFORE IT IS OVER. WE WILL ALL BE TOUCHED THAT WAY. IT IS A BEAUTIFUL WORLD, WE HAVE, BUT, IT IS COSTLY, AS LIFE PROOVES. HAVE A HAPPY HOLIDAY SEASON. LOVE DOES CONQUER ALL. YOURS IN CHRIST, ESTELLA.

    December 9, 2010 at 3:37 pm
    (33) Leslie says:

    I would like to publicly OUT Rosie O’Donnell as a closet heterosexual. She has a major crush on Tom Cruise as well as many other men, she said on the Howard Stern Show that she watches man-man porn and fantasizes about Matthew McConaghey when she masturbates, she’s been in love with a man before when she was 29 years old and she’s been sexually abused as a child. She’s not gay. Just a big, fat frustrated attention whore who needs therapy. Wait a minute… she is a LESBIAN!

    December 9, 2010 at 9:21 pm
    (34) dingus magee says:

    Rosie is a shveinhut , who cares what she thinks ?

    December 11, 2010 at 9:55 am
    (35) slowcooker says:

    Oprah is gay. I will tell you how I know. Beyonce was on her show and Oprah said ‘I could lick your face’. If you dont believe me go back in watch the tape. She wanted to lick her face and lick her downtown. She is Gay. Stedman is Gay too. Now what do you think of that?

    December 11, 2010 at 1:10 pm
    (36) Straight/gay/bi says:

    Just a thought…..
    If the gays could get Oprah and Gayle to come out,they, the gays could take their Struggle to the next step…what better way to push your marriage rights thru than with Oprah on the forefront of the cause…..

    December 11, 2010 at 1:43 pm
    (37) Catbert says:

    Right or wrong – it’s none of Rosie’s business. She just can’t keep that fat yap shut.. When is she going to understand nobody cares about her?

    December 18, 2010 at 2:02 am
    (38) Ninfa says:

    In my opinion, and everyone has one, life is hard enough just trying to stay in your own lane. If people spent more time concentrating on their own lives they wouldn’t have enough time egdewise to focus on others.

    May 8, 2012 at 5:16 pm
    (39) mike says:

    Shes gay. Said she wont admit it, she cares about

    August 2, 2013 at 2:40 am
    (40) "Truth" Vera says:

    Majority of middle age lesbian don’t have sex anymore. Many decide just to kiss and hug and no oral or rub rub what ever. Remeber Sally Field is divorced with kids. She didn’t admit she was gay until in her 60s! She didn’t admit because she knows it could ruin her acting career during her younger adult years. About Oprah? She is gay, why do you think Celebrity Obama talks more about Gay Marriage than Economy or U.S Military?

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