Can You Help an Indian Lesbian?

Goodness! I’m not even sure what to say. For one, I admire your strength and courage. You and your partner should move to Canada. While the US isn’t bad, there’s still a lot of homophobia in some parts. Granted, I should think that the same is true in Canada but they at least have gay marriage.

The question is how to get over there. And what to tell your parents for why you’re moving. Anyways, you could get an Indian passport and then go to Canada and then apply for a visa (or however they do it) so that you will at least have some time on your hands. The money thing I have no idea other than fleeing the country.

I wish both you and your partner the best of luck. I’m so sorry for the situation that our corrupted world has had to put you through by just being afraid to live your life as who you are.

Wow… my heart goes out to you, my friend. As far as moving and saving up money, I would have to agree with Nessa and I can’t offer much more advice. As far as dealing with your parents? Sometimes the best way to deal with that type of situation is to avoid it. It may be best to go ahead with the moving and marriage plans and not tell them until you’re done with it, and then they’ll have to accept it. Or you may not tell them at all. If they’re going to react that severely, it may put your relationship with them in jeapordy, and you need to seriously think about what is more important – being truthful, or being on speaking terms. It’s something that’s very hard to deal with, unfortunately… the best of luck to you, my dear!

I would suggest you contact an international rights organization such as Human Rights Watch. You might have an organization in your own country that helps people find ways of surviving the injustice you will have to face. I would suggest that you try to find a company that has international offices in Canada or the US. The UK is fairly liberal and can offer refuge as well. I wish you the best of luck.
As for your parents, you have to live your own life. I know that it will be difficult but the only hope to happiness is to live your own truths. No matter how much your parents or your partner’s parents want you to be “straight” it will not be if it is not meant to be.
Good luck and God bless you both.

Before you decide what to do next, find a job far from the state your parents are now. Please do not disclose anything, they are your parents after all. If you can’t move to US or Europe, you can think of Singapore, Thailand, HongKong, Taiwan or the worst, Malaysia or Mainland China. Singapore is having a lot of lesbian couples. http://www.fridae.com
Best of luck

Hello!
I would also like to comment on your incredible courage to find a way to live your life with honesty and integrity. I saw a movie recently that illustrates some of the issues you have raised. It is called, “Sancharram,” (The Journey.)
I am not sure if you have access to it but, if so, it may give you hope. This film was written and directed by an American woman of Indian descent. She was originally an attorney but also wrote plays. She had heard of increasing suicide rates of young Indian women who’s families had extremely negative reactions to their being lesbians. This film was made in a BEAUTIFUL area of your country and was made to bring the idea of acceptance to the country(which I believe still needs development in all countries!) Maybe you could contact the director and she may have ideas or other organizations to help you. Her name is Ligy Pullappally. go to http://www.thejourney-themovie.com and click on contact. Best to you!

You have my sympathy. What immediately came to mind was “youth hostels,” which, I believe, most countries have. They are places that travelers can stay for little or no money, in sort of a commune-type living arrangement, not much privacy to speak of but it would get the two of you out of your country, or at least somewhere else in your country, away from your parents influence and scrutiny. Every lesbian has to come to grips with her sexuality and it’s consequences, sooner or later. And the only way to live this life, it’s the only one we have- remember that when you need a very good reason to live life happily and live it with the woman you love. When it all comes down to it, we all must choose to live with integrity by being just exactly who we are, and by not living our lives for anyone else, whether it be for your parents or whomever. You must be true to YOURSELF, no one else is you and you will only be happy if you stay true to yourself and to the woman you love, and live out the rest of YOUR LIFE for you and for her. Best of luck!

I know how very hard this is for you. I came out to my mother when I was 19. My mother and I did speak for a year. That was hard on me. After a year she came to me, because I moved out. She told me, that I was her daughter and she loves me unconditionally, that she does not like my life choices and that, but happy for me anyway. In the beinning it is hard, but will get easier. If you have to move to be happy, then so be it. You have to do what makes YOU HAPPY!!! The bottom line is, no one can make you happy, but you. If you cannot make yourself happy, then you cannot make anyone else happy. You only have one life to live, so LIVE IT!!! go to myspace.com and look at my profile. lookup the darkchocolate67p or sweet darkchocolate. It took me a long time to get to this point, but I am a happy now then, back when. I am pride to be a LESBIAN!!!

One last line: Be true to you and be true to the ones you hold dear to you heart. Hiding can cause you to lose all of that. So be TRUE to your heart!!

I spent some time in India this summer with my partner. I know what you are talking about.

Mary Pat (posting 3) has the right idea. You need to get a great job with an international org. – then at some point get an international posting and bring your partner. (Your partner could try the same). In my experience, your parents will be so psyched that you have a good job and are successful, the other issues become secondary. Try UNICEF – big presence in India. Greenpeace, MSF . .

You life is not a mess. You’re educated, you have someone you love, you’re healthly (sounds like!).

Hang in. It will work out.

Thank you. Sincere thanks to all the advice, I honestly thought no one would care about ‘a girl and her problems’ in a country like mine. I must admit though, I’m not as courageous as you all think (because for me true courage would be to tell my parents rather than live a lie) but then again, I don’t want to hurt them and let them down… besides I’m their only child… had it not been for all these ‘factors’ – honestly, I wouldn’t have given a damn. This whole situation ANGERS me, I just feel so helpless. I’ve just finished a project on homosexuality in context to religion and parents, for college and I can’t help but feel more helpless and frustrated than EVER. The situation is so bleak and I’m hoping our generation will be more open and accepting and not let us down the way the previous ones have. I can’t even think of India coming to terms with homosexuality in the near future, see I’m not usually a pessimist, but in a country where even the topic of sex is taboo, (that too straight sex!) the only thing that can save the LGBT community is a miracle. It’s a pity really, a wonderful and beautiful country full of people with screwed up mentalities (or I think it would be more polite to say narrow and extremely orthodox… but I’m really angry and upset now so I’ll stick with the former).
I definitely do plan to get a job next year and will have to save up for a few years before thinking of moving… its not going to be easy… it never is for people like us. But I’m happy because I know that there are also people like you guys who will also unfailingly support and hold up those who feel low and give them hope- hope, that there is light at the end of the dark tunnel. Thanks once again. I’m touched.

I support your courage and faithfulness to one another under such scrutiny! My advice to the both of you is to apply for Canadian citizenship and build a life there. Full marriage rights are granted to gays and lesbians in Canada. True some Canadians have not embraced this, Canada still has one of the most liberal constitions in the world. Avoid the US if you are looking for social/governmental/political equality…we are second class citizens here! Massachussets was the onle state to legalize gay marriage, yet opponents are trying to reverse that legislation three years later. And while the citizens of Mass have all state rights afforded to couples of married status, it still does not give them any rights under federal law. Move to Canada, you will be much happier!

I know not being able to come out to your parents is a great source of pain for you. But sometimes time is your greatest friend when it comes to something like that. You would be amazed how parents can mellow and be more accepting as they get older. It sounds like you are extremely oppressed right now which is effecting your total view. I would hope that you could simplify things and consentrate on goals that are going to relieve that oppression; saving money to move, finding work that you enjoy in a country where you can relax and be yourself. Builing a life with your partner. It will take time and patience but I totally believe that these things are achievable for you.

I agree with Mary Pat, get a job with and international company. And trust in following your true path. I have found after 61 years on this planet that usually when I set out on a scary path it all works out somehow. There is something about intention that works. If you have the intention for all this to work out, it will. Good luck. And consider coming to Hawaii, we have better weather than Canada!

WELL IF IT WAS ME I WOULD MAYBE MOVE TO A PLACE WHERE PEOPLE DON’T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT.YOUR PARENTS MAY TAKE IT HARD.BUT IF THEY LOVE YOU LIKE ALL PARENTS DO.THEY WOULD TAKE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE.I CAME OUT WITH MINE 3 YEARS AGO.MY FAMILY MAKE FUN OF IT NOW.IT SEEMA LIKE A JOKE TO MOST PEOPLE.THEY STILL LOVE ME BECAUSE I DIDN’T CHANGE.JUST MY SEX LIFE.SO BABY BE REAL BE YOUR SELF.

What an awful story, I can’t imagine what you have to go through just to be happy but, what the others have posted here you have to be true to who you are and not live to make your parents happy. You have courage, love, faith, and strength in aboundance use it to set yourself free then move as soon as you can. Don’t worry so much about not telling your parents, if they love you and know you, in time they’ll accept who you truly are. Best of luck to you and the woman you love. Take care.

i know it is difficult i come from an indian family that is really strict,and it was really difficult it took my parents awhile to accept me and after he died i still have problems with my mom and what the family will say i found that if i avoid the subject we are just fine.
i am from south africa and gay marriages has just become legal in our country and our rights are protected we are a very gay friendly country i know of alot of indians from india our country is relatively cheap to live and work here and life is good here.
i wish all the best
e-mail me if you need anymore information

hey there!
It’s such a problem when our parents do not accept us and it feels so wrong not to live the way we want.
I’m coming from an Indian (Hindu) family but I was born in Tanzania E. Africa. God knows how difficult it has been for me. But finally I’ve found the love of my life and she is a German! I had to runaway from home.
Here homosexuality is totally accepted! And we got married, this way I can live with her here.

Pls contact me if u need to know more or any questions.

take care

hi dear, first of all i wish you & your partner best wishes. please do not give up and go ahead. May be you should go outside with your partner. because I don’t believe that India will accept homosexual relationship in near future. I from Mongolia and in my country it is also very difficult so I and my girlfriend will go western country for while.

In a ‘nut-shell’…Think Travel! Many places have festivals (Australia 30-60 days). Think seeing the world. Get out and visit as young ppl the places tat offer justifiable places to enrich Ur lives. Ur parents (and hers) will not object to education tat way. Mix and mingle and have Ur romatic get away(s). Eventually U’ll find a country (Canada) that U’ll like. Become a professional in demand, then apply to the country 4 immigration. Plan Ur travel escape(s). Then do it/ them. Be happy content and possess the power to move Ur lives forward. Slowly over time educate/ by hints those parents (Do this well). Then go 4 it as a couple. Sure it is more easily suggested than accomplished, but Ur bright, smart, solid ppl who can break out of this cultural thing. And I will add this…Screw India! U have to live by not being formed by cultural expectations tat R defective. Plan!!!
Loreanna/ Canada

i’m also from a roman catholic family,and i’ve often asked my mother if she switch the hormones at birth btween my older brother and myself. i’m bi-sexual and he is gay. i’ve been in marriage of convenience,and it don’t work! if ur country is so intent on they’re laws,play but play carefully. ur welcome to write me. i’ve no computer of my own so give me a day or two t answer,ok? welcome to utah,U.S.A.,anytime. bcareful and best of luck.

My only advice is to be who you are. Live your life to be as happy as you can. Are the others in your life doing that? Are they living life to please you? Do not waste any more precious time without your love. I have been with my love for going on 7 years. I would hate to think of what it would have been and would be without her. Just be you. .. Best, Beach

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Hi cocubloo,
I shake my head at the priorities your parents would choose to place over you before seeing what is of most value… you and your well being. Life is not a script that parents can “direct” when they don’t like how it’s unfolding. They should look in the mirror and ask themselves if they’ve ever defied what was expected of them, perhaps they’d be less eager to judge the next time.

If you are able to find inner peace and come out to your parents… BRAVO! If you feel it would be a bad choice, then by all means move on and build a new life for yourself and with your girlfriend. However your parents learn about who you truly are, if they do, will lift the weight from your shoulders and place the choice of what to do with it on theirs.

All the best and LIVEstrong for your ~self~!

Hi,
I understand what you are gong through. It is indeed extremely difficult for lesbians in India to overcome the situation of being truthful and just being oneself. Somewhere you’d feel that one is torn apart between who you are and the rest of the world.
But consider this – its just one life we all have. There is always a way. Considering you are still young and already have thought about it which is a very good thing, I wish you the best and hope you and your partner have a wonderful life.
Take care

There are many lesbian friendly places in Europe and the USA such as Portland Oregon.

First, get away from that orthodox Roman Catholic mythology.

Secondly, talk to your love and decide where to go for that job once you graduate.

Don’t give up in your quest for perfect love and remember that you can do whatever you want as long as you harm no one physically.

I have heard of an organization in India called Sappho for lesbian women. That’s all.

Hi,

Thank you for sharing your story. I see myself in each word you shared. Allow me to share with you my story. I am living in Vietnam and grew up in a catholic family. To dare to be different; to go against the expectations of people close and important to me; to be able to assert who and what I have increasingly become clear I am. These were well nigh impossible to achieve as long I lived within the confines of a very strict Vietnamese culture, and in close proximity with my immediate family, close friends and acquaintances.

The breakthrough came with the opportunity to go abroad and study within another culture. There I came in contact with freers and a more conducive atmosphere, as well as more supportive friends and acquaintances, that allowed and encouraged me to revisit her past, to pause and uncover hitherto ‘forbidden places’ in that past, to ask long-suppressed questions, and to begin looking answers to those questions.

The quest is by no means completed. The journey has barely begun. But I have started the process. And with my newfound courage and trust in oneself, coupled with the conviction that I am deeply loved and guided by my God, how can I fail?

I came out to a few friends of mine, I don’t care whether they accept me or not. My father died when I was six, my mom raised her five children by herself. I decided not to tell my mom who I am because she is old, she can’t understand and accept that the world has changed. Let she lives in her own world happily. But I told my eldest brother that I am lesbian, then he accepted me and cared for me more than ever. This enough for me. I am 34 and honestly, I have not been in any relationship as I started to love someone then they ran away from the real me because they are straight. I can’t tell who is straight or not, wherever I go men follow me.

I was so happy for the first time I had a gay friend whom I met in a yoga ashram. We got along very well, I did not know he was gay until he told me. He also did not know I am lesbian. We both now are yoga instructors. I meditate and do yoga everyday, it seems I have touched freedom in my heart, but from time to time I feel very sad, that I am probably not express myself fully.

So Indian lady, you need to find the way to get out of the country in order to express yourself. But don’t expect too much from living abroad. Otherwise you may lose yourself. I know this would be difficult for you to get a visa and how to get enough money for the journey. But if you have faith in God and in yourself, there is nothing impossible. First time I got a scholarship to study in abroad I sold my camera and a motobike for my tickets, second time I went to the US with my broken English and less $US5.000,00 in my pocket for the tickets and for my yoga teacher training. I was afraid nothing. I do believe that God and my father are always with me. I did enjoy my stay there because I expected nothing. sometimes I get lost as people speak so fast, but it was fine.

Take a deep breath and make an afford to stay calm in any situation. Take yoga lessions and if you believe in God, everything you do can be spending time with God if he is invited to be a part of it and you stay aware of his presence. If your leaving to abroad does not work, then accept and be happy where you are. It will happen on time. I think when we really see our true values, we will stop to look for what we want to and start to appreciate what we have, like Mother Teresa teaches Indian Children to stop begging by helping them to see their true values. Let me show you a very simple exercise that you can do every moment, that is, be aware of your breathing and talk to yourself that “I am the Soul. I am happy
There is a poem written by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh, you may want to practise:
“ Breathing in, I calm body and mind.
Breathing out, I smile.
Dwelling in the present moment.
I know this is the only moment.”

Good luck to you and thank you for reading my letter.

Comment by Nguyen – February 9, 2007

Hi again,

Do you want to go abroad for your personal growth or just to get a sense of freedom? If you don’t have a place to go, then you may want to go to Vietnam with your lover, but be sure apply a job before coming. Try http://www.vietnamworks.com. If you are interested in yoga and want to be a yoga instructor, you may consider of taking a yoga teachers’ training course. You can teach yoga in my city Saigon and at the same time working in office. By doing this you can pay for your living. You need to know that Vietnam is one of the poorest countries in the world, it’s hard to find a job. I am not sure if you both like to stay in longer. But if you can live a simple life, then you can live in Vietnam. It seems to me, gay foreigners are welcome to my city.

Talk to your partner. If you both go to Vietnam and need any help, email me at: mylittlekrishna@yahoo.com

Two years ago, I took a trip to India to study Yoga, after paying the air tickets and my stay in the ashram, I had left around $US200 to go home. I did know nothing about India neither USA. When I was in high school I was taught that American were our “enemy”, but they are not, they are lovely people. So you see what we were taught in school are not what we experienced. My point is you can travel with a little money if you have faith in God and in yourself.

I am sorry for writing a lot

Nguyen

U are a bold person hon. The best bet for you is to get out of India to another country so that you can express yourself . Both of you should try to go overseas for further education and this way you can live together.

You and your partner could marry a gay man and save up money to move to Canada or the US.

I am from India and a lesbian so I understand what you are going through. You asked this question 1 1/2 yr back so I am curious to know what you decided to do.
I left India and my partner didn’t wanted to go with me but I didn’t wanted to live in a lie. I am in USA now living with my (new)partner for 6 years. My parents threatened to kill themselves too but after lot of drama they talk to me now.

GIRL WANTED FOR MARRIAGE OF CONVENIENCE

Hi there…I m 28 yrs old Hindu Professional guy from US. I m a Gay and looking for a decent educated understanding lesbian or bisexual girl for moc.

I m financial independent, understanding, caring guy working in US. I am very
funloving and romantic. Most people find me to be very enjoyable company, quite interesting and good natured.
I would offer financial compensation to anyone who is in a position to help me.
Please email me on gayneedslesbian@yahoo.com

I feel your pain. I’m an African immigrant living in the US. My family is here too. I was raised in a conservative Roman Catholic family. Homosexuality is considered taboo in most African cultures. I did what was expected of me…got married and had a kid. I’m now divorced. I came out to some of my siblings. I will never come out to my mother, she is 70 and this would kill her.
As it is in the Indian culture, children are expected to take care of their elderly parents in close quarters. My sister and I are the unmarried siblings so mom stays with either of us when she wants. I can’t move my mom out….that would be very uncultured.
I’m 35 years old and still can not bring a date home.
If you get a chance to move to a more tolerant country, be smarter than me.

i can just i am in same situation but in UK now and gay. i too looking marriages of convenience. not sure the right way to go

I can totally symapthise with the girl posting this plea.

I am in a similar situation. I am a 27-year-old bi-sexual guy from Bangalore, India (I’ve had very few but mainly gay encounters). I am a very social person with lot of friends and I am very close to my family. I am a decent looking guy, successful career-wise and fun to be with. I am easy-going, caring, articulate and ambitious.

Getting married to a like-minded, intelligent, sweet woman and setting up our own home is something that I have always wanted. Besides, family, friends and career are of utmost importance to me. Which is why I am looking for an intelligent, career-minded and sweet bi-sexual/lesbian woman, with whom I can share a lifelong friendship and marriage. I think only such a woman can understand me well and be a good life partner.

If you like what’s written above and are serious about having such a relationship, then drop me an e-mail at funsensible@rocketmail.com.

sad. very sad.

guys in India are no more better position.
I am 32 rajput himachali guy looking for north indian girl for MOC. ANy one interested please contact me

Hi Dear,

I am 26yrs old well settled guy based in Bangalore working for a Multinational company wonder how could I live my life happy…

Ofcourse the situation is very similar here, I am the only son of my Father and only Brother to my Sisters, have a lovely Boy Friend with whom, I am living from past 2 yrs. I love him for everything and hate him for a reason, if he could be the reason for my incomplete life, as my relatives might think or would believe. Even though, my family members have no idea as what kind of life am I living being away from them or have slightest idea of my sexual leanings but I certainly don’t intend to betray them or shatter thier dreams, dreams of me living a simple married life.
Having said that, it’s understood that my life is going on but in a very confused manner. I wish to live my life with my lovely partner but also want a friend for life who could help me, make me just feel complete in this society.
Nothing much to ask, anybody who’s presentable, self dependent and ready for MOC, please get in touch with me @ (phone number removed) and ask for me or write to me to (email address removed). We would surely figure out as how to make it work even if you’re miles away from me.

Those who could understand my situation but can’t help, be it any reason, could possibly suggest me as how can I find the “One” for me.

Waiting for your kind response.

Sage

I can totally understand this. This is absolutely a pathetic situation that we have in India and mine is no better. I hail from a professional educated value oriented family with a lot of love and attachment and can in no way reveal my inner identity. Quite unfortunate. I am not sure if funsensible or NATE above have made some progress so far in thier search. I wish them good luck and expect the same for me too.

I am a professional guy, well educated and working abroad. People consider me decent, polite and good hearted. I am also sincerely looking for a les/bi girl, soft educated and decent, for MOC. Please feel free to contact me on (email address removed by Guide). I have no idea where I can find someone and any suggestions are gladly welcome.

Plzzz it sounds interesting, keep us informed about the further development of this plot. Would pray and my wishes to see you togather in a “happily ever after ending”.

my story is just like urs! dont knw wat 2 do! i want 2 get in touch wid u!pl help!

I need help for a friend of mine in India. He is a young gay guy and his parents is arranging him to get married. How can he get out of this situation? Please need urgent help.

Contact me soon. I maybe able to help you.

Hi,
I am l priya, 26 year old girl from Delhi,India…i am looking for a gay guy for marriage and then divorce down the line…may be an year or something…
let me know may be we can chat and find a solution together…

Hi there,

Im an Indian Hindu girl looking for a MOC. Iv had a indian gf from past 3 yrs. And we are both looking for a MOC. We are living and working in Singapore…..We are looking for Hindu/christian and Muslim gay guys(as my gf is indian muslim.

Hi SAKA, SAGE !!!!

I am too looking for an moc but divorce later in some years…
get in touch , may be we can have a chat
priya.bhardwaj4@gmail.com

I consider myself as a good match !

hi SIA,

i am a 30 yr old brahmin guy from mumbai, looking for a MOC and if possible a kid by artificial insemination.

i am gay and in a long term relationship with another guy from mumbai.

i belong to one of the top industrial families of india and we are very decent and cultured people.

i would prefer to be married for an year or two at max, after which wud expect an amicable divorce without issues of alimony (so will need a pre nuptial agreement to be in place)

also the kid part can be discussed later as its not a must but something i wud prefer to have

pls let me know if u would like to take this discussion further by mailing me at mocmumbai @ yahoo dot com (i am typing in words to ensure that spam stays away)

thanks

Hi it seems that the Topic is going to change in classified of LGBT. lol !!!

Here is mine Story -
I am a gay guy from India. My homosexuality is hidden to my family/everyone. But The pain I am bearing is worst. I

can’t tell My parents what I am. In our family I could do just one thing. To not marry and spend the whole life

alone. I do not any Homosexual friend. I even dont know any gay person.Or never sex with any male. After Denied hundreds of time for marrige.My Parents forced me to got married with a girl. With After Lots of Arguments I had done this after 7 years(in age

of 27). My Life ruined and everything was broken in my life. But I managed every night with my wife with giving him

a good sex. Those moments were always painful. I had always tears in my eyes when i do sex in the dark of nights.
I always thinks that I was happy in my lonely life. I can live without a partner but not with a wrong partner.

This is usualy common in our india. But the person like us can feel the pain. After 4 months The God hear

my voice and I seperated with my wife with some other reasons.( Here is important to be mention that there was not

any fault by me. And Everybody knows that I did not done anything wrong with my wife ever.). Now I always Thanks to god for such a wonderful blessing. After 2 months that mean today, I am

still in the pain of being gay and born in India. I want to live with a gay. But I dont know any person who is gay

here. I dont wanna go the Delhi;s park where I can found AIDS Patients who are only hungry for sex. I just wanna

open my identity to my parents when I got my partner. A partner with Long term relationship. I am not like a femine

typo male. I am Good looking earning good money with good qualification also. I wanna get a lifetime partner who

loves me I loves him. He should not like a femina type guy like I am not. I am looking for a bearish typo person. No

problem if not very young.

Sorry but I like to mention that there is no true gay dating site in india. all sites are froud. I tried

to find my partner via yahoo chat but no body found. everybody is seeking just sex. Please tell if any person

interested in long term relationship with me. mail me on myid

I want a white/brownish, bearish, healthy(not a body builder) type person with a average height. Cause I am only

5′1″

May be possible that any body will help me.

and beside everything sorry for my bad english.

Hello

I’m a gay Muslim guy from a small Muslim country.
My family is pressuring me to get married and I was wondering whether it would be possible to find any lesbian who is willing to go for a marriage of conveniene. Can somebosy help me please.

Hello Guys,

Just new here in delhi india, i did notice the homosexuality here is not yet acceptable by the society. Me im looking for guy bisexual for friendship coz i feel bore in the city of delhi
pls email me kevinboy1128@yahoo.com

Kevin

I am all alone in the same situation socity,parents their respect in socity,i knew about myself when i was 12 yrs old.But never says to anybody.Please help me i feel so alone in this world..i just want to meet ppl like me ..who has not chose this life ..but they are like wht they are..i am lesbian..even now days i am going thorgh so much pressure and emotional torture to get married.some time feel to end the life ..i am in bangalore..working as S/W.

Pls advice mail me rose.singh11@yahoo.com