Dear Kathy:Dear Jill
I have had sexual partners in the past (male and female) but have never come close to having an orgasm with them. When I masturbate I have to touch myself really lightly and through fabric. I am now in a long term relationship and when my girlfriend touches me it feels amazing and I get really close, but I can't ever have an orgasm. It feels like it will happen but the pleasure becomes too intense; It starts to feel almost painfully sensitive, I begin to physically shake and I end up having to stop. What can I do to change this as I know it could be really fantastic and both me and my girlfriend are getting very frustrated!
Signed Jill X
Believe it or not, you are not alone. As a matter of fact, Web MD reports that, according to a recent study of women between the ages of 18-59, 43% have complaints about sexual function, including orgasm problems. What can you do about it? Here's some advice about lesbian orgasm problems.