I've started a new relationship and would like to practice safer sex. I've had lesbian relationships before, but didn't find out about about safe sex between women until recently. I've tried reading up on the subject, but I've still got unanswered questions. Such as, if dental dams and gloves are so important, why don't straight couples use them, for the same practices? Also how does one go about using these barriers, without taking away the sensual element? I've also heard that some people chose to have some sort of medical checkup, before sleeping with a new partner. This is something that appeals to me, but I'm clueless to what ask for.Dear Safe Sex Virgin:
Protective barriers are important in sex for protection against HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. As for what straight people are doing, I don't have an answer for that. Corey Silverberg, About's Guide to Sexuality states that there are many diseases that can be transmitted via oral sex including:
- Human Papilloma Virus (HPV)
- Nongonococcal urethritis (NGU)
- Yeast infections
As for how to make the experience sensual, the best way to do that is to get used to safe sex supplies. Go out and buy some dental dams, condoms, latex gloves and lube. Practice on yourself. Get used to the feel and smell. Soon the smell of latex may become an aphrodisiac.