Where did you meet your girlfriend?
Saturday August 25, 2007
I completely discouraged. I have no idea where to meet women. I have tried the bar scene and found (not all that surprisingly) couples looking to for a toy and women looking for nothing more than sex. I volunteer at a GBLT organization that is only gay men and one lesbian couple. I’m sure there are gay women at my work but I’m not allowed to ask or tell. I need hope. I want to hear from the happy couples out there. Tell me how you met. I’ll take the “we saw each other across a crowded room” and the “introduced by friends”, but what I really want to hear are the obscure stories. I want to hear about being touched by the hands of fate, but I really want to hear about those of you that were shoved by the hands of fate.
Kit
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I met my gf while dining at a local pub on an ordinary Friday one summer while working in DC between my second and third year of law school. I was very lonely, having been focused so much on law school that I hadn’t been out and about, etc. or and my particular circumstances had rendered me unable to breathe the rainbow-scented air. That evening, while eating alone, I said a simple prayer–that God would send to me someone who would love me and whom I could love. Well, as I neared the end of my dinner, the restaurant grew more crowded. At one point, SHE walks in. The waiter informs her (I am sitting near the door) that the place is full, but that she can either wait, sit at the bar, or find someone to sit with. I looked at her…something clicked. I piped up, “You can sit here with me if you’d like?” She liked. And…over 5 yrs later…she not only “sits” with me, but she cooks with me, lays with me…and we share a beautiful life together. How simple it was…Just a prayer. And, I thank God for her as she truly remains The Answer to My Prayer.
I was 23 at the time. I worked a job I didn’t like and I was living with my parents again for about 2 years. They didn’t know that I’m a lesbian at the time. I was so lonely. It is hard to live in a one horse town where everybody knows your business and you cannot afford to let your parents know your business.
I had given up any hope of meeting the ONE.
One day I went out and bought myself a PC and started surfing the net. I chatted with everyone I could in chat rooms and so on. I found cyberspace a friendly place where I could be me.
One day while in a shop I browsed through a magazine and saw an ad of a lesbian girl seeking online friends. I bought the magazine, went home and e-mailed her. She replied.
She offered to introduce me to other lesbians who responded to her ad and I agreed. It so happened that two people e-mailed me. One turned out to be a very dear friend.
The other turned out to be the ONE. She too had seen the ad in the magazine and responded. Neither her nor I have bought that particular magazine before nor ever again. We bought just that once and through one girl we met. What’s the chances of that?
We’ve just celebrated our 6th anniversary.
God DOES answer prayers when you are ready to receive what you ask for. Keep asking. Love will find you.
I had been in an abusive relationship with my now ex-wife for almost 9 years. We had met at a gay youth conference we both were attending. I saw her “rapping” and she caught my eye for a second. I was trying to chase somebody else, but she chased me.
Anyways, I met my current jof of my life about 3-4 months after I finally broke it off for good with the ex. We met online at yahoo personals. I had just started to see who was out there for maybe 2-3 weeks while she had just about had it. She had been trying for months, I guess. We communicated via instant messaging, then talking on the phone before meeting in person. Once we met, we have been having such a wonderful time. We enjoy the other person so much all the time!
It’s all about timing and when you’re supposed to meet someone. We are everywhere, especially online! Try MySpace, join different lesbian groups, take up a sport if you like doing that. Anything! Whatever you like to do, do it and then if someone else joins it as well, then you two already have something in common. The trick is to put your intention out to the universe, then let it go and just live life to the fullest. Be yourself and just be. Have fun being single, then when you do get a partner, you’ll know yourself and you’ll also know yourself as a couple. Good luck!
I met my girlfriend through planetout personals.
I met my girlfriend on Match.com!
I was ready to throw the towel in after having had dated every woman in LA. We have been together for 2 years now, and have a very loving, healthy relationship. She is 29 and I, 31. The passion has faded a bit but overall we have a great relationship and are suitable partners.
I met my girl on match.com too! She was a needle in the haystack, but I am very happy!
I can never pass up this question because of the unlikely way we met. We met in Christian Marriage Class (a required course at the Catholic college we attended). Neither of us were out to ourselves (still clueless)…but we met and developed a relationship from there that was fairly eye opening for both of us. 15 years later we’re still together & thrilled to be so….
We met on match.com, too! It’s amazing how many people have had success there.
I had just moved to Seattle and my roommate (whom I’d found on Craigslist) suggested that he’d made a lot of good friends using match.com and other dating sites. I was very skeptical, but finally tried it. She was the only one I met. It actually turned out that we had friends in common, and we probably would’ve met in real life eventually.
It was kind of funny the way we found that out. My roommate and I had a Mardi Gras party, and my girlfriend (whom I had just met and we weren’t really together yet) came over. Halfway through the party, she said, “Which one is your roommate?” and I pointed him out. I had to laugh when it turned out that the two of them had just finished a class together, where they had been study partners. It also turned out that she had dated one of my friends from NYC when they were in college. At that point, it just seemed silly that we met on the Internet. We just celebrated our three-year anniversary. Aww
Surprisingly, we officially met at a gay bar. I had seen her before as I was the Preschool teacher where her toddler went to daycare. At the point where we crossed paths at the bar, I had already moved on to a different job. Both of us were not looking for a relationship. We are the 2+ year one-night-stand. She stills rocks my world every time she looks at me. It always happens when you least expect it. Get to know yourself first. Girls love a confident woman.
My partner and I knew each other as kids, all through elementary school. We didn’t hate each other, but we weren’t exactly friends, either. We had a mutual close friend, and really didn’t think about the other at all. We re-met shortly after high school, and then lost touch again, still not quite friends. Then, about 2 years ago or so, we were brought together once again. We were both married to men, in unhappy relationships, and mine was an abusive relationship too.
Circumstances were strange, and she ended up moving in with my now ex-husband and I, and she opened my eyes to what had been happening to me as far as the abuse went. Shortly thereafter, I kicked him out. It took awhile before we both realized we’d fallen in love with the other, and we’ve been together ever since. Now, we have a beautiful 11-month-old son, and we’re both extremely happy and content in our lives!
My wife and I met through a mutual friend. We are from a small town and had known friends of each other, but not each other. Our mutual friend was a gay man who had moved to Atlanta and used her as his beard when he came back to our small town. I had moved in with him and met her through him. She hated me at first (she thought I was the reason that the didn’t have a relationship….lol). I moved back to our small town and we kept in touch just as friends. I was definately the only lesbian she knew, but over time our friendship grew. After we had known each other for about a year, she finally told me that she had feelings for me. That was 13 and 1/2 years ago, and we love each other more every day.
Just hang in there, because love usually takes you by surprise and completely changes your world.
Both j and i had been in a long term relationships when they ended, six months later, i was on AOL, when i was looking thru the lesbian board. Her sister(straight) told her about the lesbian board)I never asked her sister why she was looking there..lol, but i got an email from a lovely person she had just left TX, and lived in ohio, i was in maryland and was willing to relocate. we started chatting and phone calls, a few months later i flew to ohio, and met face to face, well to make the story short we just passed out 11th year together. thanks to AOL and her sister….lol
Try gay.com—-we met in the “married room” I was at the time-she was years before…now we are together, 6 years going.
We met online. I do have to say tho, even tho using an online service, I don’t think “fate” played into it until I finally …. let go … of my past relationships. Then the person I’d looked for my whole life appeared. Actually, she mailed me.
She knew from the first moment we met, and I knew from the second moment we met. When she said to me… why am I chosen?… I knew. Cause those were the words I’d had in my head my whole life. When I “choose” someone.
Finally, I can love someone and be loved in return the way I always knew it could be. We’ve been together 2 yrs now and are bulidng a new house together.
Just trust……. and when you DON’T NEED someone, is when they’ll appear.
Keep your life full, with friends, things you love, and when you’re at peace, you’ll attract the right person.
I wish you all the best in your journey.
I met my girl in the junior high when we both had crush on the same boy. Over 12 years later, our own coming stories and broken relationships, we finally figured out we make a good team in all aspects of life. I spent a lot of time going to bars and online trying to meet someone only to discover I was holding myself back by not seeing what was right in front of me. I guess good things happen when you stop looking for them.
All three of my major relationships sparked when I wasn’t looking. I find that that makes a huge difference, to just make sure people know you’re available and don’t try and force it.
I’ve always had a difficult time with relationships, partly because I’m such a femme that everyone assumes I’m a Fruit Fly, but I’m outgoing and friendly so I make friends quick. While I ‘wasn’t looking’ for a relationship, at different times a ‘friend’ has become something much more.
I met the womyn who was to be my g/f for 6 years at Metropolitan Community Church. She’s now my ex (her decision) but we remain great friends to this day. Like they say keep praying & I hope it helps you … I’m saying the same kind of prayer. I’ll pray that we both find true love & soon! I don’t know about you but I’m tired of being alone.
Hugs,
Dee
I also met my girlfriend on match.com. Actually, I dated someone for four months last year from match too. But THIS one is the keeper
. I’ll be honest and say that I looked for almost a year before I found my second good match on match, but we would’ve NEVER met otherwise. I am so grateful. Good luck to you - she is out there.
I had been going through what felt like a many years long coming out process when I decided that I wanted give the online dating thing a shot.
I didn’t like the idea of the bar scene at all, not that there is anything wrong with it, I’m just not myself in those settings.
So I signed up for Yahoo! Personals. After a lot of searching and a lot of strange ad’s from couples looking for a threesome, I found my partners profile.
It was like lightening struck! She had a lot of the same interests that I did, her profile was warm and interesting, and she was beautiful to boot. I was like, “Wow! What a catch, I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s already met someone!” I took a chance and I sent her a “Wink” that said “I like your profile, tell me more.” haha!
So I waited, and waited and never heard back! I thought she met someone, and I actually had too, which ended up being a disaster. Well a month later I heard back from her! She hadn’t been on, she had just gotten my wink and her email was sweet and enthusiastic and she asked me a lot of questions and told me about herself. I was FLOORED, I couldn’t believe she actually responded. I swear there was a choir of angels somewhere singing! LoL!
So for the next week we sent long emails back and forth, learning about each other, joking, sharing…I couldn’t believe that I could connect with someone like that through the internet.
On Friday I gave her my phone number and she called me that evening, and asked me to dinner the next night. I was SO excited and SOOOO nervous! LoL! She asked me out!
I had only dated a couple of women, both poorly matched, I was still coming out, I was so scared I would scare her away. I spent hours doing my hair, my make up, trying to look JUST perfect. And of course, as always, I was running late.
I got to the restaurent, and as I pulled up towards the front, I could see a woman who looked remarkably like the woman from the photo. I had to keep my cool, so I didn’t look over, and I picked up my phone to call and say that I was sorry I was running late but I was there and trying to find parking. When I saw the woman out of the corner of my eye pick up her phone I knew it was her and my heart went a flutter!
I finally found parking (parking on Pearl street in Denver is a PAIN!), and as I walked the long walk towards the restaurant I could see her sitting there and she looked so beautiful. She was wearing a black shirt and a black and white polka dot skirt and sunglasses. So classy and gorgeous! As I approached her I didn’t know what to do, so I stuck my hand out to shake her hand (I’m so lame, haha!) and she opened her arms to me. The moment we wrapped our arms around each other I knew from the moment that there was magic there.
We went to dinner and we talked and talked. We opened up and even though I was nervous I felt like I could tell her anything. We went to coffee afterwards and talked some more. When we were sitting there talking I realized something: I can’t imagine the rest of my life with out her in it. It’s her. She’s the one. The woman I’ve been waiting for. The one I used to pray for when I was a little girl. The one I used to imagine at the end of the aisle on my wedding day.
When she said that we should probably get going, my heart sank…and then she said we should go to her house and watch a movie and I felt myself light up from the inside out!
We went to her house and I met her puppy. I felt like I’d known her for years at that point. We hung out on her red leather sofa and put on “Mulholland Drive” (HOT first date movie!).
As we sat there and watched, we made eye contact and she smiled at me and I felt a fire inside of me. I was so shy, I don’t know why…after a little while she scooted closer to me, and we were so close together. The moment she decided to hold my hand, my heart (literally!) skipped a beat. There was so much electricity between the two of us.
We looked at eachother…our eyes locked…she told me I was beautiful…I came in for the kiss…magic. That’s all I have to say. Magic.
That was over 2 years ago. It’s gone so fast but I can’t imagine my life without Joscelyne in it. We became official a week later, said I love you 2 days after that, moved in after a few months, and moved to Seattle and bought our first house together a year and a half ago. Our relationship has had a lot of magic in it. She has brought so much love and joy to my life, and I hope I’ve brought as much to hers.
It’s not always magic, sometimes we have to work at it, just like any other relatinship. But I feel like if we’ve gotten through a hard time, together, it just pulls us closer together.
I hope this helps you see that there is so much love out there, and there are many avenues to find it. Take care!
We met on match.com of all places after becoming EXTREMELY discouraged by the ‘bar scene’ and numerous ‘blind dates’ by friends. I was literally signing on to cancel my membership. When I checked my e-mail for the last time, I saw this attractive woman had ‘checked out’ my profile. Of course, I had to read hers… after reading hers, I realized she too had been through a difficult dating spell and was also ready to find a ‘real’ person. So, I sent her an e-mail telling her that although it may not turn out to be a “love connection” but, we had so much in common that we should consider a possible frinedship. Her reply was “who said this won’t be a love connection”? We’ve been together ever since. We finally moved in together a year ago and were married on the Northern Shore of Oahu last month!
If there’s any advise we could offer to others still searching for happiness with another person is to never give up looking and NEVER settle for less than what you know you deserve in another person.
Wishing everyone lasting happiness,
J & K
Living in a small town in South Carolina, I wasted lots of time searching in surrounding area LGBT bars for my butch-in-shining-armor. Frustratingly, lesbians around here misinterpreted my femmeness as straightness. And the ones who were in-the-know about femmes, were already taken.
Next I decided to try online dating sites. These too had pitfalls with lots of women just looking for sex masquerading as love. Just like straights, many gays confuse lust with love. Not that there is anything wrong with some good ol’fashioned heart-pounding, clit-throbbing lust, but false advertisements and mixed emotions can really piss off a gal!
Finally, I stumbled upon a wonderful site: butch-femme.com. Wonderful — in the way that it hosted like-minded lesbians who REALLY understood the butch-femme dynamics. Of course, as with anywhere in the world, that online community has its share of players and fakers, but it was there that I FINALLY met someone fabulously sincere… And although she is from NYC, she lives in my own backyard!
A true fool for love, for years, I traveled great distances across country in search of the perfect combination of love and friendship. Each breakup left me more disappointed than the last. By the time I met J, I had become jaded and just wanted someone in town to hang with; a pal. So, after seeing her ad on butch-femme.com, I answered with a note asking her if she wanted friendship from someone local. She agreed, and we eventually got past the e-mail and phone call stage to meet in person over a drink.
Six months later, we had been hanging out almost every weekend… We went to movies, to the clubs, to SC Pride, and to civic events together. Whenever our friends saw one, they saw the other. We were dating and did not know it! We just knew that we could be ourselves and had fun together. Admittedly, I had started feeling more than friendship for J, but I was afraid to change anything about our friendship.
The State Fair changed everything. One October night, we traveled out-of-town to the fair and were stopped in traffic by a train. It took over 30 minutes for all of the railcars to clear the track. In that moment, we talked and gazed into one another’s eyes. We drew closer and closer until we shared the most sensational kiss I ever believed possible. Two and a half years and perhaps hundreds of kisses later, this Halloween, we will be celebrating our 2nd year together as a couple.
I had moved to a small town having given up hope of ever meeting the woman of my dreams. I joined the Fire Department and became a licensed Medical First Responder and firefighter. I met my wife when I responded to a trauma call in my area. She was one of the EMT’s on ambulance duty that day. She asked me to ride along to the hospital to help attend three patients. She called me about a week later asking if I would be interested in working for the ambulance service….I started full time two days later. We have both continued schooling and she is now a paramedic, I am an EMT-Specialist. She also now is a member of our local fire department. We raised her two sons the oldest in his 20’s now, and very sadly we lost our youngest this past May. Our yougest son was also a firefigher and first responder. Our oldest is an aviation mechanic.
We just recently celebrated our 13th year together.
Meeting my girlfriend was an act of cosmos intervention. I had just been out on a date from Hades and once I kicked her drunk self out of my house, which was no easy feat let me assure you, I decided to log on Butch-Femme.com. I hope I can mention that on here to see if any of my friends were there to carry on about the lack of potential dating partners in my neck of the woods and I got an IM from someone who lived clear across the US from me and her line was” Whats a good looking femme like you doing home on a Friday night?”. I thought that it wouldn’t do me any harm to chat, so we did and by the next week, she used her vacation to come up and visit and now almost a year later I have moved down here with her to live and things are going well. My advice is to dont give up,it will happen whne you least expect it in places where you least expect it..
J and I met at the bowling alley…we were on the same bowling league and I actually met her mom first…her mom told me J would love to play on my softball team and gave me her phone number…i called her up for softball then asked to her to come over for a cookout…that’s all it took…sports, food, drinks!! come to find out though her and I played on rival softball teams three yrs prior…small world! we’ve been together over 2 yrs now.
I met my amazing girlfriend on myspace. I am 27 and she is 22. I know sounds cheesy..I was just broken up with my exboyfriend and wanting so badly to come out. My cousin suggested that I check out myspace(I’d never heard of it) so I did. I found alot of girls on there but never emailed them because I didnt think we would fit. After like a week of looking I found a beautiful girl that I thought would never give me the time of day.I emailed her three times before she ever responded. Here she thought that I was way out of her league and thought to email me was just going to waste her time. lol. We decided to meet after a week of heavy talking and chatting. I drove from Ohio to West Virginia to meet her. We spent an amazing weekend together and we couldnt stop there. I drove every weekend for two months to see her. It is two years later and we live together. Im the happiest person on this earth. She is Incredible and still the most beautiful Woman that I have ever seen. I thank God everyday for allowing me to find my perfect pair..my soulmate..and giving me fulfillment in life.
we have the same prdicaments actually…
A mutual online friend introduced my partner and I via an online lesbian dating website. We chatted via an IM service for over 3 months when she decided to fly to my city to meet me in person. After that 4 day visit, she asked me to come meet her family on the east coast (I was living in the south at the time). I agreed and she flew me in. On the last night we were to spend together before she was moving to Hawaii (she’s a travel nurse) and I was returning to my home state, I told her that in her, I had found more than what I knew I needed and wanted and I was tired of waiting–I wanted to move forward and make a life with her. So, I quit my very financially successful job, gave up my fiscal independence (temporarily), and uprooted my life to move it to join her Maui. Over 1.5 years later, we are happily still together and continue to travel around for her job. It’s a great way to see the world and my world is so much better with her in it.
Well I read most all the stories and they are all interesting .Imagine if you were in a dessert and you need water so badly but you wouldn’t find water but drink other beverage .I lived all my live hiding my who I am form others I am always with women they like being with me but I couldn’t tell them .One day my best friend had to travel for 2 months to another town for work there is shared a room with couple of girls from her university and they turn out to be bisexual she called me and told me the story which I emotionally asked her why don’t you hock me up with one of the them .she was shocked for a while and after her silent she said how about me ?? you know that I stopped seeing a man after my baby ? she thought I was joking so she was too. After two month she come back and we talked every thing so we hocked me up with this beautiful girl which wasn’t a lesbian on our first day I know that is was making fun out of me and just want try it .I told my friend I will find my own girl by my own time but she wouldn’t stop .it was Wednesday night I went home late and ate dinner I went to bed I phone call from her.
‘listen friend you have to come now, we are waiting for you in a coffee shop this is very important’ since she always has trouble with boy friend I thought it was the same story cause see always call and cry thanks that I am not her only best friend we are always there for .after 45 minutes I reached there they were both full of smile and laughing .
I started asking what happened and the both said ‘we found same one for you this time it’s for real we mate this guy who said his best friend is a attracted for woman and she has a lot in common with you ’I laughed because they called me just for that .they started talking about her for about one hour then they said her is here phone number just call her now .I had to make that phone call in front of them so I did but her phone was switched off they tried with their cell phone but the answer was the same .We all laughed on the short drama we produced .The thing is that I was calling for 3 months non-stop I don’t really know why and one night in a club we mate the guy who gave us her number and gave us another number . I called the next day then she picked the phone I couldn’t believe it was her I was shocked and hang up the next morning I called I told her a story that my friend told me .this was the story ‘hi my name is Sat and I am the marketing manager of this international company I heard that you are a famous basket ball player and I wanted to regroup you on our companies basket team and we please meet and talk about it ’she agreed for the next day lunch .We mate and started talking about life and relationship and then at the end she asked me about the basket team I told her we don’t have one but I can make come true if I talk to my boss it was just a reason to meet her the funniest thing is that she never asked why ?? the same day we ate dinner and I told her I am a lesbian and I am looking for same one in my life she told me that she is attracted to women and happy to meet one after a long time we went to my apartment talked for a while and went to bed the next day she invited me for dinner and went to my place again this time we did not talk the whole night but kissed since that day on we live together .that is the water that I wanted in my life .
I met my angel at connexion.org you should give it a look. I mailed her she replied and then we got married a little over a year later we are still really happy good luck but it is true what they say “It happens when you are not looking for it”
I met my partner when I was married and looking for a part time sitter for my third child. She was going to school at night and looking for another part time job to pay for school and I ended up hiring her. We became good friends; she helped my through my divorce, and much later I held her hand as she got out of an unhealthy relationship. 7 years later I realized I had fallen in love with my best friend, and we’ve been together for 5 years. She gets along very well with my ex-husband and is a wonderful parent to our four children. Who knew?
I met my partner on www.pinksofa.com, an online community for lesbians. My marriage (to a man) had ended and one day I had an epiphany that I was supposed to be with women. I typed lesbian - adelaide (I’m an Aussie!) in to google and up popped a cute pink sofa and my life has changed forever. My partner and I live 1000kms apart and have children but still manage to meet up about once a month. We would love to be together but with children it is difficult. Still, hope springs eternal! We are both still members of pink sofa and have both made some great friends on there, it’s more than just a dating site. You never know, if you stop being so focussed on meeting “the one” and instead make some new friends - who knows what might develop? Good luck!
i’ve had 3 relationships - my first girlfriend i met in school. we were very young when we got together and stayed together for 11 years! sadly, we grew apart. GF2 and i met through a common friend. GF3 and i met through my sister’s friend. i am now actually between GF2 and GF3, quite confused but happy. anyway - back to you! somebody has already said it but really, love happens when you least expect it. so be ready and excited! you never know what surprises await you just around the corner…you’ll see
I met my wife on the boards at PlanetOut. I had wriiten a letter of distress concerning a former relationship. She shared intimately about the demise of her relationship of 15 years. We became chat buddies. One day she invited me to a Judds concert in Chicago. I accepted and flew from NYC the next weekend. 6 months later she moved to NY and we stayed for 5 years before we relocated to IL. Her love and support has introduced stability into my life and I am ever grateful for the willingness to take that preliminary risk of meeting a person who I connected with on a public forum.
Many blessings on your quest to meet that special person in your life.
Dawn
BTW….Love your column in Curve Magazine.
She found me on PlanetOut.com. I wasn’t looking to meet anyone. I didn’t even remember placing my personal on PlanetOut. I’d gotten out of a very expensive lesbian relationship, two years before we met. I was happy living my life, raising my kids and spending time with friends and family.
I had a long list of what I “thought” I might want in a new partner, if I were to meet someone new.
The woman for me shouldn’t live south of I-90 in the Seattle area. She shouldn’t have any children (I have two children and trying to blend families seemed like it would be impossible, from a previous experience), no tattoos, non drinker, non smoker, no wallet in the back pocket, had to be employed, nice teeth (that was a MUST), she should be a blonde…lol, we always laugh at that one….and she should be healthy, happy and active.
She contact me after eleven days of sobriety, she quit smoking two years ago, she has four tattoos (all cartoon themed). She has one son, a month older than my daughter, she was unemployed, lived in Renton (which is definitely south of I-90, but at least she was in the same state), she wears her wallet in her right rear pocket, and she has brown hair, green eyes and a smile that lights up the room.
We’ve been together for over three years, now. We’re raising our three teenagers, together. My g/f is a retired/disabled veteran (having served in the first Gulf War), and I work for the Police Department.
I was a late bloomer. I’d been married for 12 years and didn’t come out until my mother died and I knew that I could no longer hide who I am. I was 40 yrs. old. I’ve been out for almost eight years. I didn’t know where to meet women either. I’m not into the bar scene. I finally joined an over 40’s lesbian group, in Seattle. I made several friends and was happy to hear their stories of love and life.
Like I said…I wasn’t looking to meet anyone when an email from HER popped on my screen, one day. We were two lesbian moms, raising kids and hoping to find another lesbian mom to hang out with.
We met for lunch….I brought my children with me. It wasn’t a date, it was a chance to meet and see if we had anything in common that we could do with our kids. The second time we met, she brought her son and the kids hit it off.
I still remember our first kiss. I remember the first time I took her hand and lead her down the hall to my bedroom. The night we told the kids we needed to get gas in the car and I took her to a place where I knew I could hold her in my arms, under that stars and kiss her passionately (we were newly dating and we weren’t kissing in front of the kids, yet).
Our relationship is still very passionate. It’s a full, loving relationship. She’s shy, sexy, tall, brilliant, and truly the woman of my dreams.
We love to travel, we entertain, we have a big beautiful home with a custom pool in the backyard for the kids and their friends. I buy her flowers, often. And we light candles and make love, at night.
There is someone for everyone….take a chance, put yourself out there.
I met my girlfriend on Match.com. Wow! So happy and in a few days it’ll be one year.
I also met my girlfriend on match.com. The first time we ever spoke on the phone, we talked for 5 hours! She’s amazing, and we’re so happy together. We’ve only been together about 3 months, but I think I really have found my match.
I have the most surprising story about my Sunshine Baby. I met her at the corner convenience store I went every day to buy gas and my dews. She was the sexy butch woman behind the counter. She was new there and had just started. The store employees all knew me and knew I was a very femme lesbian and single. The store manager and I were friends and chatted alot. When I walked into the store, there stood my sunshine butch. One look at her and my heart stopped, I couldn’t breathe, and the only thing that went through my head was “OH MY GOD, This one could be sooooooo much trouble for me, don’t do it B, don’t you dare get attracted to her!” Well my friend introduced her to me as her fav customer and to alway be nice to me, HA, and told me my miss sunshine was her new employee and her sister-inlaw! I don’t know if I was relieved or dissapointed about that knowledge.
Well, Sunshine and I ended up becoming really good friends where I would stop in and we would chat for an hour or so every day when I got off work myself. This went on for a little over a year. I knew I was inlove her but never told her because I did not want to scare her away. See, she had been accused of being gay her whole life and was basically homophobic to an extent. She was fine with gays as she called us as long as they did not hit on her.
My job moved me to another town commuting everyday so I ended up not stopping by as much anymore. We lost touch when one day I stopped in about 5 months later and found she was not at that store anymore. That is when I realized just how much she meant to me. Oh by the way, we both worked for the same company but in different areas, so one day I get a call at the office, I answer the phone and all I hear is “What the H are you doing answering the phone there?” I.m wracking my brain trying to figure out who it is, and I say ” I work here, can I help you with something” still not knowing just who this is on the other end. Then she says something that blows me away and makes my heart stop and I cant breathe and I know who it is!! ” Well Hello Darllin” You see that was her favorite thing to say when I walked into the store to mess with everyone because they just assumed she was gay by her looks.
She invited me over for a beer that night to play catch up, it seemed her hubby was on another hunting trip and she was bored and lonely and wanted her friend back to talk to. I agreed and went. I was scared to death too, let me tell you. I knew we could never be more than friends, but I was content to just have a friendship if that is all she gave me.
Well, about a sixpack later, she admitted to me she liked me and then after she handed me a new one, reached over and kissed me. I died and went to heaven and back in that one moment. SHe asked me ” how did that feel?” I told her like you need to do it again. WOW and she did!!!
SHe moved in with me that week and we have been together as a couple now for going on our 3rd year. We have married off our oldest daughter and graduated the youngest daughter from high school. We are helping to raise our 3 yr old grandson with his mom and dad. We have two wonderful dogs and are buying our home together thanks a wonderful landlord who thinks we are great and offered to sell her home to us after renting to us for the first year.
LIfe is great and when you least expect it and stop looking, then you realize love is right there looking you in the face where you least expect it.
Oh and by the way, SHe has been alot of trouble for me, but I love it and I love her!!! SHe told me I am the rainbow after the bad storm in her life that brought the color for her to be Happy again.
Her Rainbow
On July 4th 2006 was when it all came together. My girlfriend and I had known eachother since we were 14. We had a mutual friend, so we would be at the same places but different times. We weren’t really friends, but we knew of eachother. As we grew up we went are seperate ways. My soon to be, one day girlfriend ended up in the army and married. Yuck! Unfortunatly, I ended up married too. Luckaly, we both endedup divorced. While all this was going on, my younger sister was living in her parents house in her old room. How wierd is that? At this point, we were still oblivious to eachother. From 2005-2006, we would see eachother at parties, bars and other places. We would always say hi and be excitied to see eachother for some wierd reason. Technically, we weren’t really friends. I guess since we knew the same people, we were always just a drink away. So, now to the good part. On the 4th of July, she had texted me out of the blue. I did not know who it was, but I decided to call anyways. It was her, my future lover. Beside the occasional run in, I had never hung out with her before. None the less, she invited me over for her 4th of July BBQ and fireworks. I ended up going fashionably late. We then went to another friends house, got very drunk, and havent parted ever since. So here we are a year later, happy and crazy in love with eachother. We have just moved to Aiken, South Carolina and are working on starting a family. I love you Babe!!! xoxo
Once upon the time, there was a lovely lady with another two friends of her, came to my country to teach us ear-acupuncture. We were in a big group bright and blind people study together in one week from 8 AM to 5 PM. As I remember in the afternoon of the second day I approved her with the ear mode, asking her to re-teach me the position of the five acupoints of the ear (shen men, kidney, sympathetic, liver and lung) because I was not clear and I missed one class. She looked at me tenderly and taught me patiently then. The course went well and I was touched by her enthusiasm, compassion and simplicity. The last day of the course we all went to a village to give acupuncture to about 200 villagers and on that day we got chance to talk and to get to know each other. That was a beautiful day to me in term of sharing our energy and love to people whom we serve and to talk to her in person.
The day after she left for New York, I went to the hotel where she stayed with her friend, to give her a thank you present. The reception girl of the hotel did not let me to see her because she had stomach pain from poison food and was resting so I was asked to wait until her friend got back from internet shop. Then I waited… 30 minutes was over…her friend was not back yet…finally I went to all internet shops of that area on my motorbike to look for her friend. I found her and she took me in the room to see the ONE.
That was the last day we met. You probably want to know what present was. Well, that was a pair of sandals and my manuscript. We sometimes caught our eyes but honestly, I was not sure who she is. I have not been around with lesbians and gays so I can’t identify a person. When she first hugged me I felt she is the one I could trust.
She came back to N.Y and started to read my manuscript…it moved her heart somehow…then I came to know she is lesbian and is not with anyone. We have shared lots in e-mails and we talk over the phone often. I am 35 and she is 45. The age does not matter to us…we have common interests…she’s acupuncturist and English teacher and I am yoga teacher and massage therapist. We have known each other for around 6 months until now. We have a date in May next year in my country after I get back from my yoga training in India and after she finishes her working contract at a hospital where she works as an acupuncturist . I’ll teach her yoga. She’ll teach me English we can’t wait to see each other… we dreamed of each other at times. She has no idea about the future, but is quite trusting of unknown. Everyday I sow the seeds of love and trust of our relationship into my subconscious mind which makes me believe that our next important date would be perfect. I told her that I love her, that I now know why I am virgin at my 35 and have not been in relationship…because I have waited for her. I am serious about commitment and love kids. I have the feeling that she is the one I have asked from God for years. I don’t look for one at gay bars neither on internet which does not mean it is not good, just because I do believe in prayer.
I have lived in my shell in such a long time and now I would like to have some lesbian friends. I think she would be glad if I feel connected to the international lesbian world. I am grateful to have you all as friends. If you want, you can email me at: mylittlekrishna.com
Good luck to us. Thank you for reading my story.
Hi again, sorry for making an error my email address in the previous letter. Here it is mylittlekrishna@yahoo.com
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at a straight bar, through a mutual friend, at my place of work, at her place of work, on myspace, at Metropolitan Community Church
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