No One Believes I'm a Lesbian
Monday September 17, 2007
I am nearing my 30's and starting to realize that I am more attracted to women then men. I have a large traditional family and a very close circle of friends (all straight). It's taken me a couple of years to even consider coming out of the closet Land really being honest with myself.Let me take a guess here. You're a feminine woman who likes pretty clothes, make-up and even high heels. Maybe you were in a sorority or have a job that is traditionally feminine, like nurse or teacher. And most significantly, men find you attractive.No One Believes I'm a Lesbian
Well now that I am slowly peaking out of the closet and taking steps to come out, I am getting a reaction that I wasn't expecting. I confided in two of my closest girlfriends that I had recently been dating a woman and they reacted by attacking the girl I was dating. They painted a picture of me being vulnerable and this girl taking advantage of that. They even went so far as to say, "You're not a lesbian." Since then, we haven't really talked about it again. I want to bring it up again but I don't know how to address it.
Does this sound like you? If so, know that you're not alone. Believe it or not, coming out is often easier for tomboys like me. All growing up, we preferred rough and tumble to Barbie and when we finally uttered the words, "I think I might be gay," most of our friends were like, "Duh!"
Even if this is not you, even if you're a big softball playing, football cheering, truck driving, short-haired veterinarian, living in Provincetown...keep reading...
Comments
You told them and at this juncture they are not able/willing to believe it. I don’t think you need to continue “selling” them on the idea, I think you put it out there and now just live the life you want. If they are that true to your friendship they’ll come along. If not, it’s not really your loss – but definitly would be there’s. You’ve already taken the first difficult step and that was to say it out loud. Just keep opening that proverbial closet door!
I agree with SCButch.
You’ve told them… that’s all you needed to do. They can do what they want w/ that information.
Good luck!
As a newly “out” lesbian, I can say it is hard for some people to accept. I am a tomboy, but it was still hard for family and friends to accept. But after many years of hiding, it is easier to be honest with myself and those I love rather than hide.
When I come out to new people (both gay and straight) NO ONE expects to hear the words from my mouth. I’ve heard “you don’t look gay” more times than I can count. MY TRUTH is that my mind, body and spirit is attracted to other women. Because I have a feminine hairstyle, LOVE make-up and wear girlie clothes, I do not fit the ignorant stereo-type a good portion of society continues to hold. By staying true to myself, hopefully I am allowing those who meet me to broaden their horizons. There is room for the uniqueness of each and every one of us. Today I celebrate ALL my Sisters!
I agree with every once comment
This is what happens to me too no one agrees with me as a lesbian they tell me that I am a lesbian because of my childhood experience it kills them to see as a lesbian every day and talk about it in public in a country it’s illegal to be a gay .i would love to share this with every one this two questions are the popular questions I get from straight people.
‘You are successful in your life then others women intelligent and beautiful why are you gay?’My answer would be: Who said gays are stupid and gays are ugly?
How do your parents and your friends fell about it?
Well I don’t really care any more what my parents fell about it this is my life if they love me they should accept me as I am I am 25 now and I have been hiding my self until last year I think that is even .so believe on your self sis