I'm a 28-year-old lesbian from Toronto, Canada and I have a question for you concerning lesbian relationships. I'd like to know why they don't last very long? In the lesbian community, relationships seem to be filled with drama, cheating girlfriends, sleeping with exes, flirting with other women's girlfriends etc.
Since straight women usually want stable, monogamous relationships with men, I thought that lesbian women would want the same thing with other women. I was under the impression that gay men were the unstable ones and lesbians were into long-term commitment but as strange as it sounds, I'm now seeing more gay men in long-term relationships than lesbians.
Can lesbian relationships really last or am I wasting my time?
First of all, youíre writing to someone who is in a 15-year relationship. As you can see, from my point of view, lesbian relationships DO last a long time.
It seems to me what youíre really asking is not why canít lesbians form long-term relationships, but ďWhy canít I find a long-term relationship?Ē Itís not a universal problem, but a personal one.
Instead of looking outside or yourself for the solution to the problem, I suggest you look within. Are you not having long-term relationship success because youíre doing something wrong? Or is it simply that you havenít found the right woman yet?
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