Am I a Lesbian?
Sunday November 25, 2007
I've never thought I was a lesbian. I sort of always admired older girls, but never thought it was a crush exactly... more admiration or looking up to them. I've only ever fancied and kissed one guy, that's as far as it's gone.I'm seventeen... and suddenly I've met someone. She’s lovely, and gorgeous, and so nice to me. Saying "Maybe I'm a lesbian" sounds wrong, but saying "I really like this woman and want to be with her" is definitely true...
Am I actually lesbian? I'm seventeen, it's a bit too old for mad hormone stuff, right? It probably doesn't matter anyway, because I'm pretty sure she thinks of me as a child, and is straight, but I'm suddenly really confused. Can anyone help me?
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This can be totally confusing, I agree. But it all comes down to a matter of labels. You are, after all, yourself, not a sexual label. It’s interesting how people who easily identify as heterosexual, though, don’t go through any confusion as to their sexuality. And I think that’s because of our society making a big deal out of “homosexuality” and “being gay,” but not about being “straight.” We are who we are, we’re attracted to who we’re attracted to. Perhaps the stereotypes and value judgments we attach to these are one of the root causes of the confusion in our society….
hey i’m in that same boat. i’v been that way fro about a year now. and there is this one amazing girls who says she’s by but i’m to scared to try anything. i actually told her i dont know who i am and who i like. so i understand what u r going through.
This is the time to reach out and guide each other, the elders who have walked the walk, been there, done that , so to speak. So, I would tell you that you are not to old to be having new feelings. Your about college age and so many people begin to “find ” themselves around that time in their lives. I would just advise you to think about your future, think on those things that would make you happy and provide a healthy life. If you find that loving women is part of that plan then move forward in the knowledge that others have gone before you. That living your truest life is the path to the happiest one. That there is much support and love. And, remember that all is as it should be.
honey; you are still a very young lady. give yourself some time; and good luck! it is soooo sweet when two young ladies are in love.
hey, I’m 17 and going thorugh something similar. it takes a while. i had been in ‘relationshipes” with guys but there hadn’t really been anything there. Then i joined the swim team and two years ago a gorgeous girl joined. we got closer last year and i kinda started to get a grasp on things. It takes a while. And there are lots of little steps that go into it. I’m still confused, but things get better. Not as confusing.:)
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Give it all some time. Just be open to your feelings and trust your instincts. I was brought up to be straight and did just that, never thinking I should be otherwise, but always feeling closest to girls. After years married, the feelings had become more obvious and my life turned upside down. I came out and I’m very happy. But the point is.. I was trying to make all the right decisions way to soon. I had no idea who I was. I was only trying to do the ‘right’ thing. Just take it all day by day. Don’t try to identify yourself yet. It’ll work itself out when you stop thinking and start feeling. Just be YOU.
i know exactly what you mean.
its definatly hard.
but you shouldn’t worry about whether or not she likes you.
figuring out your self should be your main focus.
as for that part its a long process finding your self.
dont rush things, it will all come out on its own.
take baby steps and see what happens.
good luck ;]