Break-ups are never easy. But they don't have to be dramatic and mean. If you're in a relationship and you know that it's run its course, breaking up seems like the logical thing to do. But, as I have witnessed over the years, lesbians are really bad at breaking up. Either things stew and fester until there's a big dramatic fight--usually in a public place--and both parties let their emotions get out of control.
The other scenario I've witnessed too often is one person wants to break-up with her girlfriend, but she can't come right out and say it. She tries to soften the blow by being wishy-washy. But that doesn't work either. In order to have a successful break-up, you need to be direct, without being mean. Here are some tips for a clean break-up.
Once you succeed in the break-up, here are some tips for surviving your lesbian break-up.
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re: the break up issue. The most powerful thing in the world is realizing your own power. Your life is your own house. You have the power to visit all your rooms, lock your door, invite others in, donate old items.. remodel even! Women, we are the most powerful beings and we can create our own space. Reading and journaling can be life saving.
There are 2 books out there that a lot of people seem to really find useful on that topic.
Coming Apart: Thriving thru Crisis
and
Emotional Blackmail
also, there is a relational ‘how to” book, although sort of gender specific, still very insightful
called
Love Busters. these can be found on Amazon.com or at the library.
Have a great day