How Do I Tell Her She's Being Used?
Sunday May 4, 2008
My girlfriend and I have been dating almost eight months and we both love each other dearly. She has chosen to co-parent two children with an ex, before she and I started dating, which I have no problem with. My problem is that the mother was evicted from her home and my girlfriend has allowed her and the kids to move into her spare bedroom.This Is Coming Between Us
This woman has become the source of so many arguments because my girlfriend feels the need to be in her words "big sister" to her. This woman doesn’t work and from what I see has no desire to work and eventually take care of her kids, and I don’t know how to make my girlfriend see that this woman is just using her. When she doesn’t get her way she threatens to leave and take the kids. She does it because she knows my girlfriend's weakness is her love for the kids. I am at my wits end. Please help!
Doesn’t your girlfriend know anything about having legal paperwork drawn up by a lawyer. Also, they should have a mediator work with them to come up with a real co-parenting agreement. the whole situation sounds very dysfunctional and I am sure it will only get worse over time unless they come up with some legal agreement. Does your girlfriend claim one of the children on her taxes, who pays for healthcare etc. this make me so angry in this day when the kids need stability and solid parenting.
why do “work” come into this, working as a single mother aint easy with the cost of living in the UK being high (Tax for this tax for that and kids needs), people who dont have kids them selves seem to think its easy.Im doing a course to get a qualifcation as the government is pushing single moms into work,and while I was at my course my son broke a bone and had to go to hospital,which gave me a lot of guilt.
responding to the comment by tracy, this is my story and i have three children of my own. I work everyday to make sure that they have what they need and not having to depend on anyone or any agency to take care of them. no I do not recieve child support though I was married to my childrens father for 10 years. the government pushing single mothers to strive for more than sitting around the house letting hard working tax payers take care of them and their kids is a good thing. As a parent i want my kids to strive for the best and i want them to see that mom may have struggled but we made it and i want to do more for my family and food for thought, remember children learn best by example!