Dear Lesbian Life:I haven't been with a woman since 1980. There have been a couple of women, but nothing with any promise. I kept hoping. I actually believed anyone should be thrilled to have someone love them to the degree I love. You would be surprised how hard it is to get someone to love you after you even have agreed to provide a written guarantee. Yes, I can do that! Iíve never walked away from anyone... oh wait!! Iíve never had that opportunity!
So, do you have any ideas how this crazy-ass woman might find somewhere to meet someone? I did glance at your site explaining how to go about trying to "catch" someoneís eye. Iím 57 and have never gone looking for anyone. Iím older now and needless to say my assets have dropped! I will consider any advice you provide as long as it doesn't mean I have to go out and try to talk to someone. Yes, unfortunately I am THAT reserved...
Looking for Love after 50
Dear Looking for Love,Iím sure it took a lot of guts for you to write for advice. Iím glad you did. But Iím not sure the advice Iím going to give you is the advice you are looking for. I canít tell you youíre going to be able to meet someone without actually putting some effort in. Being shy is okay, but it hasnít gotten you a date in 28 years. If you want to see some change in your life, youíve got to make changes. Youíve written to me, so I can only assume you are ready to make some changes in your life. So here goes:
Internet DatingThe good news is, unlike 1980, we now have the Internet as an option for dating. I have heard from many lesbians of all ages that they have met their partners online. If you do meet someone online, eventually you will probably want to meet her in person, but hopefully by that time you will have emailed and talked to her on the phone enough that a face-to-face encounter wonít scare you to death!
Desperately Seeking Lesbian LoveBut also, I hear a tone of desperation in your voice. You offer to provide a written guarantee that you will keep loving someone. How can you do that? You donít know how your feelings will change and grow over time. Certainly you can make a commitment to someone after you have been with her for a time and decide this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. But donít jump the gun here.
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