How do I Tell her I like her?
Saturday July 12, 2008
She's 14 with a crush on another girl. She wants to tell her how she feels, but she's not sure how to do it.
From the Lesbian Life Forum
My sister and some people at school know I like her but she doesn't, should I tell her while she is visiting here? I'm very scared that if I tell her she might not want to be my friend but she isn't that shallow so I believe it would just get awkward between us. I really like her, a lot but I'm very scared.Do you have any advice for a 14 year old bisexual girl with a crush?
sometimes you have to speak up your mind.
so, tell her, you’ll never know if she likes you back unless you tell her how you feel.
Just be aware that after you did it, things migth or not be as you thought.
I’m a college student at the moment, but I know how you feel.
I fell into a crush for one of my good friends I met while being on campus this past semester. And, so I sucked it up and I told her. She stuck to the affirmation that she’s straight, but also made it known to me that she thought I was sweet for my feelings and valued my friendship very much.
If this girl is a good friend of yours, your feelings for her should not waiver that friendship.
Questions to ask yourself about the situation:
How long have you known eachother?
Is the crush serious enough to you that it’s worth possible rejection?
How comfortable are you two sharing personal information?
Does she seem homophobic?
Is she generally open-minded?
If you do decide to tell her, keep in mind that she may react differently than you’d expect. But, chin up! It may seem an important thing now, but you are still young. Friends will come and go, and so will relationships.
Also, if she rejects you for your feelings and doesn’t want to speak to you or something ridiculous like that, she is not a friend worth having. The love between friends should be unconditional. Those are the friendships you will find that last forever. : )
Tell her dear. Tell he what you feel. Somtimes it really works.
Take care & good luck.
The same thing happened to me a few months ago, even though she was 14 and i was 16. She was my best friend. She had already told me numerous times that lesbians made her uncomfortable. I wasn’t and I’m still not a lesbian. But, I invited her over to my house and told her. I was so scared that I was shaking. But she took it pretty well, even grabbing my camera and taking very…odd…pictures. She told me later that she was shocked. She never expected anything like that from me. Of course she was striaght and told nothing would ever happen between us.
I was extreamly scared things would get awkard between us, but it has been three months and we are still best friends.
Best of Luck to you!!!