Why Can't I Meet Women?

Well i think its great that you are raising your children and proud of it. If people are intimidated by that you do not need them comming from a mother of two, trust me when they date you they are actually dating your children. you are a package deal, be proud of that. and Kathrine moening is beutiful and i love her strength in the L word. But i think she might be straight because she would be proud if she were a lesbian. but i hope you find someone great soon, how about i no you will find someone great soon.

Well, of course all those children would scare almost anybody. That said, I would continue be up front about them, even to the point of where they “came” from…is there a Father lurking about? Maybe add a dimension…like “Betty Lou loves to play ball” or “Joey loves animals.” Show someone why they may not only fall in love with you, but the rugrats too. Mostly, you need friends…they can scout for you, and when lovers come and go…they will be there for you and whether you meet someone or not…your friends will still make you laugh. Good luck.

I think its great that you are a single mother of 4 children being educated. I think that it may be that you have not found the right person yet because you are looking to hard. Just sit back and enjoy those kids and when you least know it someone is going to walk into your life and accept you and your children and sweep you off your feet girl.. Hell I wish I could be so lucky to meet someone with kids willing to have more. Kids are our future… Keep up the hope hun

You know actually I have 4 children of my own, not 4 the same age tho. But i met someone actually that is 10 years younger than me and we have been together for 8 months now. So don’t get discouraged, the right person will come along and FIND YOU!! Don’t be so quick to find someone! They say that when you least expecting it and not searching the right person will just walk right in to your life! Also it is good you tell them about your children cause if they don’t like kids then they don’t need to be with you.. good luck and just remember to live life to the fullest!

Have you tried meeting other mothers because I think they’d be your best bet? Please forgive me but many women find the idea of coming last in line after someone’s children very off-putting; however, that blow is much softened if a woman has a child or children of her own. If you target women without children, well there’s a lot of infertility about these days, plus women who have not been able to become mothers yet due to not having met the right partner; these women could be jealous of you, you could bring up a lot of pain for them which naturally puts them off. Then again, many women don’t have children because they don’t like children. These reasons are all why I say, your best bet for gaining dates is probably to meet other lesbian or bisexual mothers. Also have you thought about simply trying to widen your social life and meet new people as friends – cause if someone gets to know you, as a friend, and falls in love with you, even if she normally has the above issues, your having children will be much less likely to put her off.

My first thought is WOW! Congratulations!

As a mom, you probably have little time for dating, thus fueling your concerns of if you will find that perfect partner to embark on this journey. Don’t fall into a trap that other single lesbians won’t want to date you. This is simply not the case. There are many lesbians out there who would have no problem becoming part of your family.

The key is to start taking that precious, limited “me” time and get out of the house! This will start the ball rolling in the right direction. You need a date night…even if you have no date! I think you need to be upfront about children when dating because this can be a real-deal breaker for some people. For on-line profiles, I would indicate you have young children, but I don’t think it is necessary to specify how many right off the bat. Four cute little munchkins can be a bit overwhelming for any single lesbian looking for love…even those who adore kids!

The suggestion of the lesbian moms group is a good one, but another thing to consider is if they are mothers themselves, then you are looking at the potential of the lesbian brady bunch. You may already feel overwhelmed with your 4, would you be open to more?

Please, don’t get discouraged. She is out there! But, I also hold the point of view that you can’t just work, take care of your kids, and the lesbian of your dreams will walk through the door. I believe you need to make an effort to place yourself in settings with opportunities. Most likely you will find her when you aren’t expecting it, but finding ways to throw your hat into the ring is half the battle!

And…don’t be afraid to date around and have fun. It doesn’t always need to be about finding the perfect partner. That is a lot of pressure! It can be as simple as finding someone you enjoy spending time with even though you know they aren’t “the one”. You can still be a responsible parent and have fun too!

in my experience childless androgynous and childless butch women who are not too young, ie, maybe in their thirties, are the least likely to be put off by a woman having children.

well you sound amazing so i would keep ya chin up and it shouldnt really matter if u have kids because if some one likes u 4 u then i am sure they will like ur kids as they are part of u!
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if i were u ,i wouldnt bother if any one dates me or not since u are educated, intelligent and you are working, with ur children u donnt need a man but sumtimes we have the urge to be with a man,any way u need not to worry urself much a man that will love u and children will definately come ur way.

Uhhhh Susan, she’s not looking for a man! I too would like to encourage you. I am also a mother of 4 (including a set of twins) with an ex-husband, one 4-year degree in the midst of working towards another in nursing. With all that, I have found true love and a relationship that I believe will last a lifetime just as Del and Phyllis. We’re the same age, both have been married previously, but she never had children of her own. However, I have no doubt that she loves mine as her own. We found each other almost by accident, but I believe it was totally a divine “accident” that God led us together. She is my soulmate. You too will find yours in the right time.

As the Mom of a 9 year old son, I would have to say that some women are intimidated by lesbians with children. What I would also say is that if that’s the case, then they aren’t the right women for you anyway. It’s obvious that you’re a proud Mom and I’m confident you take that role seriously. While I don’t find it healthy to be defined by the fact that we have children, it is most certainly a piece of the puzzle that makes you, you. I’ve dated women that were jealous of my child, I’ve yet to wrap my brain around that concept, but humans are a bit odd at times. I’ve found the love of my life and she’s not only accepting of my son, but she’s coparenting him, to the degree that he’s happier than he’s ever been. Stay strong, the right woman will come along, and when she does, you’ll know it, and you’re children will be as happy as you will to have found her. Good luck.

Wow!I am a siingle lesbian whos partner left because she is in the military and she too is a single mother. It didnt bother me at all because in some ways I looked at her child as mine. To have quads must be a joy and a challeng when it comes to meeting some one but with me I would enjoy the chanllenge of helping some one raise quads. Even though I am 22 years old I have a very open mind and my thought is if you date the mom you date the kids too and if it works then you know that you have the right person.