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Coming Out of Heterosexual Marriage

By October 11, 2009

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Christina was married for 15 years before she discovered that she was attracted to women. Her husband was surprisingly supportive.

My husband was not surprised when I told him that I might be bi or gay because of my background. My father is gay and my sister is gay. Besides that, he noticed how overly emotional I would become when my best friend did not call or keep a commitment with me. And, being the supportive husband that he was, he told me right away, that I needed to go out and find out for myself if I was truly bi or gay.

So, while still living at home, I attended lesbian support groups in my area, and attended regular therapy to figure out my identity, my marriage, and my attraction for woman. And, because I like to go out night clubbing, I started venturing out to gay clubs on Saturday nights to experience the gay lifestyle.

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October 15, 2009 at 12:55 pm
(1) haylee says:

I’ve read Christina’s story and I don’t think she’s a lesbian at all. It’s not because a straight woman who LOVED men, suddenly falls for a woman (who happens to look like a man), is now a lesbian. If the relationship ends, I’m betting my life savings she will go back to men. She’s a straight woman who’s now dating a butch because she’s been disappointed with her relationships with men. Her first hubby cheated on her. Her second hubby didn’t want to have sex with her. Her frustrations and lack of love/attention from men drove her into the arms of a butch. She’s no lez.

October 19, 2009 at 1:10 am
(2) Teresa Dominik says:

I came out two years ago after being married to my husband for 14 years. This was my second marriage and Ive also had several other heterosexual relationships.I am currently living with a woman and she is the love of my life Ive never been happier or more fullfilled.

October 20, 2009 at 10:26 pm
(3) Anonymous says:

I’m wondering how Cristina’s girlfriend feels about her still fulfilling her husband’s sexual needs by continuing to have sex with him?

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