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Sexy Friday: Anal Sex Question

By May 28, 2010

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Dear Lesbian Life:

Is my girlfriend really a lesbian if she really enjoys anal penetration over other forms of sex?

Answer: I don't know if your girlfriend is really a lesbian. Have you asked her how she identifies? Some lesbians love anal sex. Others don't care for it at all.

I'd like to clear up a myth about what kinds of sex lesbians do and don't like to have. Believe it or not, not all lesbians like oral sex. Some lesbians love penetration, either vaginally, orally or anally with a dildo, but they would never want a real penis. Some lesbians like breast play, others don't want their breasts touched at all. Every person's sexual preferences are different.

A lesbian is a woman who is sexually and romantically attracted to other women. What defines a lesbian is not what part of her body she wants stimulated, but by who...Keep reading.


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May 28, 2010 at 7:02 pm
(1) Danika the Lesbrarian says:

How to tell if a woman is really a lesbian: she identifies as a lesbian. It really is that simple. I feel sorry for people who restrict what they do in the bedroom because they think it’s not gay or straight or whatever enough. Do what feels good and doesn’t hurt anyone (at least, not without their consent).

May 28, 2010 at 10:15 pm
(2) surgicalgirl says:

Our own insecurities interfere with reality. Itís hard for some people to believe that a lesbian wouldnít enjoy vaginal or anal penetration. We most often forget, itís all about the giver of that penetration.

June 2, 2010 at 2:00 pm
(3) Valerie says:

Thanks for being so clear and concise! I wish everyone in the world (gay and straight) could have that knowledge. I get really tired of people on the outside assuming they know what my sex life is like simply because they know my orientation.

June 12, 2010 at 4:17 am
(4) GotPower says:

I absolutely agree with you. To find out being a lesbian means to be a woman and to love to touch and get touched by a woman. No matter what you do in bed (or kitchen, shower … ;-) ) there is no guide to tell what is the correct lesbian sexlife. Enjoy and give joy!

July 25, 2011 at 7:29 pm
(5) archna says:

It is not true if a girl goes for anal sex is a lesbian. My husband and i have anal sex since marriage along with rimming.

But i never had a any inclination for same sex partners and same goes with my husband.

Initially when my husband asked for anal, then i was in think that my husband may be bi or gay. but that was not true.

Same goes with me liking anal sex as well same sex soapy massage doesn’t make me bi or lesbian.

Have a talk with your gf and clarify.

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