Am I the only one who feels a bit sorry for Lindsay Lohan? Today she is heading to jail for violating the terms or her probation. She was sentenced to 90 days, although last time she was sentenced to jail, she served only 84 minutes. Her one time lover, Sam Ronson accompanied her to the court house this morning.
I don't think Lindsay deserves special treatment because she is a star. And certainly she's got some issues with drugs and alcohol that she needs to take care of. Will this do it? Will sending the 24-year-old to jail help her get the help she needs to get clean? When I look at her, I see a lost and struggling little kid. I think, who can handle the kind of pressure that's been put on her her whole life? Sure, she's rich and she's famous and she's had every opportunity to take care of her problem. But when I look at her, I think, what if she were my niece?
And then, of course, the thing that's upset me about this case is that every time I turned on the TV this weekend, some talk show host was going on about the "gang of lesbian prisoners" just waiting to get their hands on Lindsay. I mean really. Who are these lesbian gangs? Did they get together and put out a press release saying they were licking their lips at the thought of Lindsay in prison? Did reporters go into the jail and seek out these "lesbian gangs" and ask them what they thought of Lindsay joining their forces?
I guess it's exactly that kind of thing that makes me feel sorry for her. The way that the media wants to sensationalize everything about her life. How they're almost waiting for her to fail. The way they make up stuff about lesbian gangs - and who knows what else - to keep people interested in her story. Which, really, is just a sad story of a lost kid who needs some help. What do you think?
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Yeah. Everyone goes on about all her partying, but what would most people do if at age 20 they started making millions of dollars, being flown all over, and having everyone paying lots of attention to them. I’m not sure how you *could* stay grounded. The basis of the whole experience is a flight of fancy of sorts. It’s like the cinderella story, only the ball is filled with opportunists and freeflowing alcohol.
I feel the same way! It would have made far more sense to put her in some sort of long-term treatment facility. She obviously does need help, and it’s pathetic that the judge had a chance to, and chose instead to be overly punitive.
I think it was a big mistake putting her in jail. She needs help!
It’s true that she had serious problems with drugs and alcohol and it’s not like she’s my “hero” and that I love her but I’m sure that with everything that happened to her, she’d be able to realize how life is precious and she should be who she is (lesbian) and scream it over the hedge. And I think that this ‘lesbian gangs’ things is just stupid stuff for make the publicity higher and take our money in magazines and stuff that are based on some lies or some shit … !
I totally, 100% agree with all of the information stated!! Lindsey has some issues, but who on earth does not and who are we to judge her? I also feel saddened by the fact that this judge that sentenced her to jail seems to have it out for her, in that, Lindsey had been following the courts rules, she was wearing the ankle-alcohol bracelet, she was attending all the things she was told to attend and because she was sent on a job by her agent and unable to make it back she is sentenced to jail???? I really don’t think the judge had any intention of letting Lindsey just do her probation, she (the judge) totally had it out for her and threw the book at her the first opportunity her royal pain in the ass had!!
Lindsey is a beautiful, talented, actress who, like the rest of us, has messed up and so on, but give the girl a break for goodness sake.
Lindsey is an American citizen and she’s know different from the millions of Americans who are already in jail or who are being sent to jail each week. She broke the law and now it’s time for her to do the time. Her personal issues are of know concern to me or to the law. Yes, she needs help. Going to jail is only the beginning of her treatment process. There are a lot of women who aren’t famous ,who have problems similar to Lindsey. The problems we face in our personal life doesn’t give us the right to break the law or to be disrespectful to others.
failure to honor probation conditions has consequences – she was warned and thumbed her nose at the judge one too many times. She deserves to be in jail.
I do feel sorry for her, BUT she has been to rehab several times and served jail time several times. She has had the opportunity to seek help, and has been offered it. I understand that she may be under a lot of stress, but being rich and famous gives you special privilages, jail for violation of parole, 90 days, because of overcrowing she may only serve a quarter of her time. She has yet to serve a severe sentence, she has yet to really face the consequences of her actions. I think that she needs to step up and take responsibilty, serve her time and complete rehab and if in violation again, she should have a more severe sentence. I think her behavior is due to a mixture of stress and publicity.
This is the same woman who was arrested for DUI.
She does need help…and I hope she gets it before she kills someone.
As someone in recovery, it is unusual to have people recover who HAVEN’T been locked up for one of many various reasons. Considering all the drugs and alcohol that exist in Hollywood, it makes sense that one or two will face the harsh consequences of incarceration–not necessarily because they DESERVE it, but just in terms of statistics. People with drug and alcohol problems face 3 options: jails, institutions or death if they don’t recover. If you really do have a soft spot in your heart for her, know that she’s in a relatively safe place for now. She can still find recovery in jail–many do.
Lesbian gangs? Wow steriotyping much… I highly doubt that they put themselves into the category of lesbian gang… I think they need to send Lindsay to a secluded place so she can deal with it her own way and makesure that she has no way to get drugs/alcohol/outside pressure… Rehab obviously isn’t doing the trick so try something other than jail… No offense to Lindsay but she’s not tough enough to fight for herself in jail…
*sigh*
All you guys who defend poor Lindsay… She’s been in heaps of trouble on numerous occasions. She’s been ordered into community service & rehab – none of which she’s fulfilled. So 90 days jail time doesn’t seem like a harsh next step to me.
If she was your neighbour without the glitz and glamour, making a nuinsance of herself everyday, I don’t think any of you would be so sympathetic…
“Poor Lindsay, she just needs a hug”… My foot! They tried being subtle and it didn’t work. So maybe 90 of being forced to stay clean in jail will sort her out.
Sorry Lindsay :-/
I wouldn’t be surprised if these supposed lesbian gangs are the “pink pistol packing group” that was fabricated on the O’Reilly Factor some time ago. Sadly, many widely watched media sources today are no longer concerned with accurate journalism, only sensationalism.
Those with addiction have to want to change. This is often a result of pain and/or consequences related to their use. I empathize with her, but if she is to recover, she needs to go through whatever it takes for her to admit defeat. It would be a shame if she is denied the consequences of her actions since this would further perpetuate that behavior. A lack of consequences could result in an untimely death. The gravity of the disease she suffers with is very real and sending her to jail may be an important event that may help to save her life.
she is only going to be in there for 13 days–it will be good to wake her up-i disagree with the 90 day thing but 13 days will teach her a lesson.
I am fascinated by her for no apparent reason. I certainly don’t applaud her actions, however. I think she’s been targeted because she is a celebrity and that the jail term is way overboard. She needs rehab. And the lesbian gang thing was ridiculous because it was publicized she was to be isolated; I doubt seriously there is an official group of lesbian thugs that volunteered their hunger for her. When I saw what looked like a hundred cameras waiting for her as she entered the courtroom to surrender, I felt even more sorry for her for it brought to light how much scrutiny she is under all the time. I am relieved at least that Sam did visit her in rehab the night before; she needs friends right now.
The first step to any type of recovery process is admitting you have a problem. Unfortunately, for a lot of people who face this dilemma, admission comes when the epitome of “rock bottom” has been hit.
Stressed out child star; a harsh father; sexual identity issues — all just excuses to fuel the addictive behavior. But you know what? In the end, we all need to be accountable for our own actions. Lindsay chose to drive while impaired. Lindsay chose to become impaired. Lindsay chose to break the rules.
People make these same choices every day. If she had not been Lindsay Lohan, we certainly would not be commenting in forums about this poor, misunderstood girl. The “people” would be yelling bloody murder and screaming for a maximum sentence to get this impaired lunatic out of society before someone really gets hurt.
At some point in time, Lindsay Lohan, big time hollywood star, is going to have to make a choice to do something better with her life.
We all have that choice… Hollywood stars or not.
Being a recovering alcoholic myself, I understand some of her problems, with the exception of being rich and famous. Jail is not rehabilitation, it’s punishment. And to punish someone for addiction which is a disease of the mind is just inhumane. We wouldn’t punish someone for having cancer- and it’s the same with drug/alcohol addiction. Although, she did break the law and there are alternatives to jail time. I just hope she gets some long-term treatment before she becomes institutionalized. Then again, 3 months in jail ain’t too bad! She’ll live!
I feel a LOT of love and compassion for Lindsey. Whenever I see her on TV and whenever I have heard her speak I have found her to be kind, thoughtful, and very smart. I am praying that she survives this era of her life and goes on to succeed at her craft because she is really a great talent.
Excellent comment, April. Yes, addiction IS a disease as is depression, both of which LiLo has.
You can check out what I and my friend have to say about the matter on http://smtx.tv Just click on the link for The JumpUP! Power Hour, episode 3.
I really think that Li-lo needs to work out what ever “demons” are working her nerves. She’s way too cool and too beautiful to be in such a mess. Just like everyone, she needs time to really come to grips with her situation and who’s to say that jail time won’t do her any good? It’s all about what she does with her time. As for the “lesbian gangs”…well, maybe there’s a little Helena in every girl.
I don’t think they are being too hard on her. Sometimes real jail time is the only thing that makes you wake up and realize you need to get your life on track and stop being an asshole. I had to go to a local county prison for 48 hours. I was locked up with murderers and other crazies. My cellmate talked to herself and there is no such thing as even going to the bathroom in private. Nevermind the humiliating strip search. Guess what, I’ll never screw up again. I was THANKFUL to get a taste of where I would end up for the long term if I kept up the bullshit.
I don’t feel one bit sorry for her. She violated her terms of parole and she has to get punished for her errors. However I’d to you know what to her.
She needs to serve her time as anyone else would. People are so worried that she needs help. Well duh. Of course she does but it is up to her to want that help. Some jails and prisons offer some type of treatment options for those who have addictions. I hope if this one does that she takes advantage of it to become a healthy person.
i love dat gal so much but what the judge did is a stupid judgement how can you put someone who needs help in jail not in rehabilitation centres?????
and again i feel sorry for sam, wait for her buddy,she will be back sooner than you think,i will keep praying for you all.
Hello All, I have a slightly different take on this Lohan deal but not by much. I had the experience at 27, to become addicted to drugs and alcohol. I struggled for a few years then was sentenced to jail for 3 years plus one year in rehab. I was terrified about the Gangs people speak of. Im a lesbian but I could not have been treated better by the women there. I was everyones child, I was not raped, I was not attacked and all that might happen in mens prisons and in some womens but NOT TO ME. That stuff mostly happens in movies. Where I was you had to be willing participant. Anyway, the year I spent in rehab gave me a new sense of self worth, I entered counseling for abuse and other issues while there. I have been a new person since my release and have been in recovery for 17 years. NO ALCOHOL OR DRUGS. Ms Lohan has been sentences to rehabs prior to this, she never completed and made a conscious decision to be in contempt when she left rehab and when she cursed out that judge. No one made her do that; it was her choice. She can do 90 days standing on her head but she can get counseling while she is there. At least in prisons in NJ they give you the option of entering drug programs there that are much safer than regular population. Yes I feel badly for her, she looks so lost. However she needs to learn to comply judges orders, stay clean and learn to continue making meetings and staying clean. She needs to take care of self and stop worrying about her peers. She needs to learn to love self. Most jail terms of 90 days; you end up doing about 45 days with good time. Come on she can handle that and maybe she will learn from this experiences.
LIndsey has been through much and survived and now that the judge saw fit to Save her from herself once again; she will do ok. If you care what happens to her, then tough love is what she needs. She needs people who love her to stop babying her and be there for her while she is in jail and when she comes home. She on the other hand needs to admit complete defeat, surrender to the fact she can’t control her use of substances, which is step one, she needs to reach out and ask for help to people who are in recovery and to others that don’t drink or do drugs, and eventually find a higher power that can help her stay clean. that is how the 12 step programs work. However, it can not work without her hitting her bottom, surrendering and becoming willing and humble to accepting help. i will pray for her recovery.
I have to come forth and say that I am the official media relations representative for the above mention ‘lesbian-gangs.’ We are in fact anxious for Lindsay’s arrival…
Okay in all seriousness 2 things offend me about this. One I am a lesbian and the media playing up the stereo type is insulting. Two I think everyone who is defending Lindsay need to understand an addict will not get help unless they want it. I have been clean for 10 years and know from experience that you have to have a moment of realization before you take your recovery seriously.
I never went to rehab or got arrested, but i did get the tough love thing from my parents. It wasn’t until i woke up one morning wondering how i had become this other person I didnt recognize or like that i decided to change. I had a moment of clarity in which i felt ashamed for doing things my grandparents had not raised me to do.
Interventions and all other attempts before had failed because i didn’t believe i had a problem. I know that when Lindsay gets to her own aha moment then she will do what she needs to do, until then help can not be forced upon her. Maybe jail will help her reach that place… I can only pray and hope she reaches that place before its to late and someone ends up dead.
Well done!
to all of you ladies who are keeping clean and sober.
Hi Veejay,
you sound a little bit satirical ….
For me it’s not so complicated: Everybody has to stand for the consequences of his/her own doing. Until now she enjoyed her parties (not her life). Maybe she will learn something, f.i. that life isn’t always a party, that friends are not always those who give you more drugs, that she has responsibility for herself. Surely she has to become clean to detect herself. And btw all her “friends”, managers, agents and who ever made money with her name and pics and interviews and so on belongs to jail too; but please not the same!
Hi GotPower!
My respect for recovering addicts is 100% sincere.
I had a girlfriend who could not/didn’t want to get clean. She had all the support but kept on messing up. She lost her family,friends and eventually me. I couldn’t do it anymore. She was destroying me.
I saw the power of addiction. Perhaps if she got locked up for a few months things would have been different.
I’m not an addict so I don’t know what it feels like being in that deadly grip but I was a co-dependant for a long time.
One thing I know for sure: if I find myself in this situation again, my nieces for example, tough love all the way.
We all pretty much agree that Lindsay has to serve her time. She has to get her act together and look after herself and her own interests. I can only wish her well and hope this is a hard enough kick in the pants.
Hi Veejay,
I think we mean the same. Some years ago a friend of mine, we attended the same school, had very big problems with alcohol. He didn’t see it as such a problem but everybody else. At least there were only my girlfriend and me and I told him to think about that the bottle will be his last friend, we will go. He thought about it and he understood that he destroyed his life. Today he is clean, has a wife and a daughter, works hard is happy and thankful. Two weeks ago he said the best what happend was the moment he understood he lost almost everything. The hard words my girlfriend told him and my tears showed him what he did.
And this is the difference to LiLo. There are many people around her who get money when she is on a trip. They use her. First they made her popular and now they use her life. It’s a very sad situation for a young woman who couldn’t learn what it means to follow some rules and to know the consequences if you didn’t.
So please don’t get me wrong:
She needs help, first she has to realize what happend to her and this is possible in a place where her “friends” cannot visit her. So these three month can be a first step for her probably followed by a rehab to make her stronger in mind.