Have you ever wanted a penis? I think a lot of women, both gay and straight, sometimes fantasize about what it would be like to have a penis. I've heard funny folk songs about having a penis for a day, read lesbian erotica about it and think I've even seen a short film about lesbians fantasizing about having a penis. It's the kind of thing that can be fun to think about. But I recently heard from a young woman who is troubled by her "penis envy." She says she's jealous of her brothers and all men and just wishes she could penetrate her girlfriend like they do. Is this the sign of a some kind of gender identity crisis, or is it simply something she can solve by changing the way she and her partner have sex?
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I’ve never had “penis envy”.
Let’s see – could pee standing up; wouldn’t need to pull the pants down so less time off my 10 minute work break; could pee in the snow; could pee standing on Main Street with my back to the street (I’ve seen this); could do jerk off contest with friends; could measure it and compare sizes.
You don’t want to be a man so get that out of your head. You simply want to get closer to the woman you love. I’d bet (if I betted) that if you had a longer clitoris (or penis) you still wouldn’t feel like you were close enough to her while making love to her.
I think I saw a short film about women taking a potion or something but I don’t remember if any of them had sex.
I read Kathy’s response, but couldn’t help feeling she left out tribad sex which I feel would be most effective in helping Shy feel closer to her partner, even more so than a dildo.
Let’s see–peeing standing up–about 30 seconds. Jacking off/penetrating the girlfriend–I guess that depends, but let’s be generous and say 30 minutes. That’s assuming you don’t have ED and can get it up. Showing and comparing–I won’t even get into that one.
Stack that against the possibility of testicular cancer and prostrate trouble (which seems to be increasing every year), the possibility of getting some very tender pieces parts injured, because they’re exposed… Not to mention the discomfort while horseback riding when those pieces parts get in the way (which may be one reason those cowboys don’t talk much).
No thanks
i can tell u exactly how it feels to have a penis,i’m total female except i have a 7.5 cut thick penis i’m TS m to f on female hormones 2.5 years and been dressing from age 10, its ok to have a penis,does really feel good inside another female but in the end i’d much rather have a viagina as i will have in 2 years unless i meet a really nice lesbian girlfriend that wants me to keep it for awhile
the hormones have worked so…well 
“Lesbians are like Congress: They don’t do dick!” LMAO.
I don’t want to make a value judgement on this topic. However although I am a heterosexual male I can understand from experience how women derive much pleasure from tribadism so much so that when I experienced a threesome withn 2 women they prefer to engage in tribadism before I can join and by gosh when I do they are already horny and hot.
i have never envy of penis.i just can satisfying my girl using my mouth.penetrate using your tongue will be very pleasure..try it..though tongue not as long as big as penis, but if u know the tactic, it satisfying more than penis do.
one more thing, if u think only penis will satisfy your girl(through penetration), i think you have confused about yourself.maybe u are not actually lesbian..according to feminism, woman who loves women are hardly oppose to men in every matters. the way they having sex also differ from men..even some women hate penetration. this is really called lesbian..if u still have feeling of liking penetration, maybe u r a bisex.
“if u still have feeling of liking penetration, maybe u r a bisex”
That is just stupid. A vagina is not just a reproductive organ so liking penetration during sex does not automatically equate with needing or wanting a penis. Some women do have sex for pleasure and not to just reproduce. A woman doesn’t just magically grow a vagina when ready to have sex with a man. I don’t do men and I have one.
Females can pleasure themselves sexually so no penis is required. Fingers, tongues and sex toys can also penetrate. And before someone brings up about the shape of sex toys I’ll just say think about how that part of the female body is shaped.
From what I get by ShyGirl’s letter is not about sexually satisfying but that she wants to be closer to the woman she loves and think that being physically inside her will do that. I can’t remember the song but a guy sang about wanting to be inside his woman and he wasn’t talking about with his penis. Some might not have felt that connected to a woman so don’t understand that. Unfortunately some people will never know how to totally connect to a woman because they think it is physical penetration through a sexual act.