I often hear from lesbians who don't enjoy certain sexual activities. "Is there anything wrong with me?" they want to know. Especially if they're newly out, they wonder if they'll be able to find someone who is compatible. This week I got a letter from a young lesbian. She's had sex with men before and didn't like penetration. She has a fantasy of what it's like to be with a woman, but wonders if her preference for not wanting things inside her makes her weird.
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Hi i am in a lesbian relationship and has been with men before and didn’t enjoy penetration but my partner introduced me into toys that is penetration and i enjoy it wit her waht’s up with that
Probably the difference here is basically the difference between men and women. Women are far more likely to take your pleasure as well as their own into consideration. It’s much nicer that way. Men ( the few men I slept with, I think because I thought I was supposed to) many, MANY years ago, always left me thinking “Is that all there is?” After I got honest with myself and said, “Self, why don’t you just admit that you are as queer as little green horses and try enjoying the rest of your life?” And boy, was I right! There is a whole lot more to it than what I had then. Just relax and enjoy what you enjoy. It’s OK to do that and you don’t have to worry about being weird because you like something different than you did before. Your partner is a good woman. Hang on to her.
You can find lots of pleasure, have perfect sex and fabulous orgasms without penetration. There are many women like you, but they don’t dare to tell. Some female lovers find it hard to accept, indeed. A bit narrowminded and stupid, if you ask me, because you don’t need penetration to have an orgasm or be happy together. Be very clear! Speak up for yourself! Don’t let others make you feel miserable about it. Have lots of fun in bed!