Custody: If you are involved in a custody battle the risk of losing your child is real. Lesbian parents often have no protection in a homophobic legal system. If you think your former spouse will use your sexual orientation against you in the courtroom, you may want to keep this information from him. In this instance, delaying coming out to your children may be the wisest move. If he already is trying to use this against you in the courtroom, contact Lambda Legal Defense for a lawyer referral.
Partner: When parents split, it is normal for the child to harbor some hostility toward a new partner. This is no different for same-sex relationships. If you’ve recently broken off from the child’s father, don’t expect your child to be as excited about your new love as you are.
Homophobia: Just as we are subject to violence and discrimination, so are our children. By coming out to their teachers, friend’s parents and neighbors can set your children up for school-yard taunting. Be sure to let your children know you are ready to talk to them if this happens and remind them that it is your job to protect them, not their job to protect you.
