Dear Lesbian Life:
I have always been bisexual but never acted on it until 12 years ago. I find both sexes very attractive. I been in many relationships before and nine months ago I found a woman that I really like and developed a relationship with. We now live together. She has been asking me if I still feel I am bisexual. I said yes and she was upset. She said she fears I will go out with a man. I told her after we moved in together that I guess if we are going to be together I am a lesbian. Was that wrong to ease her fears? I still feel bisexual.Dear Bi Girl,
Well, you weren’t wrong to ease her fears, but you were wrong to mislead her into thinking you’re not bisexual anymore. There are many myths about bisexuals, one of which is because they are attracted to both sexes that they can’t be faithful to one. This is simply not true. You missed an opportunity to educate your girl.But don’t worry. It’s not too late. If you have a monogamous relationship, then you have agreed that you will be faithful to her. When people are in relationships, they still can find others attractive, they just have an agreement that they will not act on those attractions. It matters not if the attraction is to a man or a woman.
What Does it Mean to be Bisexual?
Sit your girlfriend down and explain to her what being bisexual means to you. Assure her that you want to be with her and be faithful to her, but that doesn’t change your sexual orientation. Even if you never touch another man again, that doesn’t mean that you aren’t bisexual. You are. Feeling like you have to hide a part of yourself to remain in a relationship is not a good for either of you.Your partner should love and respect you for who you are. Her fears are not necessarily her fault. There is a lot of misinformation and prejudice out there about bisexuals. Use this as an opportunity to educate.
