Now, I have developed an interest in women...I mean like I want to have relationship with them, but still I’m interested in men too. Oh, gosh, I don't know what I am anymore!
I never have a boyfriend or even a girlfriend at all...this is crazy. Please help me understand who I am or what I am...here is another thing, I’m interested to both men and women who are twice my age. I’m 23.
Tomboy Blues
Dear Tommy
Like you, I was a tomboy growing up. I had five older brothers and liked to tag along with them riding bikes, fishing, playing kickball and dodge ball. I don’t know if there is a connection between being a tomboy and being a lesbian, but that certainly is the stereotype. However, I do think there are plenty of girls who enjoy sports and roughhousing who end up being straight.What I’d pay more attention to is your attraction to women. If you’re attracted to both men and women, chances are you’re bisexual. My advice to you is to just try that label on. Look at yourself in the mirror and say to yourself, “I’m bi.” Write it in your journal. Tell a close friend.
And then get out there and start meeting women. Men too. Hit up a lesbian club, join a softball team or watch football with a group of lesbians.
Date men too. You may eventually find that you are more attracted to one sex or the other, or you may find that you’re full-blooded bi. Either way, it’s all good.
