But after five years in the lesbian community, I'm starting to regret coming out of the closet. Since I was a little girl, I've always fantasized about beautiful, feminine women (I'm feminine myself) and when I came out, I imagined that the lesbian community was filled with beautiful, attractive women. The same type of women that I see every day at work or in other social gatherings.
Where are all the Femmes?But I must say that I am very disappointed. Most feminine women I meet are either straight or bisexual and most lesbians I meet are masculine and unattractive. They are also frequently overweight (not always), makeup is like kryptonite to them, they smoke, drink too much, are frequently unfaithful and sleep with ex-girlfriends and many have weird psychological issues like violent behaviors.
I'm telling myself, what's the use of having left a man to be with a bunch of women who look, act and smell like men? Gay guys have access to plenty of handsome masculine gay men who look like men. Why don't I have access to beautiful, feminine lesbians? Where are they hiding? Where can I meet them if they exist? I'm convinced that there would be much more lesbians if the community was filled with beautiful women and not mullet sporting, flannel wearing, chain smoking dykes. -
Dear Mirror Image,
At first I was a bit insulted by your letter. Go back and read it again and see if you can see why I felt that way. I can understand your frustration at not finding a woman you are compatible with, but why must you insult other lesbians in the process?
I know everyone has a type that they are attracted to. Feminine women float your boat, and that is just fine. But to say that butch women look and smell like men is just plain mean. And why are you discounting bisexuals?
It sounds to me like you are hanging out in places where dysfunctional lesbians congregate. Yes, the lesbian bar is often a place with lots of drinking, smoking and high drama. I dont think its always the best place to start a relationship. You dont tell me where you are looking. Try some of these places to meet lesbians.
Where to meet feminine lesbiansJust because you havent found a feminine woman, doesnt mean they are not out there. Have you tried internet dating? Read through these comments and see how many women met their girlfriends through online dating services.
I dont know where you live, but I would suggest checking out Dinah Shore or Girlbar in Los Angeles next year. The crowd may be a bit younger than you are, but trust me, the hot sexy feminine girls are everywhere.