- Keep notes. Before you even put pen to paper, think about the feeling you want to express to your lover. Jot down ideas when they come to you of specific things you want to mention. Take a few days to just ponder her.
Be descriptive. Think of a specific instance and recall how you were feeling. Tell her that in your own words. "The first time I saw you across the room, I couldn't speak. I forgot where I was in the story I was telling and all I could do was follow you with my eyes all night."
Get creative. While saying "I Love You" is nice, find a unique way to say exactly how you feel. Try to avoid cliches like butterflies in your stomach and "the world stopped when I saw you."
Get Personal. What is it you love about her? What are her best qualities? Tell her.
Direct it at her. It's good to say how you feel, but don't forget to tell her about her. Describe the thing about her that drives you crazy, the way her eyes light up a room or the great sense of humor she has. Again be specific. "Your chicken parmesan is the best in all of Kansas," or "The way you dance is sexier than Shakira."
Get Sexy. Without getting too graphic. Tell her what it is that is attractive to you. Her hair. Her eyes. The way she fills out a pair of jeans.
Add poetry. Try your hand at writing her a simple verse. If you're not a poet yourself, quote from another poet or a song that makes you think of her.
Write from your heart. Don't worry so much about if you get it perfect. Just make sure it's sincere.
Fess up. If the reason you're writing this letter is because you messed up and are trying to win back her graces, be sure to own your mistakes and promise not to take her for granted again.
Love her! Don't forget to tell her you love her.
Add a personal touch. Decorate it with photos of the two of you together or images from magazines that remind you of her.
- Write it out ahead of time on scrap paper. Scratch out, write and re-write until you have it perfect.
- Don't email it. Hand write it on fancy paper or a card and add a touch of your cologne if you wear it.
- Send it in the mail. There's something special about receiving a personal letter in the mail these days.
- Offer to read it out loud to her after she receives it.
- Don't get too heavy, especially if you haven't been dating all that long. You want it to sound thoughtful, not like a stalker.
What You Need
- Nice paper
- Her address