What is a Play Party?
Play parties are a sexual play ground for big kids.Why attend an Adult Play Party?
Who attends Adult Sex Play Parties? Play parties tend to come from two different cultural origins: The BDSM community and the Swinger community. The former is very sexually diverse and has queer and gender specific parties and groups and the latter is culturally couple-oriented and heterosexual, although all member's sexual activities may not be.Where Does One Find Sex Parties?
Either one can be found by searching online under BDSM or Swingers and your city. If nothing comes up, try the closest larger city. These organizations will have Meet & Greet events where you can check the scene out, find out about play parties, and what their rules of engagement are. This is a screening process to make sure there is compatibility on both sides. Most groups are happy to have new members, so no need to be shy about being a newbie. Clear communication makes it easier for everyone. For example, you can ask whether it is ok to come to a BDSM party when you just want to have sex, some groups are fine with that, some are not.How to Get Involved in a Play Party
Once you find a group or groups you'd like to explore, check out their website. Most of them will have an etiquette page. There will be rules which are pretty much universal (e.g. No means no, ask before you touch) and ones that are specific to the culture (e.g. BDSM : when approaching a Dom/sub relationship, speak to the Dom; Swingers: couples must arrive and leave together). Most parties invite voyeurism, that's part of the fun, but from a respectful distance. Inching closer and closer in hopes of an invitation is not ok. If you want to play with the folks involved, wait till their scene is done and then approach them to extend an invitation of your own. When I want to play with a person or a group of people at a party I simply approach them and say "I would like to play with you at some point this evening, if you'd like to as well, just let me know". Then I walk away. This makes it easy for them to say yes or no. If they want to play with me, they know the answer in advance, if the answer is no, all they have to do is nothing. This strategy avoids the awkwardness that we all want to avoid. Be clear on what your safe sex guidelines are and communicate them clearly. Every one does not have, nor should have, the same boundaries. The more stringent boundaries trump.When do Play Parties Happen?
When attending a play party much depends on the size of the play space. A professional play space is going to be much larger and well equipped than a home party. But generally there will be an area for changing (so you don't have to wear your slut clothes in the cab over), equipment intensive play (slings, bondage stations, etc) for a BDSM party, a covered bed/futon area for sex, as well as a snack/socialize non-sex area for rejuvenation.If play parties are of interest to you, for whatever reason, take it for a spin and find out if it is a good outlet for you. Expect to be a little nervous, that's fine, that's true of any new experience. Group erotic energy can be fun, sexy and healing all at once. Enjoy.
