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Sexing a married woman: Lesbian Advice Needed

How Do I Make the First Move?

By Kathy Belge, About.com

Dear Kathy,
I am a 22 year-old female. I have an interest in a friend of mine whom just recently told me she had an interest in me. I am single, consider myself to be bisexual though all of my physical activity has been with males thus far. She on the other hand is married and has had a few lesbian experiences already. I am new at this whole thing. I know that she wants me to make the first move which I am okay with. But it scares the hell out of me because I don’t know what I am doing. It’s not really the question of what do I do when I am down there… I think I basically understand. I do worry about doing it correctly and if she will like it.

How Do I Make The First Move

But the problem is more of how do I make the first move? She is married which is a bad deal yes, I know but aside from that I need to know how to make that move? Is it okay to hold her hand? To cuddle before or afterwards? Do I kiss her goodbye? Or what do I do? I don’t think that this will be a one-time thing and I want to make sure I don’t look completely inexperienced at this. What do I expect? Please help!!

Signed,
Longing for my Married Friend

Dear Longing:

Yes, kiss her. Kiss her goodbye. Now, before you even kiss her hello. Messing around with someone’s marriage is nothing to take lightly. It’s disrespectful at the least, dangerous at it’s worst.

Ask yourself what you want to get out of this? If the answer is drama, heartbreak, messing with your life and an innocent third party (her husband), then by all means make your move.

Instead, I suggest you have a little integrity. If you want to make it with a woman for the first time, find a woman who is single. Then and only then, do I suggest you check out First Time Lesbian Sex Tips

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