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I feel like I have to Pee During Sex

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Dear Kathy Belge,

“I feel like I’m going to pee during sex”

My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years, and we are happily in love! Within the last 3 months however, we've encountered a problem sexually. I love it when my girlfriend is inside me with her fingers. One lovemaking session while she was inside me I urinated on her hand a little bit.

“Every time she’s inside me, I feel like I have to pee”

After that, every time she went inside it felt good, but then it would feel like I had to urinate. This had never happened before. It just happened out of the blue. I tried going to the bathroom and then resuming but I still felt like I had to go. This has happened more than once since then, but I stop before I think I am going to urinate. However, we've had times where it doesn't happen too.

“Is my mind playing tricks on me?”

I'm not sure if it is just my mind playing tricks on me, or if it actually is a problem. Nothing that we are doing is different, the only thing that is different is that I now feel like I have to urinate. My girlfriend doesn't care if I actually do urinate on her, but I just would love to go back to not worrying about it and just enjoy the feeling! Is this common or am I weird? If you could give me some suggestion I would really appreciate it!


Dear Jill:

If your partner is putting pressure on your bladder during sex, it’s possible it feels like you need to pee. But more likely, you are experiencing a much sought-after female sexual experience: Female Ejaculation.

With her fingers inside you, your girlfriend is stimulating your G-Spot, which can cause a really intense orgasm and female ejaculation.

Here’s what I suggest. Before hitting the sheets with your gal, be sure to urinate. If the urge to pee comes up, head to the bathroom and try to empty your bladder. This should ease your mind about peeing in bed.

If when you resume lovemaking, you still feel like you have to urinate, it’s most likely that your lover has hit your G-Spot. If she keeps the stimulation going, this can lead to an earth-shattering orgasm.

For some women, G-Spot stimulation causes an emission from the urethra of a clear fluid. It is not urine, but female ejaculate. The fluid may trickle, or spurt, be a few drops or a flood. The ejaculation may occur before, during or after orgasm.

The next time your lover has her fingers inside you and you feel like you need to pee, you may be tempted to stop, but the trick to reaching the ultimate G-Spot orgasm is to keep going. Try to put your fears aside and let her bring you to the pinnacle of pleasure.

Do you have a love or relationship question? Send me an email lesbianlife@aboutguide.com and I’ll try to answer your question.

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