My girlfriend and I have been together for six months now. We have already had sex. My problem is that my girlfriend doesn’t shave 'down there' and it’s not very pleasant to go down on her. I can hardly see what I'm doing! Don't get me wrong I love her to death but I don’t want to tell her and hurt her feelings or embarrass her. How can I tell her that she needs to shave in a polite way that won’t hurt her or embarrass her (if there is a way)?
Tomboy
Dear Tomboy
I'm really glad you wrote in because the way you worded this you are bound to offend her! First you need to know that she doesn't "need" to shave. Shaving or not shaving is a personal choice. She can do it for you if you ask and she wants to, but one should never insist that one alter her body for her partner's sake.Everyone has a different preference about shaving. Some like to go hairless, others like to shape and trim, while others prefer a full and natural bush. There is not right or wrong here, just personal preference. Lesbians have been having oral sex for centuries and as far as I can tell, it’s only recent that shaving became in vogue.
My first question for you is, why do you insist that she change to meet your preference? If you preferred blondes, would you ask your brown-haired girlfriend to dye her hair? Perhaps you should try to see what is appealing and sexy about her body the way it is.
But, if you really do want her to have smooth vulva, you can tell her that you'd like to shave her. This can be an extremely erotic thing. Tell her you're curious about what it would feel like for her to be smooth and offer to do it for her.
But what ever you do, don't insist. And make sure she knows you love her no matter what her bush looks like.
By the way, this question came up a year or so ago. You can check out the discussion and the poll here.
