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Tips For Spicing up Your Lesbian Sex Life

Tips for Keeping Sex Interesting and Exciting


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Spice Up Your Lesbian Sex Life

Dear Lesbian Life:

My girlfriend and I have been together for almost two years. I had never been with anyone before her and neither had she. We learned a lot together and have enjoyed experimenting. Because we have never been with anyone else or men before, we feel sometimes like we are missing something. We love each other but the sex can be boring sometimes. I think we are a good match and we complete each other in some ways but I am afraid that the sex thing will eventually drive us apart. But we have so much more in common. What can we do? Please help!

Dear Lesbian Lovers

It’s true that your sex life can become monotonous and boring if you keep doing the same thing over and over. The good news is that there are a lot of resources to help you expand your sexual repertoire. Here are just a few to check out.

Lesbian Sex Manuals

Like most things, sex is a skill and a little education goes a long way. Here are some great lesbian sex books to help you and your lover understand how your body functions, learn different sexual techniques and figure out some new ways to turn each other (and yourself) on.
  • The Whole Lesbian Sex Book by Felice Newman. Newman’s book is the quintessential lesbian sex resource manual. Every lesbian should own it.
  • On Our Backs Guide to Lesbian Sex edited by Diana Cage. This guide covers everything from kissing to kinky.
  • The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex by Fairy Butch. If you’ve considered introducing dildos into your bedroom, this book will tell you everything you need to know to get started.
  • Lesbian Sex 101 by Jude Schell. Lots of pictures to pique your imagination and get the juices flowing.
  • The Survivor’s Guide to Sex by Staci Haines. Although not specifically for lesbians, The Survivor’s Guide is a good resource for anyone who has a history of sexual abuse.

Lesbian Sex Tips and Guidance

Complacency can be a libido killer. No matter how good a lover you are, you can always get better or try something new. Here are a few lesbian sex tips to spice things up in the bedroom.

Lesbian Porn and Erotica

Watching or reading about how other lesbians do it can spark new ideas for you and your lover, not to mention, get you in the mood. Check out some of these lesbian erotic videos and books.
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