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I'm Falling In Love with My Best Friend

What Should I Do?


Best Friends in Love

Best Friends in Love

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Updated April 25, 2012
Dear Emily,

I have recently started falling for one of my friends and I am very afraid I am going to ruin our friendship. We haven’t had sex, but we got very close the other night and kissed. I can’t stop thinking about her! I think about her every minute of the day and I am constantly smiling, I really don’t want to ruin our friendship. What should I do?

Tempted in Torrance

Dear Tempted,

No—definitely not. Are you nuts? You should stay single and alone. Who needs connection and love and crap like that anyway? Better off keeping your guard up, remaining platonic and playing it safe. It is too scary of a world out there to be taking chances like that!

Okay, seriously. Realistically, the best relationships we see are those that evolve from very close friendships. The goal for a life partner is to have the trifecta of sex, love and friendship. You already have one of them, so you are already ahead of the game.

Go for it. Make the move on your friend. Don’t be a chicken. What is the worst that could happen? Life without risk may as well be lived in a cave. Friends, shmends! Get over it and get laid!

Emily Wilcox is a lesbian advice columnist and author of 100 Lesbians Walk Into a Bar.... Follow her at @100lesbians on Twitter

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