I was wondering if you could help me out with my situation as I have passed confused and am heading for hopeless. Here goes:
In August I made a comment about a youtube video and we started emailing each other. Ee discovered that we were both Greek only she's living in DC and I'm in Greece. Anyway after about a month of friendly banter we exchanged emails and then a few weeks after that names, cellphones and pictures. We practically text each other everyday now and have talked on the phone. She is great, funny, cute, sexy, beautiful, 38 yrs old and a lesbian where on the other hand I'm 26, probably bi and have never had a relationship with a woman (sigh!!).
The thing is, I feel so weird, all I keep thinking about is how much I wish I could kiss her, but I've never done this whole online thing. I don't trust the web at all because I know what lurks beneath, yet here I am having phone calls and being totally smitten with a woman I hardly know. I tried to end our communication three times and she respected it, only I couldn't handle it and caved in each time. I feel like I've lost control over myself because I don't find my behavior normal.
Is this normal? Can you honestly say you can fall in love with someone you've never met? I also feel like such a hypocrite because I've been warning my friends to stay off the online dating scene, yet here I am doing exactly that. I also can't handle all these feelings I have for this woman, something I've never really felt before for anyone-I feel like I know her.
In Love with a Fox
Dear Fox Lover,
I love this story! You were so sure that you could not find love online and then you went and found it. And you weren’t even looking. Ha, ha!Yes, it is possible to fall in love with someone online. I've seen it happen many times. You can read some stories of couples meeting online in our How We Met Section. So, no, you're not crazy. It’s also important to note that you’ve taken this beyond online. You’re talking on the phone and texting. Even though you have never met, you are getting to know on another.
You are right to be cautious and enter into this with a bit of healthy skepticism. This person does live a continent away.
The most important thing is to pay attention to your gut. Proceed with healthy caution, but falling in love involves risk. Be smart and don't give her too much personal information, like your home address or your credit card numbers! But do continue to talk to her, get to know her better and if you continue to hit it off, plan to meet her. Hell, if nothing else, you might have a wonderful vacation somewhere.
