You've decided to marry the woman of your dreams. It's time to start thinking about the wedding bands that you will each wear. Buying a wedding ring for your lesbian wedding is nothing to be taken lightly. Remember, you could be wearing these every day for the rest of your life.
Time Required: At least three months before your wedding day
- Decide on your budget. Tradition said a man should spend two months salary on an engagement ring. Then again, you're not a man and lesbian weddings are not traditional. (Not yet, anyway.) Don't break the bank, but remember your wedding band is something that will be with you always.
- Decide on a style. Do you want something traditional? Something rainbow to show your colors? Do you want your rings to symbolize something meaningful to you? One friend had her ring designed to elicit the ocean. You and your bride may want matching bands, but they don't have to. Many couples pick out different bands for each other.
- Decide where you want to shop. You can go to a traditional jewelry store or you can shop on line. There are pros and cons to each. At a jewelry store, you'll be able to try a variety of rings on, but you may come across a salesperson encountering his first same-sex couple. On the Internet, you can shop at a variety of LGBT-friendly jewelry stores. Another option is to visit jewelers who set up shop at gay pride events.
- What material do you want your rings to be? Popular options are gold, silver and platinum. But you may find another material that speaks to you. Titanium and stainless steel are becoming popular. Also decide if your want diamonds or other precious stones in your ring. You may decide to resize a family heirloom or pick out antique rings. Some people have rings tattooed on their fingers. Be as unique as you want to be!
- Engraving. To truly personalize your rings, you can have them engraved with a special love saying, lyric to a song you both love or a traditional Latin saying.
- To ensure you buy the right size ring, wear a ring gage for a full day.
- Start shoppping for rings at least three months before your ceremony.