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Why Get Married if it's not Legal?


Why Get Married if it's not Legal?

Question: Why Get Married if it's not Legal?

If you live live in a place that doesn't recognize gay marriage, why bother to get married at all?

Answer: Sure, if you marry in a state that doesn't recognize it,  you won't be able to file a joint tax return or be eligible for each other's medical insurance, but does that mean you should not have a great commitment ceremony or lesbian wedding? Of course not! There are many reasons to get married. Here are just a few of them.

  • Marriage is something that society understands. When you say you're getting married, the true nature of your relationship becomes clear to your friends, family and co-workers.
  • Because lesbians and gay men have dreamed of lavish weddings as children, just as straight kids do.


  • There is something very powerful about proclaiming your intentions in front the people in your life.


  • It's a great excuse to throw a big party and have a lot of fun!
  • A wedding gives a couple a sense of security.
  • It gives our friends and family an opportunity to stand up for us and support us.
  • To make a political statement about gay and lesbian marriage.
  • It sends a good message to your children.


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