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Reader Stories: How did you come out to your parents?

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Coming out to our parents can be the toughest thing we gay, lesbian, bisexual and trans people have to do. How did you come out to your parents?

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I Told Them Just Before They Met My Partner

I just told them that "my friend" & I were on our way up for the weekend, and they'd only have to take one look at her to know that she was a lesbian, so in case you haven't put 2 & 2 together yet...…More

Someone Came Out to My Parents for Me

First I met her alone and tell her about this. She said that she knew it because she felt it...She promised me she wouldn't tell to my parents. Because I told her I was not ready but that I will do i…More

Was My Mom Really That Clueless?

Two years later 'we' got engaged. Meanwhile I got to grasp an idea of my mother's mentality, and I'd reached the point where I could anticipate any reaction she might have. My profile for her picture…More

My Ex-Husband Outed Me

With my dad it was more about what he saw than what I said. He saw this new person, full of life and more deeply in love than she ever thought was possible. He saw happy grandkids and smiles around t…More

Came Out to Parents on the Phone

I'm dating women; one in particular. Both were uncomfortable, but dismissive. Thought it was a "stage" I was going through. I think when they saw that I was going to have a baby with my partner, I wa…More

My Mom Caught Me with My Girlfriend

My mom, an extremely religious woman, caught me and my, at the time, girlfriend, making out in the basement while attempting to watch a movie. Maggie said she heard the door upstairs open but I didn'…More

My Mom Read my Texts and Found Out

I told them that I lied to protect myself because I wasn't ready to tell them. I told them that I never disrespected their house and that I'm still the same person they have raised me to be. I told t…More

I Was Afraid My Mom Would Never Talk to Me Again

I was nattering on for ages, about stupid stuff. She asked me what I really phoned her for and I just blurted it out! She said she'd known for quite some time but was just waiting for me to tell her!…More

She Saw Me Kiss My Girlfriend

I told my mom that nothing was different about me just that I love a different way. I explained to her that I only want her to accept me if that's what she wants I told her not to do it just for me. …More

Pronoun Switcheroo

"Dad, I'm in love! I've met my soulmate. He's funny, charming, honest...he's got a great job with the state bureau of narcotics, he has a B.A. degree, he loves to travel, his family is VERY close lik…More

My Sister Outed Me by Mistake

Luckily, my father was very accepting, and has told me he doesn't care if I like men or women. We've never actually had a discussion about it. My mother however, always brings it up (when we are in t…More

Coming Out to My Catholic Mother

I simply said, "Mom, I've been dating a girl for awhile." She was totally flabbergasted. She told me through tears, "People go to hell for that kind of stuff." (She is extremely religious catholic sc…More

My Mom Already Knew

Sitting nervously in the living room with them, I thought I might pass out. I couldn't spit it out. I squirmed and hemmed and hawed, and tried to say, "I have something to tell you..."My mother finis…More

I Came Out Impulsively

My mom didn't believe me, and then when it finally sunk in, she just started rambling, she mentioned some lesbian she knew who was mean to her. Then said she thinks its a phase. Overall she was in sh…More

My Mom Confronted Me

I first said "Well I have a lot of gay friends." But then I realized I had to come clean when she said to me "I was just wondering if Pat was your girlfriend." I just said "Yes mom she is." Things we…More

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