How did you come out to your parents?
Let me explain who I am, I was born with Intersex (Ovotestes) which is best described as having a partial uterus, one ovary, one testis, breasts, and sterile. It was discovered at the age of 11 that I was different than my brothers, after finding this out my mom had me live a secret life (stealth) for 35 years.
I was 46 when I sat my step mother down in the living room, we were laughing and having a pleasant time together. I brought out some photos of me dressed as my female side and I swear to god her face turned stone cold.
What did you say?
Plain and simple, having both genders isn't easy especially since the female side is 89%. My step mom didn't want to hear it and just said, why can't you be gay which I said I was, I am lesbian. For 8 months nothing was said to me from my dad and his wife. Then one day my step mom bought me some scented body wash with flowers and make up. My Dad still has a tough time with it, but uses the nouns correctly.
I was accepted by my brothers, sister and all my friends, I am still the same person with a different wrapper. I can be either male or female, I pass either way. I chose female because I am most comfortable this way. I am transitioning and my family and friends are supporting me along the way.
Advice
- Think things through before coming out, have facts in order.
- Have a place where you can stay if your parents and family kick you out.
- Have a therapist meet your parents, so it can be explained so they can understand.
- Be honest with yourself, are you happy hiding?
- My parents and family help me so much now, had it been 20 years earlier I may not be this lucky.
- My life hasn't changed much, always been hormones to balance my health.
- I am happier now that I came out in 2008, and I have my family and friends to thank.
