How did you come out to your parents?
I'm 17, I'm a senior in high school. I have a steady girlfriend of about three months (Though it feels like 3 years Ha!) and I'm out to almost everyone. No, I guess everyone knows. Ha! Either way. I think I was in the 8th grade when I came out to my parents. Rumors were spreading around the school (since I was a TOTAL tomboy and I told my respective "best" friends I was "bi") that I was a total lesbian. At the time, I was trying to be something I wasn't for society sakes. I decided, after I made my first commitment with a girl that I would come out to my parents.
What did you say?
"Hey mom, I just wanted you to know.. I'm gay. I have a girlfriend" My mom knew, I think. I've never had an interest in guys and I've always enjoyed being the center of attention when it came to girls. I was androgenous and looked very much like a boy so I liked that attention. Having them THINK that. My mom wasn't surprised, we talked about it.. First she said it might be a phase then later on, she said it was my lifestyle choice. She's been very very supportive and loves my girlfriend as her own child. At first it was very, very awkward.. When I'd go on dates and come back with a hickey or other signs.. But the more we talked about it, the better and closer we got. My dad on the other hand, for as much of a teddy bear he is, had no idea what to do with my news. It wasn't until the day he came home from work early and caught my ex and I together on the couch locked in a heated embrace that it sunk in.. He still skirts around those conversations. But he accepts it and loves me for it. He's like any dad, he doesn't want to see me hurt. Which, sadly, I have been many times from girls. But that's it. My parents took it great.
Advice
- With my parents, they are very open so I'm very lucky in that. One thing I would I could re-do is not come home with hickeys to explain awkwardly.
- My dad didn't handle it SO well, I think I would've eased him into it better than have him catch my girlfriend and I.
