How did you come out to your parents?
I am 15 and 1/2 years old. I am a female. I am obviously, as a teen still figuring out my sexuality, but for a while now I have noticed that I also find females attractive. I recently became friends with my mom's friend's daughter, who is gay, although we have never talked about it. I think it gave the extra push I needed to talk to my parents. I had mentioned a month ago to my mom that I sometimes thought that women were attractive, but didn't imply that I was gay or bisexual. Tonight, I wrote down some papers about my thoughts and feelings. I told my parents that I need to talk to them.
What did you say?
My exact words, as I had them written on paper as I was very nervous:
-"ok, I need to talk to you guys, but I am very nervous, so I don't want you to say anything until I'm done please. As you guys know, at my age I will begin to explore the opposite sex, which I have. But I also noticed that I show interest in the non-opposite sex, in women. I know this seems juvenile and stupid, but I want you guy to know that i am curious and interested, as i do with anything, I want to research it.
This is not me being provocative or promiscuious, this is me exploring my sexuality. I'm sorry if this makes you uncomfortable, but I feel I have the right to explore and research. I don't plan on reading any erotica novels, just fiction and non-fiction stories and such about bisexuality and lesbianism. In order to know how I feel, as this is very confusing for me, I need to research this for myself.
I don't expect to have your full support on this, but I need to know that you love me no matter what. This is confusing to me, so i am going to figure it out for myself. I wanted you both to be aware of my thoughts, feelings, and desires. This is no reflection on your parenting, this is just me exploring my sexuality. I am bisexual.
Advice
- I am not positive that I am gay, but I know that I am bisexual, so I am sorry if this came across differently to anyone.
- be honest with them
- realise that this may be hard for them to hear.
- tell them in person, and make sure you have their full attention
- communicate your thoughts and desires
- good luck!
- my parents and I have an excellent relationship, and always have so they said that as long as I realised that I was not allowed to date anyone (either gender) until I am 16, they are fine with it. They do want me to be careful, as with any relationship, sexually and mentally.
