How did you come out to your parents?
I told them i was gay on Christmas 2009 over Christmas dinner. I was 22 almost 23 that year.
It just so happened that the only family that was over that evening was just me and my mother and father.
I met my girlfriend when i was 19 and we had been together for 3 years before i told my parents. The question "are u gay?" had been asked many of a time before that Christmas dinner. My answer was always no. I wasn't ready to tell them before that. That night my mom asked me again this time she sounded like she really needed to know the truth so she asked me "please, i really need to know are u gay?"
What did you say?
me: "i answered back. Do you really want to know?
my mom: "yes"
my dad interrupted: "i don't really think we need to know."
me: "yes, I'm gay.'' (It was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. i told them about my relationship with my girlfriend and how long i had known"
some very harsh words where said that night, my dad asked that if me and my girlfriend could "just be friends instead, really good friends." my mom told me she would never accept it and said it was like she lost a daughter.
Advice
- make sure u have a good support system and maybe an alternative place to live just in case.
- its very hard to convince myself that the stress was worth it. but ultimately they needed to know and i needed to tell them.
- If ur waiting for the perfect moment to come out i have to say usually there isn't a perfect moment. I always made excuses that it wasn't the right time for me.
- my parents tolerate my lifestyle, and they love me but it isn't the same as it was before when i was their straight daughter. Upsetting but now I'm not living a lie anymore and I'm very happy living with my girlfriend of now 4 year.
