How did you come out to your parents?
I was 18 when I came out to my mum and step-dad. I'd been at University for a term and realized how happy I was living "out of the closet". I decided that I wanted this happiness to continue in my home life.
I had tried to come out to them plenty of times before but always found excuses; so this time I tired a different approach. I asked my sister, who had known I was gay for over a year, to tell them. I asked her to just do it, and tell me afterwards.
What did you say?
My sister literally said to my step-dad on the phone... "Daisy likes girls... How should i tell Mum?" My step-dad said he would tell her, but she didn't take it very well and well, shot the messenger.
Well, my mum didn't talk to me for a week, so I came home from uni to face the music, something I should have done at the beginning.
My mum is one of those people who lives in her own little world, a fantasy world. All she thought was that the world is going to look at my different, and she thought her baby girl was going to change.
When I did come home, me and my step-dad, who is absolutely fabulous, had a great talk about it all. However, he advised me maybe not talk about it to my mother. I got home, mum gave me a hug and we talked about normal things.
In some ways I wished we had talked about it, but also, I like the fact we didn't. It isn't a big dramatic thing for me. My life revolves around other things, not my sexuality. And my home life reflects that. My family knows, but it isn't a big deal.
Advice
- Your parents have the right to hear it from you.
- If you can't tell them, but want them to know, find someone sensitive and who knows your parents well.
- Everyone's coming out is personal. It all depends on you and your parents.
- Good Luck! :)
