How did you come out to your parents?
I was 22 when I came out to my mom. I had recently met my girlfriend and things were starting to develop, text messaging back and forth, emails, calls etc. I had never been the secretive type, but I guess my mom noticed me spending more and more time in my room alone or with my laptop instead of with everyone else watching TV, calls that would last late into the nights and so one day she took me aside and asked if everything was ok. I figured that would be as good a time as any, so that's when I told her.
What did you say?
I told her I was seeing someone new and as expected, she wanted to know all about him. So I stopped her and said "It's not a him mom, it's a her." My mom was upset for quite a long time, more than a year, until I finally was asked to move out.
Advice
- Since then however, my mom and I have begun to repair our relationship and she's even asked to speak with my girlfriend a few times. I'd say things are looking up for us. I don't think I would do anything differently if I had a second chance. It took me years to accept the fact that I'm gay and I anticipated no less from my mother when I came out to her. Thankfully, she has a good heart and although she may not fully understand or accept my lifestyle, she still loves me.
