How did you come out to your parents?
When I came out to my mom I was in 8th grade. I started having an attraction to girls in 6th grade but wasn't sure so didn't bring it up. In 8th grade I told my cousin, that I am really close to, and my sister ended up blurting it out to my mom one day...
Telling my Aunt was pretty funny. She already knew and when I told her she looked at me and said "Oh I've known for a while. Since they day you came home and were always talking about girls more then boys." We both cracked up and she met my girlfriend :) She absolutely loves her :)
Just about EVERYONE knows except for my grandma.. That's a hard one...
What did you say?
When my sister told my mom I had to explain, I told her that I had dated my best friend and I liked girls. She thought it was just one of those "following other people things" and said once I got into a serious relationship she would believe me more. Don't get me wrong, she believed me, and she is supportive to this day.
I am 16 and I am a Junior in High school. When I told my mom about my first serious relationship (a couple months ago) she took it more seriously then the first time. I am recently in a very serious relationship that has lasted for almost 3 months. My mom is EXTREMELY supportive and accepts me. It is hard, I will admit.
When she told her parents they didn't take it well. They made her "break up" with me. Her dad disowned her. Her sister and mom won't accept her. They make her go to counseling thinking they can change her. We have to hide from her mom since she thinks we aren't together anymore. We only see each other during school.
The night she told her mom she went to the park and I went to see her because it was so hard on her. Her mom and big sister followed her and caught us together. They just wouldn't accept her. That night I cried so hard and my mom held me all night knowing how bad it hurt to watch the one I love go through that.
My mom is more supportive then ever knowing that I have found the one I love no matter that she is a girl. I will stay by her side no matter what. I hate that her parents won't accept who she is but sometimes that is how it is, and hopefully it will get better for her and her mom will except the fact that she is Gay.
-Kristy <3
Advice
- Come out when you are ready, no need to rush
- accept that it is going to be hard and face it
- follow your heart
- Not all parents are as accepting as some
- Not all PEOPLE are accepting
- Be careful
