How did you come out to your parents?
I used to hate being gay, I convinced myself it was a phase and it would pass so kept it to myself for years. The day I came out to my parents was a very eventful day. I had gotten myself drunk to tell my friend how I really felt about her at college and my poor mother had to come and pick me up. I was 17. When we got home and I had had a little sleep my mum came into my room. She looked me in the eye and said "Did you get drunk to tell your friend you liked her?" I started crying and replied "yes". My mum then cried too and cuddled me. So basically, my mum outed me!
What did you say?
I then explained to my mum how I'd liked girls for years but just didn't know how to tell people. My mum told me that it was probably just a phase until I met Mr Right. My mother and I are very close so she did take it really badly. A few times she would come into my room, look at me and cry and walk back out again. Each time we talked about it she would say the same thing, "You probably haven't found the right man yet". It was tough for me but apart from this topic, my mum and I were the best of friends. My mum and dad divorced when I was 6 and after I told my mum, I had the task of coming out to my dad. I went round there and just blurted it out to him and my step mother. He came and gave me a massive cuddle and said "A gay daughter or a straight daughter, I still love you". He hasn't batted an eyelid since which makes my life much easier.
The conversations with my mum a lot of the time left me feeling angry and hurt. I desperately tried to tell her that it wasn't my choice but this is who I am and I cannot change it. She would always bring up how she dreamed I'd have a big white wedding with the man of my dreams and have lots of beautiful children. I explained to her I can still do all this but she always says yes but it won't be right. I think she just finds it really difficult to understand and its such a shame as we really do get on so well and have lots of laughs together.
Advice
- Things have really changed since I came out when I was 17. I am now nearly 21 and in a very happy relationship with a woman. We have been together for just over 2 years and I do think she is the one.My mum and dad both adore her but my mum is still struggling a little with the whole thing. She won't allow my girlfriend to stay overnight and we're not allowed in my room but she does get along with her. My dad is completely cool with it and lets my girlfriend round all the time. My mum and I still have a good relationship and no matter what happens I know she'll love me no matter what because I am her daughter.
