How did you come out to your parents?
I never had to say anything face to face-unfortunately. My mother went through my things one day in high school and found notes from my girlfriend at the time(someone whom she wasn't fond of as merely a friend). When I got home from my part time job she made me give her directions to my girlfriend's house and sit outside in the car while she went inside and told my girlfriend's mom that I wasn't allowed to see my girlfriend ever again. We snuck around behind her back on again off again for almost 3 years after that, and eventually broke up when I realized she wasn't a nice person.
What did you say?
When the notes were initially found, my mom asked me what the heck was going on, and I said "She's my girlfriend what do you mean you don't get it?"....My mom flew off the handle, and inserted herself into everything I did-following me to work, taking away my cell phone, checking who and when I made calls, etc. My dad at least tried to protect my decision, but there's no stopping my mom when she gets something into her mind. That whole situation was really scarring for me. Thankfully, I'm now 22 and have been with my current partner for over a year. My mom and my dad absolutely LOVE her. It turns out mom wasn't so opposed to the idea of me being gay as she was just not a fan of my first girlfriend.(Rightly so) I am happier than I've ever been and even more so now that I understand that my family accepts and loves me for who I am.
Advice
- Be honest. Your parents are supposed to love you, no matter what and eventually they'll come around(especially if they see how happy your partner makes you)
- Make sure that you stick to your guns, if they don't listen the first time, give them some space and bring it up after they've had time to think about it.
