How did you come out to your parents?
I was 34 years old. (last year) I haven't come out. I am still married, in a process of divorce and when I realised what I felt for my best friend (girl friend), my parents and family already suspected what was going on. I was still confused and in denial. They confronted us seperately and interigated my girlfriend alone with questions and ultimatums.
What did you say?
My parents told me that if what they suspect is true and that I am having a relationship with a girl they will alienate me and disown me from my family and friends. So. I denied it, although I knew they did not believe me.
They tormented us with ugly sms'e and they alianted us from the family. They have moved on as if they don't have a daughter.
I tried to contact them, but they won't accept that I have a relationship with my best (girl) friend, the person who they new for years and treated as their own daughter. They felt betrayed? Why I don't understand. I am / we are still the same persons. To have a same sex relationship doesn't make you a different person.
They still hate my partner. I think that the whole situation is more complicated, being that my best (girl) friend is my brother's wife's sister. At the time when we started out as being friends a few years ago - she weren't family. Only 2 years ago her sister hooked up with my brother and then they got married
Last year we only realised what we felt for each other.
Advice
- I don't have a family anymore - a family that previously was so close, now moved on without me.
- I should have confronted my parents before they confronted me. I should have had more guts to do so. Everything happened so fast. While I was trying to figure out on my own what had happened to me, my parents were already telling the whole world what they suspected.
- This whole interaction with my family made me sad and depressed and made me a harder person.
- Everyone I know tells me that it is wrong according to the Bible. If this is true - why am I (for the 1st time in a long time) so happy?
