How did you come out to your parents?
It happened when I was 17 after falling madly in love with a girl over a social networking site. I knew she was speaking to other girls and wasn't overly concerned with me, so I hitched a huge plan to woo her into my arms. Throughout all of this my relationship with my parents had been deteriorating, I barely talked to them anymore and we spent many hours arguing because as parents do, they knew something was up. However I wasn't ready to tell them as I was convinced they wouldn't understand. However unbeknownst to me, my brother had read all my emails and texts to this girl and begged me not to visit her.
What did you say?
So as you do when your young, I payed absolutely no attention to the good advice offered and went straight ahead with my plans. I took a three hour train trip to meet a girl who I had never seen, barely knew and was sure didn't even like me. And it was the best decision of my life, she was everything I had dreamed of and we had the most amazing connection. But then my parents found out, dragging me home at 4am with huge love bites down my neck and they where understandably heart broken. My brother and his wife disowned me for a while, I was forced to tell the girl I would never see her again and for the most part no one would talk to me which just confused matters. Me and my families relationship got better although the subject of my sexuality was never brought up again and I don't believe I'll ever regain their trust. It also didn't help that I was so stubborn, I knew I couldn't rest till I saw that girl again, I just couldn't help myself. I spent many months traveling 200 miles every other week in secret just to spend a few hours with her. In fact its our two year anniversary tomorrow! I have been living away from home for a year now, so me and my girl live closer together and can see each other most of the time. As things have calmed on the homefront, I hope to soon bring up the subject again, as I would love for my partner to be able to meet my family properly as we have both changed over the years and I still haven't had a chance to say sorry for upsetting them the way I did.
Advice
- Find a balance between your loved one and your loved ones.
- Persevere! Whatever you do never give up on those you care about.
- Use some common sense, I wish I had.
- And never get caught red handed, it only serves to make everything awkward.
