How did you come out to your parents?
I came out when I was about 13 years old. At this time, I began a relationship with my first girlfriend (while I was seeing someone else). My mother and I were always very close, so I knew I had to tell her. I was so scared and nervous, I had no idea how she would react.
What did you say?
The next day, I worked up the courage and went to talk to her. She was sitting on the computer, so I went up behind her and began.
"Mom, I think I am bi."
She immediately questioned me and then told me that I didn't know what I wanted and that I could not have made a decision like that then. Scared and confused, I agreed with her and did not speak of it again. Then, during my senior year, after a few secret girlfriends and two serious boyfriends, I found "the one." We began hanging out and started getting serious. When then both decided to tell our parents. I was so scared because not only was I coming out to my mom, but it was the 2nd time!
We were at my cousin's wedding and I decided I needed to tell her. As we were on the dance floor, I looked at my mom.
"Mom?"
"Yeah?"
"You know, &$(*@(girlfriend's name)?..Well, she's not just my friend"
"I know"
She then embraced me with a hug, we went outside, and then we talked. She told me that she knew but was waiting for me to come and say something to her. She supports what I do and is glad that I am happy. We are now engaged, and my mom is thrilled to begin planning for our wedding.
Advice
- Come into this process with an open mind. If you and your parents are very close, chances are they already know.
- Don't hold back. Trying to hide your sexuality is rough and sometimes impossible. Just speak from the heart and hopefully, you will feel so much better
- Good luck!
